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Hi there,

There has to be many benefits going solo on a cruise.  I must admit I cringe at the thought of eating or doing activities with others who would rather be by themselves or are not welcoming or I feel out of place or odd some how with them.  I also cringe at the thought of being the only person solo at an activity usually done with another, or last to be invited or chosen.  How can I handle these situations should they arise or better yet prevent them?  Sandra

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Sandra,

As an introvert who almost never starts a conversation, I know what you mean.  I have had great luck soloing with NCL.  They have a solo meet every night,  Starting with embarkation night.  From that meeting those who wish, go to dinner together.  

At the trivia games, most people realize diversity of the participants is a good thing.   I have been asked to join several teams on several cruises.  On two cruises, the solo group had their own team.

Some solo groups are tighter than others but all have been welcoming and willing to help a newbie.  

Check to see if the cruise you are thinking of has a Roll Call on Cruise Critic.  If they do you can contact other solos there.  If they also have a Meet & Mingle, you can meet solos or people with similar interests there.

Try it, you'll like it.

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First I want to say that what you are feeling is totally normal. Once you get into the swing of traveling solo, your worries will start to ease. On many excursions I've done there have been others who were solo because their partner wanted to do something else. Usually the organizers of the excursion decide on groups or people will say hey come join us. The same for shows, sitting by the pool, going to the gym. For dinner you can request to eat by yourself, no one will think twice. No one has ever thought twice that I was by myself even though I was sitting by myself for all activities. It's all a very relaxed atmosphere.

 

I've been solo traveling for 11 years, had the same worries and thoughts especially with cruising, but eventually you don't even think about it anymore and can just be yourself on vacation. Most of the time others are so preoccupied with themselves they don't notice a thing lol.

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Hi Sandra, I have been cruising solo for 17 years---trying to think back when I first started cruising...…..having

hesitation for something new is probably normal but as time goes by, sailing solo has been a piece of cake.

I totally agree with the previous post....most folks are so involved in their own thing, they really don't care if

someone is cruising solo.   As for activities? To give you an example, most times Trivia is by teams and most

folks are pretty friendly...…just ask if anyone is looking for another team member. 

 

Dinner? If you want to eat on your own, you can do that....many times the Maitr'd will ask if you would like to

sit with other folks, if you don't want to? Just say no thanks, you prefer a 2 top. If you feel like joining a table?

I like meeting new folks so have done that quite often over the years.  It is your choice. It is your cruise:classic_biggrin:

 

Hope you have a wonderful time.:classic_biggrin:

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First - if you set sail thinking you're not going to have fun, you won't have fun.  Relax, go into the experience with an open mind and try to have fun.

 

Activities - On my solo cruise last year, there was at least one instance where I was sitting in the area where the activity was going to happen and when they suggested teams of a maximum size a couple near me asked if I wanted to collaborate.  It's just that easy.  Of course, I had been chatting some with them while waiting for the activity to begin.

 

Meals - you've gotten some good advice.

 

I feel Norwegian has a nice solo program on the ships that have the studio cabin category.  They assign a solo host from the entertainment staff, that host organizes some activities (group reservation for shows, laser tag, go-karts on ships that have them) and escorts the group to the dining room for a group dinner. 

 

I lucked out on my first solo cruise, in the solo meet a group was looking to fill out a 6-top specialty dining reservation (they were doing back-to-back cruises and had met in the solo group on the first leg), I had dinner with them that night and 2 more as well as doing other activities with some of them.  Look, you're all in the same boat so you have something in common as an ice breaker if you want to interact with them.

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On 2/14/2020 at 4:55 AM, Sandra1616 said:

Hi there,

There has to be many benefits going solo on a cruise.  I must admit I cringe at the thought of eating or doing activities with others who would rather be by themselves or are not welcoming or I feel out of place or odd some how with them.  I also cringe at the thought of being the only person solo at an activity usually done with another, or last to be invited or chosen.  How can I handle these situations should they arise or better yet prevent them?  Sandra

 

NCL is the best for solo cruisers.  There is a solo meeting each evening hosted by a member of the cruise staff.  They will arrange group dinners every evening in one of the main dining rooms (or have a sign up sheet for specialty restaurants for future nights) for those interested in dining with others.

 

Join the Roll Call for your cruise here on CruiseCritic.  Often you can get a feel for fellow passengers, and even join others who have booked their own shore excursions and are looking for people to join them. 

 

Lastly, remember that life is short and you really don't need to please anyone except yourself.  So don't give a carp about what other people think.  Folks have a tendency to get lost in their own fears/intimidation.

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