Posted February 8th, 2016, 06:52 PM
eliana, I think you will enjoy Silversea despite some unkind comments made by a few posters. IMO, elderly men with "turkey necks" look worse wearing a tuxedo than wearing a sports jacket but that is just my opinion
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Women really have no difficulty meeting the dress code on board but it is a bit more difficult for men. Having a dark suit and sports jacket seems to do the trick.
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1. I had to laugh a bit at your "turkey neck" comment, oh so true, though I don't think the 'pro-formal' comments by some posters have been unkind, just assertive
Note BTW it is not just men who might have "turkey necks" or otherwise look better in less formal attire. With some exceptions, however, most pax, even the very old, DO look quite lovely and "special" when dressed up. As stated in my prior post on this thread, DH and I try and avoid mandatory formal nights in MDRs, but I still enjoy looking at and studying people who dress up and who pull it off (I think the only attire DH notices at all is if someone looks obviously ridiculous, e.g., a heavily made up young woman in a faux-fur stretchy leopard-themed mini-dress, with super-high tottering heels, accompanied by a man old enough to be her grandfather, we saw at a SS cruise to the Grand Prix of Monaco).
Due to a combination of medication I must take, as well as tincture of time, I have my own "absolutely cannot wear" formal night struggles (nothing too tight or it may hurt, or the buttons may pop after the fourth course; only certain fabrics are tolerated or I will scratch or get a rash; nothing too warm or I will sweat, layers are needed; nothing that might make me fall and break a hip on my way to the loo, etc). I would love to once again be able to wear long evening gowns or clingy cocktail dresses made of whatever elegant material looks the best, or low-cut tops, plus some glittery precariously high-heeled evening sandals, but those days are prematurely over for me to attempt without looking silly and/or squirming and sweating in my seat. But almost everyone without major illnesses can still meet the basic requirements of formal night, if needed.
Oddly, most of the younger generations of affluent pax would look great in formal attire, as they are usually fitter and healthier (and, frankly, have better physiques) but they are usually the ones most opposed! Modern, well-paid techies in particular who are typically used to wearing T shirts and jeans (often with holes, like Steve Jobs) while working 60 plus hours per week hunched over keyboards and other electronics have no intention of worrying much about clothing unless they absolutely have to, in their limited vacation time, so they might not pick SS, if they think about cruising at all. The luxury Europa 2 I recently got off of is trying to get such people onto their ship (successfully, from what I could see), offering a resort casual tieless dinner dress code plus lots of "active" options (bicycling and hiking excursions at ports, big fitness center, etc.). This is likely the new demographics of luxury cruising, emphasizing elegant casualness, but these people sure looked great when they got gussied up for Xmas and New Years!
Definitely, as suggested earlier, people should try different lines to find what suits them overall. DH and I tried Regent once after SS seemed too formal, precisely because of the dress code, and felt comfortable with it, but the dress code was not enough to keep us there (we went back to SS for 3 more cruises, after buying DH a nice suit
4. However, until the rules are changed on SS or any other line with dress codes, I think it is reasonable that the existing rules of the SS line, and resultant expectations of the pax who choose SS for "formal" attire in certain venues (which is reasonable and doesn't even require tuxes), should be respected, as Eliana intends to do, as a sign of courtesy and respect to those pax. I see similar discussions on the mainstream forums that have formal nights, e.g., Holland America, where some pax love having the dress-up opportunity and resent having people admitted to the MDR who do not adhere. They do not want their special evenings made less special by having some guy in an untucked T-shirt spread with political messages on it sitting next to them, while they are wearing suit and long dress, even if the T-shirted guy has showered, does not stink, is "presentable" and might be interesting conversation.