Letting table mates know you won't be at dinner

[gerif]

Now I'm even more curious. Assuming that one of my table mates is a criminal, how is my security compromised if this criminal knows that I will be eating in a different restaurant one night?

 

I can't figure it out either. If you have traditional dining, won't the criminals at your table KNOW where you will be almost every night?

[2CatsInFlorida]

Now I'm even more curious. Assuming that one of my table mates is a criminal, how is my security compromised if this criminal knows that I will be eating in a different restaurant one night?

 

 

Do you tell everyone in your neighborhood when you will be leaving town and where you are going?

 

Well, I could list some crimes of opportunity, one in particular (not on RCI) that would make your hair stand on end. This is not to say cruising is dangerous, but La La land it is not.

 

In our experience the waiter will take orders unless the guests ask to wait.

Edited October 7, 2015 by 2CatsInFlorida

[Sascol]

Do you tell everyone in your neighborhood when you will be leaving town and where you are going?

 

Well, I could list some crimes of opportunity, one in particular (not on RCI) that would make your hair stand on end. This is not to say cruising is dangerous, but La La land it is not.

 

In our experience the waiter will take orders unless the guests ask to wait.

 

This makes zero sense, sorry. What POSSIBLE difference would it make, even if there was a criminal at the table if he/she knew I was having a casual dinner in the buffet vs. dining at the table?

[Fouremco]

Do you tell everyone in your neighborhood when you will be leaving town and where you are going?

 

Well, I could list some crimes of opportunity, one in particular (not on RCI) that would make your hair stand on end. This is not to say cruising is dangerous, but La La land it is not.

 

In our experience the waiter will take orders unless the guests ask to wait.

Being away from home for a week or two is considerably different than being away from the dining room one night. Besides, I'm not worried about anyone stealing anything from my place at the table. :)

 

As you still haven't explained your concern about advising tablemates and your waiter about missing a night, I'm guessing you don't have any specific reason or foresee any particular threat.

Edited October 7, 2015 by Fouremco

[GUT2407]

There are criminals on cruise ships and they like to know their victim's routine. Google and you will find some very serious incidents. Enjoy your cruise, but take sensible precautions.

 

 

how on earth does saying "I won't be there tonight (to the waiter)" tell anyone your routine.

 

You could be almost anywhere

 

Buffet

Room Service

Specialty Restaurant

Pizza or Burger bar

 

Skipping dinner and in the Casino or Show Lounge

 

Or anyone of a number of other things.

 

If you are this paranoid better not leave the house.

[riclop]

When you have traditional dining, do you let your table mates or waiters know you will not be at dinner? On my last cruise, I missed 2 evenings in a row. One night just didn't feel like going and the next the mystery dinner theater. When I returned I got a comment from the waiter about where I was. No, not complaining at all that he asked. Just curious what others do? I think this time I will tell the waiter that to please not wait for me.

 

Sometimes you really don't what you are going to do, so why say anything at all.

[2CatsInFlorida]

This makes zero sense, sorry. What POSSIBLE difference would it make, even if there was a criminal at the table if he/she knew I was having a casual dinner in the buffet vs. dining at the table?

 

 

Rather than my giving you the answer, think it through yourself. Then Google "cruise ship crimes cover ups".

 

I emphasize that we feel safe on RCI, but still take sensible precautions.

[cruizers]

We do tell the waitstaff and our tablemates if we won't be at dinner. We feel it's the polite thing to do and it will not hold up the service the night we'll be somewhere else, or not have our server wait for us. On one of our cruises, the entire table went to a specialty restaurant and we told our waiter the night before that we'd all be there. He was kind enough to make our reservations and order wine for us!

[Fouremco]

Rather than my giving you the answer, think it through yourself. Then Google "cruise ship crimes cover ups".

What a terrible cop out. :rolleyes:

[GUT2407]

What a terrible cop out. :rolleyes:

 

 

Probably be a security risk if they told you.

[shipshape sam]

We always let our tablemates and wait staff know if we will not be there the next night IF we know as we are leaving dinner the night before.

[gr8.guy]

Rather than my giving you the answer, think it through yourself. Then Google "cruise ship crimes cover ups".

 

I emphasize that we feel safe on RCI, but still take sensible precautions.

 

 

But a Google search of "cruise ship crimes cover ups" only returns one particular website and all the vitriol he bestows on the cruise Industry, and anyone that sort of halfway follows the cruise industry will see this ambulance chaser at every turn.

[Gopher1934]

We like to tell Table mates and waiter if we will miss dinner.

we normally know several days ahead of time.

Sometimes we will still try and make it for dessert just for fun.

We never miss more than one night and sometimes not even that. If we think we will miss several nights that cruise we just go with anytime dinning.

we consider it rude to miss to much and leave empty spots several nights.

[Luv my furbaby]

I agree that if you know you will not be at dinner you should let your waiter know. BUT, sometimes it is a last minute decision. In my case, I took a nap and woke up a half hour after dinner had started. In the past, I have rarely eaten anywhere but the MDR, but might on my next cruise. I will tell the waiter that if I am a few minutes late please go ahead without me. I would never show up to the MDR late.

[JLC@SD]

Bottom line .....if you do not let at least one table mate or the waiter know you will not be at the table that night .......the waiter and table will wait for you ........and you will probably guarantee they will have late service .....waiting for you to show.

[Charles4515]

Rather than my giving you the answer, think it through yourself. Then Google "cruise ship crimes cover ups".

 

I emphasize that we feel safe on RCI, but still take sensible precautions.

 

 

That is because you don't have an answer. You have put your foot in your mouth and can't figure out how to get it out.

[conandrob240]

Add this to the list of reasons traditional cruise dining is just not for me. If I had to have table mates and had to tell anyone where I would or wouldn't be on any given night, it would be a terrible cruise for me.

[novicetraveller]

I can understand 2CatsInFlorida point to a certain degree. Some people like to have some privacy during dinner time. I for one wouldn't want people to know which speciality restaurant I am going to go to on a particular night, in case they decide one person on the table I don't get on with decides to book and invite themselves to the same table.

 

Regarding the crime cover up, nope... don't buy into that.

 

However, if I have pre-booked some speciality restaurants, shouldn't the wait staff in the MDR be informed of it beforehand? (I know if you make last minute plans, then they don't get informed, which I fully understand).

Edited October 7, 2015 by novicetraveller

[bouhunter]

There are criminals on cruise ships and they like to know their victim's routine. Google and you will find some very serious incidents. Enjoy your cruise, but take sensible precautions.

 

Thank you for the laugh of the day!!!!!!!!:D:D:D I'm sure telling your waiter you won't be at dinner could certainly be life threatening :) Must be tough going thru life that paranoid.

Edited October 7, 2015 by bouhunter

[GUT2407]

I can understand 2CatsInFlorida point to a certain degree. Some people like to have some privacy during dinner time. I for one wouldn't want people to know which speciality restaurant I am going to go to on a particular night, in case they decide one person on the table I don't get on with decides to book and invite themselves to the same table.

 

Regarding the crime cover up, nope... don't buy into that.

 

However, if I have pre-booked some speciality restaurants, shouldn't the wait staff in the MDR be informed of it beforehand? (I know if you make last minute plans, then they don't get informed, which I fully understand).

 

Except no one needs know what you are doing, as I said before many options, just that you are not going to be at your normal table/time.

[Philly Steve]

To me, it's just a courtesy to let the wait staff know. For us, that includes MTD for a table for two.

[jayblue]

And this is the reason MTD works great for us ;)

 

Preach!

[BillOh]

Curious to know why you might consider this a "security" concern ?

 

For my possible answer I had to find out how to spell it. Paparazzi? Witness protection?

[novicetraveller]

For my possible answer I had to find out how to spell it. Paparazzi? Witness protection?

 

I personally be worried about the Men in Black (other genders and colours are available).

[BND]

I can understand 2CatsInFlorida point to a certain degree. Some people like to have some privacy during dinner time. I for one wouldn't want people to know which speciality restaurant I am going to go to on a particular night, in case they decide one person on the table I don't get on with decides to book and invite themselves to the same table.

 

Regarding the crime cover up, nope... don't buy into that.

 

However, if I have pre-booked some speciality restaurants, shouldn't the wait staff in the MDR be informed of it beforehand? (I know if you make last minute plans, then they don't get informed, which I fully understand).

 

Well, that makes about as much sense as what 2cats is saying. No one can book themselves at your table in a specialty restaurant unless you put them on the reservation.

 

2Cats is giving the absolute weirdest and illogical, not to mention, completely irrational reason I have ever seen. What could anyone possibly do with the information that you are dining elsewhere? And quit with the "google" statement as that makes as much sense as the rest of your reasons.

 

We always let our waiter and tablemates know, whether we get along with them or not. It's just common courtesy for everyone involved.

 

Anytime a ship is in a port late, there is usually a large number of people who miss dinner, sometimes as a last minute decision. That is not the same as knowing you're going to miss and being rude enough to not let your tablemates and waitstaff know so they're not sitting there waiting for you.

Edited October 7, 2015 by BND