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Since we cannot post on here looking for someone to share a cabin, what are sites that are active where you could find someone? I've already tried Meetup groups. I posted an ad on Craigslist and had men or bicurious women contact me (I shouldn't laugh lol).

 

There's a cruise I want to go on, but really would only do it if I could find someone to split the room with.

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I would nott share a cab in with a girl friend of decades so definitley not with a strranger. I fear too man y ttraps by doing so. I am not trusting enough. to live with someone I never met and know nothing a about..:eek:

 

My friend and I sailed in July on Veendam. We both booked suites as solos and chose to not share..

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I would nott share a cab in with a girl friend of decades so definitley not with a strranger. I fear too man y ttraps by doing so. I am not trusting enough. to live with someone I never met and know nothing a about..:eek:

 

My friend and I sailed in July on Veendam. We both booked suites as solos and chose to not share..

 

Thanks for your input. Very helpful.

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Hi

 

While I might be hijacking this thread, I would think the OP might be interested in some responses as well.

 

If you were willing to consider cruising with a "stranger", what sort of precautions/ground rules would you think to have agreed upon prior to trying make any booking. I could see getting to know someone, somewhat, over some time through email, to see what likes/dislikes may be in common. After all, some people find life partners this way, and I am just talking about going on a vacation together. There wouldn't even need to be a commitment to spend time together (especially if you find you don't get along after a day).

 

I have seen many posts over the years where cabin mates have messed up others plans, even with family members. Sometimes "trusting" might be hard, but really you have to understand what it is that you are concerned about. If you simply don't want to share your (cabin) space, then I can see how bunking with someone wouldn't work.

 

If you were however willing to try, how would you envision this working?

 

thanks for comments

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Hi

 

While I might be hijacking this thread, I would think the OP might be interested in some responses as well.

 

If you were willing to consider cruising with a "stranger", what sort of precautions/ground rules would you think to have agreed upon prior to trying make any booking. I could see getting to know someone, somewhat, over some time through email, to see what likes/dislikes may be in common. After all, some people find life partners this way, and I am just talking about going on a vacation together. There wouldn't even need to be a commitment to spend time together (especially if you find you don't get along after a day).

 

I have seen many posts over the years where cabin mates have messed up others plans, even with family members. Sometimes "trusting" might be hard, but really you have to understand what it is that you are concerned about. If you simply don't want to share your (cabin) space, then I can see how bunking with someone wouldn't work.

 

If you were however willing to try, how would you envision this working?

 

thanks for comments

Ideally I would want someone to live somewhat near me to get coffee or whatever. If it was just a stranger, I'd ask to see their Facebook to get an idea of who they are.

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Hi all, I have cruised solo up till now (4 cruises) but met a lady twice my age also from NZ on a 20 day cruise from Chile back to NZ earlier this year. We realised that we got on well enough that we would try a cruise together to keep costs down so have booked one in March 2018. We are both quite quiet people, both early risers & reasonably active ie like walking the deck. I tend to spend more time in the cabin to get away from people & she is only in the cabin at night. Neither of us snore. We felt this was enough to give it a go.

 

Cheers, Kelly

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There are internet travel agency's that specialize in singles cruises. They match people up who want to share cabins. I've heard lots of positives experiences. I prefer my own cabin and would. OT want to risk getting a bad roomie, but it works out well for many.

 

 

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If someone has een brave enough to do so, would you tell us about your expedience, please? Prefereably, female.... ;)

 

I dont consider it "brave" - its not exactly climbing Everest or fire fighting.

 

Back in the mid 80s when I first started cruising as a solo teen P&O would sell cabins as "friendly fours" so you could book a berth and be paired up with 3 other similar aged females (or males obviously if you were one). I utilised that service many times over the years - and some of those cabin mates who started off as strangers are still my besties to this day - others I never had contact with again after the end of the voyage.

 

These days I do polar expedition travel and to save on the very prohibitive solo supplement all expedition companies make the same offer for twin, triple and quad cabins - you buy a berth rather than a whole pricey cabin. I chose a twin because one person is more than enough for me.

 

I also do escorted tour travel and choose to be paired up with a stranger to save the supplement on hotel costs.

 

At the end of the day all you are doing is sharing a room - you make your own decision about whether you actually want to become life long friends or not.

 

My "general rule" is to not actually hang out with the cabin mate through the day or evening (unless we really hit it off). I head out and do my own thing and then last thing at night we may chat about how our day was before lights out. That way I am still very much on "my" holiday - not someone elses. And I have watched on some polar trips where the paired up people kinda befriend each other immediately and stay glued at the hip then a week into a 4 week trip they are sick of each other.

 

There are loads of websites and facebook groups out there for people to find other same gender people who are simply interested in reducing costs on a voyage. On FB is you search "cruise buddies" you should find a few.

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If someone has een brave enough to do so, would you tell us about your expedience, please? Prefereably, female.... ;)

 

 

Please do not have negative attitudes about meeting a cruise mate on the internet. You already have something in common... you both like cruising. Most of us have had an occasion to share space with someone, just respect their area. Yes, there will be differences and accept and respect that. It is also good for both to do their own things as well as share.

Finding a cruise mate on the internet can create a wonderful relationship. My traveling companion for many years and I met on a cruise website. Between December 2005 and December 2016, we shared 41 cruises plus we had five booked for January / February 2017. However, she passed away in December. I am thankful that I met her and of the time we shared. At the time we met, she was disabled and I was still playing able bodied. By our second cruise, I had my own scooter.

She was so anxious when we first corresponded, I was hesitant, so I called her. She sounded like a normal person and someone I would like to travel with. We both wanted to see and do everything; and together we were able to. We created our own shore tours and normally always stayed together on shore. On board ship, we went our own ways.

 

If you ever heard any comments about a couple crazy old ladies on mobility scooters, chances are they were talking about us.

 

Over the years we met a couple other ladies that also cruised with us at times. However, they never attempted to keep up with us on shore.

 

Who got what in the cabins was based on our needs. She had the easiest straight route to the bathroom and the closet with the “pull down” rack. I had the “out of the way” corner for my POC and the standard closet. When a third lady was with us, she share equally, but she got stuck in the upper bunk if no sofa or day bed available.

If you would like to find “cruise mates”, just search for exactly that.

 

Hope that you are able to find a cruise mate to share your adventures with.

Betty

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I've been dreaming of taking a North West Passage cruise ever since Hapag Lloyd ran the first expedition ship thru it some years ago...

When Crystal stunned the cruise world with its announcement of taking a full sized luxury liner, the Crystal Serenity thru it last year, I was really hooked, but it sold out very quickly. They repeated it for one more time (this year), and I was determined to book it. The only problem was, it was well out of my budget, to book solo. I asked everyone I knew, and no one else had the time or interest. So since CC does not permit soliciting for cabin mates, I searched elsewhere.

 

I placed an ad for a cabin mate, simply to share the expense, nothing else. I included a link to the Crystal website detailing the cruise and the high cost, and mentioned that, requesting for serious inquiries only.

I waited a week, and got no responses. I called Crystal to see if there was a chance of a lower than 100% single supplement, but they at first said not for that cruise. A few days later, they called me back and said they could do it with a 60% supplement. That was still a steep fare for one person. I looked at my ad again, and someone responded, asking if I would consider sharing with a female. I immediately answered that I certainly would, and gave my phone number.

 

I waited but another week went by, and got no call. I was actually dialing the phone to Crystal to try one more shot at a lower supplement, when my phone rang, and the ad respondent was on the line! We spoke for about an hour, and gave each other as much personal info as necessary to make a decision. I was strongly motivated to go, so agreed that we would 'research' it, and look for a travel agent to make the arrangements...to book it and collect the fares individually.

She called back a week later, with an offer from a travel agent that was for a guarantee ocean view, at a slightly reduced fare, and with some onboard credit thrown in. Plus the agent was match and add an equal amount of OBC.

So we booked it. A few days before the cruise, the agent gave us the good news, that she got us a free upgrade to a balcony cabin!

 

We didn't meet until I was already on board. I waited until she boarded, then we got acquainted, and we decided how we would divide the cabin, the closets, and storage, the bathroom (fortunately it had two sinks). She said she likes to shower before going to bed, I like to shower when waking up, so things were off to a good start.

I might add that until her her passing last year, I cruised with my mother, so I am used to sharing a cabin with a female, although I know that is not quite the same thing. I am very easy going, and fairly tolerant of other's idiosyncrasies, and I try to be inoffensive, as well...

 

Anyway, things went pretty well...we both were assigned to a dinner table for eight, but the rest of the time on board, or ashore, we went our own way. Although I am single, (and looking), I was not attracted to her. I had to make it clear to other's on board that we were 'not a couple'...even the cruise line did not 'get it'...they sent all correspondence addressed to us together, rather than individually. When they sent us one of an item, like the daily, or the passenger list, or whatever, I had to go to the desk to request another. They did give us individual lines of credit, however...that was not a problem.

 

The cruise was a fairly long one...32 nights. About a week into the cruise, she caught a flu-like illness, with a bad cough, and stayed in bed all day for almost a week. I was very careful to wash constantly, and except for sleeping or showering, I stayed out of the cabin. Miracle of miracles, I never caught what she had...there were a few others on the ship with similar afflictions...

 

The cruise was a dream come true, in all aspects. I was regularly on our CC Roll Call, attended the Meet and Greet, and posted on our "Live from the Crystal Serenity Northwest Passage" thread, if anyone is interested in reading that.

 

The bottom line...would I look for a "blind date" cabin mate again? Perhaps...

If it was a very expensive "bucket list" cruise such as this, that would 'bankrupt me' to book, I probably would.

But my next two cruises, more mundane two weeks in the Caribbean, I booked solo.

I am looking at the January 2019 World Cruise on the Oceania Insignia, 174 days, New York to New York...I am negotiating for a lowered single supplement, but if I can't get it, may look for a cabin mate again....:).

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I've been dreaming of taking a North West Passage cruise ever since Hapag Lloyd ran the first expedition ship thru it some years ago...

When Crystal stunned the cruise world with its announcement of taking a full sized luxury liner, the Crystal Serenity thru it last year, I was really hooked, but it sold out very quickly. They repeated it for one more time (this year), and I was determined to book it. The only problem was, it was well out of my budget, to book solo. I asked everyone I knew, and no one else had the time or interest. So since CC does not permit soliciting for cabin mates, I searched elsewhere.

 

I placed an ad for a cabin mate, simply to share the expense, nothing else. I included a link to the Crystal website detailing the cruise and the high cost, and mentioned that, requesting for serious inquiries only.

I waited a week, and got no responses. I called Crystal to see if there was a chance of a lower than 100% single supplement, but they at first said not for that cruise. A few days later, they called me back and said they could do it with a 60% supplement. That was still a steep fare for one person. I looked at my ad again, and someone responded, asking if I would consider sharing with a female. I immediately answered that I certainly would, and gave my phone number.

 

I waited but another week went by, and got no call. I was actually dialing the phone to Crystal to try one more shot at a lower supplement, when my phone rang, and the ad respondent was on the line! We spoke for about an hour, and gave each other as much personal info as necessary to make a decision. I was strongly motivated to go, so agreed that we would 'research' it, and look for a travel agent to make the arrangements...to book it and collect the fares individually.

She called back a week later, with an offer from a travel agent that was for a guarantee ocean view, at a slightly reduced fare, and with some onboard credit thrown in. Plus the agent was match and add an equal amount of OBC.

So we booked it. A few days before the cruise, the agent gave us the good news, that she got us a free upgrade to a balcony cabin!

 

We didn't meet until I was already on board. I waited until she boarded, then we got acquainted, and we decided how we would divide the cabin, the closets, and storage, the bathroom (fortunately it had two sinks). She said she likes to shower before going to bed, I like to shower when waking up, so things were off to a good start.

I might add that until her her passing last year, I cruised with my mother, so I am used to sharing a cabin with a female, although I know that is not quite the same thing. I am very easy going, and fairly tolerant of other's idiosyncrasies, and I try to be inoffensive, as well...

 

Anyway, things went pretty well...we both were assigned to a dinner table for eight, but the rest of the time on board, or ashore, we went our own way. Although I am single, (and looking), I was not attracted to her. I had to make it clear to other's on board that we were 'not a couple'...even the cruise line did not 'get it'...they sent all correspondence addressed to us together, rather than individually. When they sent us one of an item, like the daily, or the passenger list, or whatever, I had to go to the desk to request another. They did give us individual lines of credit, however...that was not a problem.

 

The cruise was a fairly long one...32 nights. About a week into the cruise, she caught a flu-like illness, with a bad cough, and stayed in bed all day for almost a week. I was very careful to wash constantly, and except for sleeping or showering, I stayed out of the cabin. Miracle of miracles, I never caught what she had...there were a few others on the ship with similar afflictions...

 

The cruise was a dream come true, in all aspects. I was regularly on our CC Roll Call, attended the Meet and Greet, and posted on our "Live from the Crystal Serenity Northwest Passage" thread, if anyone is interested in reading that.

 

The bottom line...would I look for a "blind date" cabin mate again? Perhaps...

If it was a very expensive "bucket list" cruise such as this, that would 'bankrupt me' to book, I probably would.

But my next two cruises, more mundane two weeks in the Caribbean, I booked solo.

I am looking at the January 2019 World Cruise on the Oceania Insignia, 174 days, New York to New York...I am negotiating for a lowered single supplement, but if I can't get it, may look for a cabin mate again....:).

Bob come across your blog I'm trying to do the western navigation with p&0 Arcadia .99 nights it's my first cruise I have to pay £10.000 for one half single supplement when it costs £9999 for the full world tour

no replys yet just have a chat i'm married

John

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I've been dreaming of taking a North West Passage cruise ever since Hapag Lloyd ran the first expedition ship thru it some years ago...

When Crystal stunned the cruise world with its announcement of taking a full sized luxury liner, the Crystal Serenity thru it last year, I was really hooked, but it sold out very quickly. They repeated it for one more time (this year), and I was determined to book it. The only problem was, it was well out of my budget, to book solo. I asked everyone I knew, and no one else had the time or interest. So since CC does not permit soliciting for cabin mates, I searched elsewhere.

 

I placed an ad for a cabin mate, simply to share the expense, nothing else. I included a link to the Crystal website detailing the cruise and the high cost, and mentioned that, requesting for serious inquiries only.

I waited a week, and got no responses. I called Crystal to see if there was a chance of a lower than 100% single supplement, but they at first said not for that cruise. A few days later, they called me back and said they could do it with a 60% supplement. That was still a steep fare for one person. I looked at my ad again, and someone responded, asking if I would consider sharing with a female. I immediately answered that I certainly would, and gave my phone number.

 

I waited but another week went by, and got no call. I was actually dialing the phone to Crystal to try one more shot at a lower supplement, when my phone rang, and the ad respondent was on the line! We spoke for about an hour, and gave each other as much personal info as necessary to make a decision. I was strongly motivated to go, so agreed that we would 'research' it, and look for a travel agent to make the arrangements...to book it and collect the fares individually.

She called back a week later, with an offer from a travel agent that was for a guarantee ocean view, at a slightly reduced fare, and with some onboard credit thrown in. Plus the agent was match and add an equal amount of OBC.

So we booked it. A few days before the cruise, the agent gave us the good news, that she got us a free upgrade to a balcony cabin!

 

We didn't meet until I was already on board. I waited until she boarded, then we got acquainted, and we decided how we would divide the cabin, the closets, and storage, the bathroom (fortunately it had two sinks). She said she likes to shower before going to bed, I like to shower when waking up, so things were off to a good start.

I might add that until her her passing last year, I cruised with my mother, so I am used to sharing a cabin with a female, although I know that is not quite the same thing. I am very easy going, and fairly tolerant of other's idiosyncrasies, and I try to be inoffensive, as well...

 

Anyway, things went pretty well...we both were assigned to a dinner table for eight, but the rest of the time on board, or ashore, we went our own way. Although I am single, (and looking), I was not attracted to her. I had to make it clear to other's on board that we were 'not a couple'...even the cruise line did not 'get it'...they sent all correspondence addressed to us together, rather than individually. When they sent us one of an item, like the daily, or the passenger list, or whatever, I had to go to the desk to request another. They did give us individual lines of credit, however...that was not a problem.

 

The cruise was a fairly long one...32 nights. About a week into the cruise, she caught a flu-like illness, with a bad cough, and stayed in bed all day for almost a week. I was very careful to wash constantly, and except for sleeping or showering, I stayed out of the cabin. Miracle of miracles, I never caught what she had...there were a few others on the ship with similar afflictions...

 

The cruise was a dream come true, in all aspects. I was regularly on our CC Roll Call, attended the Meet and Greet, and posted on our "Live from the Crystal Serenity Northwest Passage" thread, if anyone is interested in reading that.

 

The bottom line...would I look for a "blind date" cabin mate again? Perhaps...

If it was a very expensive "bucket list" cruise such as this, that would 'bankrupt me' to book, I probably would.

But my next two cruises, more mundane two weeks in the Caribbean, I booked solo.

I am looking at the January 2019 World Cruise on the Oceania Insignia, 174 days, New York to New York...I am negotiating for a lowered single supplement, but if I can't get it, may look for a cabin mate again....:).

 

WOW....I give you a lot of credit! I am 60 and just value my own space too much to share......even with someone I do know, so sharing a cabin with a stranger? Well, for me, that will never happen. I am glad things

worked out for you but it is so far from what I would ever do.........and for 32 nights? This is a sincere question,

what would have happened if you had not gotten along, what if one of your snored so loud you could not deal with it, what if? There are just too many "what ifs" for my liking..........I have cruised solo for 15 years and I guess that is what makes us all different.;)

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I know at one time HAL had a shared program and if they couldn't find someone, you got the cabin for yourself and no surcharge.

While some had good sailings and made friends, there were almost equal on the other end on horrid stories.

I love my family and friends, but learned a long time ago you can't travel with everyone and almost ruined a great friendship over a short land trip. I only have two people that I can cruise with,otherwise even with a group, I bite the cost and get my own cabin.

Since you are willing to try other options, just take every step to ensure a well meaning understanding on not only the room, but your habits. But also know all the talks and contact can change when on board and if things are not to either liking, often very little chance to change. Was on a cruise a few years back where this issue happen. Two friends went on a cruise and had a falling out and one was more or less forced out of the room the majority of the time by the other person. Not idea.

I wish you luck

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Between December 2005 and December 2016, we shared 41 cruises plus we had five booked for January / February 2017. However, she passed away in December. I am thankful that I met her and of the time we shared. At the time we met, she was disabled and I was still playing able bodied. By our second cruise, I had my own scooter.

She was so anxious when we first corresponded, I was hesitant, so I called her. She sounded like a normal person and someone I would like to travel with. We both wanted to see and do everything; and together we were able to. We created our own shore tours and normally always stayed together on shore. On board ship, we went our own ways.

 

If you ever heard any comments about a couple crazy old ladies on mobility scooters, chances are they were talking about us.

 

Betty, I love this wonderful story! Thank you for sharing your experiences -- it sounds like you had a great partnership. Pure serendipity that grew into something quite lovely and lasting.

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Since we cannot post on here looking for someone to share a cabin, what are sites that are active where you could find someone? I've already tried Meetup groups. I posted an ad on Craigslist and had men or bicurious women contact me (I shouldn't laugh lol).

 

There's a cruise I want to go on, but really would only do it if I could find someone to split the room with.

 

Hi. Im Looking for a cabin share if your interested for 2018

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