Anyone love cruises and their So doesn't?

[In2why]

I have been bit by the cruising bug huge and Dear hubby not so much. I wonder if there are any of you out there that have had this happen. Of course we haven't been on a cruise yet:eek: but so far he has very little interest. About the only thing he has said is that the ships look beautiful when we say a special on the cruising channel and when he saw a small ship that showed an officer teaching about navigation that that would be very cool and that he wonders if they give tours of the engine room. (He is an engineer so the idea of seeing the engines is something that would excite him lol) But I am pretty sure that they don't give those type of behind the scene tours. I am the type that can lay on the deck for hours and do nothing and he is the type of person that would ask for a wrench or screwdriver to fix something because he is bored. I wonder if he will have a good time? What do men who don't shop, don't lay around, do on board? Although if I keep him in buckets of beer he could probably sit on the deck and do nothing for a while. Or I could send him to look for Cuba on the topless deck hehe.

[caribbean dreams]

He may have a whole different outlook after his first cruise:)

[DreadPirateRobert]

Just keep at him. My DW booked our first cruise and I wasn't so hot on the idea. She just kept talking it up and making it sound relaxing, romantic and fun. The more she talked the better it sounded.

He may have some incorrect ideas about cruising too. Ask what it is he doesn't like and you may be able to show him the error of his ways. If all else fails just tell him you're going with or without him. That's what finally got me over my objections.

Good luck

[MSseawind]

I love cruising--my husband tolerates it. He's okay for a day or two, but then is bored (unless of course he's winning in the casino.) I could lay by the pool or on a beach for days at a time--I think that much relaxation might kill him! We've been on two cruises together, but most of the time when I need a cruise I go with the ladies while the men go on a golf trip. Works out wonderfully for everyone!

[SandyW]

My husband isn't the type that has to be fixing things all the time but he does have to be doing something all the time. That's why we choose to travel on Carnival...I can find plenty of things to keep him busy. I, myself, wouldn't mind just sitting around reading...but it's his vacation, too!

 

See what he says after you've gone on your first cruise. I told my husband "no" for several years before we got on our first ship in 1997...now we've been on 14! I didn't think I'd like it and I really do think it's the best vacation value for your dollar. I love being able to visit different places but not have to pack and unpack and sleep in a different bed like you would if it were a land trip. Just ask him to try it once and see what he thinks afterwards.

[romy]

We're about to go on our 4th in a few weeks. Although I'm always the instigator;) , DH ends up excited and loves it. Our last few vacations he talked me into AI's and other land vacations but this time I held my ground (no pun intended:rolleyes: ). It took some doing but shortly after booking and finding a great deal, he was pleased. This was almost 5 months ago and every day he's more excited. Of course, I, though am completely out of control!!!!!

 

Great thread!

 

Happy Sails!

 

Romy:)

[Wennfred]

I guess I would be cruising solo :D

 

 

Fred

[kafitty]

i'd suggest finding a port-intensive cruise, so you aren't limited to just onboard activities.

 

my boyfriend never shows much excitement for anything, and i was worried he wouldn't enjoy our cruise...but he absolutely loved it and we had a great time.

[Lv2Camp&Cruise]

My mother begged for years to go on a cruise but my dad just kept finding reasons not to. Finally, I bought them a 3 night cruise for Christmas a few years ago and now he is totally addicted. Just tell him that if he takes you on a cruise that you won't ask him to go again unless he loves it too. He will probably then get the bug and start researching your next cruise!

[In2why]

We're about to go on our 4th in a few weeks. Although I'm always the instigator;) , DH ends up excited and loves it. Our last few vacations he talked me into AI's and other land vacations but this time I held my ground (no pun intended:rolleyes: ). It took some doing but shortly after booking and finding a great deal, he was pleased. This was almost 5 months ago and every day he's more excited. Of course, I, though am completely out of control!!!!!

 

Great thread!

 

Happy Sails!

 

Romy:)

 

I am sooo hoping this is what happens. I think he will love it when he gets on board. He is excited about the ports of call and I am making sure that they are interesting to him and active instead of just lounging on the beach with a foo foo drink which would be my first choice. I figure this is the best of both worlds. Heck the only thing I hate about vacationing is the road trips and this way I get to bring my hotel with me....what could ever be better.

[marvlgirl]

This is my third cruise and my DHs first. I really wonder what he will be like onboard. He is a very kick back guy but does not like to lay out by the pool or beach. I really hope that he finds someting onboard that he likes to do. We are doing a city tour at one port and beach activities at the next. He loves wave runners so we decided to do that at one port.

 

If he doesnt like cruises after this one not sure what I will do. Most likely I will go with my Mom or with a friend. I absolutely love cruises.

 

I do know that our next vacation is Hawaii. So maybe I can get him to switch back and forth. Our last one was Italy so I may have to work something out with him!

[Aplmac]

I'm 57.

 

Took my first cruise early May

and now I could kick myself in the azz

for not having started this wonderful addiction decades ago.

 

Think of all the money I've WASTED in cars,

and other stooopid land-based stuff,

money I coulda donated to the Carnival Corporation.

 

Think of all the CCL stock I coulda bought when it was TEN BUCKS a pop,

now it's up around forty-five.

 

DANG! - a wasted life!(mine!)

 

tell your husband that!

[Stircrzy]

We've been married 27 1/2 years.

 

We took our first cruise together for our 15th anniversary.

 

He didn't hate it, but didn't love it either.

 

He's never cruised again.

 

I'm making my 10th Carnival cruise, 14th cruise over all, in January.

 

It's worked out fine for us! :D

[popsec]

I just about had to drag my DH on our first cruise...and the only reason he went along with it was that it was cheaper than getting a hotel and meals near Miami for a week. Now he's pretty addicted. In fact, we had 4 already booked last week when he made the mistake of saying, "I wonder what there are for cruises in late April"....within the hour we were booked on 2 five day B2B cruises on the Imagination. Now we've got 6 booked!...all within the next 8 months!

 

So, you never know how our DHs or DWs will react until they actually get on a ship.;)

[SAYHEYRENEE]

My husband can take them or leave them. I plan every detail from start to finish-he shows up. I like to get involved on the ship-he doesn't. He loves the ports, the dinners and shows. I love the pool deck during the day. That is the great thing-we can go our seperate ways during sea days and meet up for the night stuff and ports. He is happy with catching up on sleep,watching the movies in the cabin or just reading.

 

This Oct will be my first cruise without him. I know when the nights come, I will miss him.

[CrusinAgain]

My husband has been on 3 cruises with me. I have the addiction and so my cruising buddy is my sister who is also suffering from the same addiction. We found by taking the outside rooms and now we will try an inside on Carnival, that we can cruise twice a year instead of once a year by taking a balcony.

 

My DH will only cruise every few years and there is no way I can wait for that. My sister and I have a blast anyway.

[JaguarGirl]

My DH went on one cruise with me two years ago and hasn't been back since. I just take one of my kids or go with my sister. We had an inside stateroom and he stayed in the room most of the cruise reading. I am so jealous of the other women whose husbands love to cruise as much as they do. I'm addicted to it so I'll continue to cruise with whoever wants to go with me.

[boaterette]

My husband and I went on a cruise for our honeymoon. I fell in love with cruising. He couldn't stand it. I divorced him. Next.:D

[vacruizer]

My DH thought he would hate cruising and really enjoyed himself but he just doesn't get excited about it like I do. He also wants to do some other things for vacations and not do so many cruises :( . I guess I see his point even though I would be happy to just keep cruising all the time. He has fun onboard but says he feels like the only place we can be alone is in our cabin (no, not talking about funny business here :D ) - just time where we aren't surrounded by people.

 

Prior to this cruise thing we usually rented a cabin at a state park for vacation and he wants to at least go back to alternating cruises with that. Sucks that I can usually only take one week off work for vacation a year - my other week of time gets split up doing family stuff and holidays usually.

 

He's the one who picked our next cruise, though - he though it would be fun to sail Halloween. I just keep hoping that after the next two he will be hopelessly hooked like I am.:D

[crzfrnds]

This is my cruising experience: May 2006 (Imagination) with a gf because once we calculated costs of the prior year's Fort Lauderdale long weekend, the cruise won out and I haven't looked back. Got a great deal on an October 2006 long weekend (Fantasy Bahamas) and husband and me went. He hasn't looked back!! Cruised May 2007 (Inspiration) with gf and other friends of hers from Chicago and a co-worker of mine here in NJ, best decision any of us could have made. We got back in May and chi-town friend had already found her and her SO and us a seven day (Triumph) cruise for October 13th. My husband and me passed on an NJ beach trip in July to cruise again. We're just about an hour from the beach so we figured we could go there anytime and the total cost of the cruise is equal to what we spent on our very reasonable bungalow that we have been renting for over 10 years. We haven't even left on Triumph yet and my chi-town gf already has us booked on Liberty May 4th out of Fort Lauderdale and our girlfriend trip group is growing. My husband is a water rat, the warmer the water, the happier he is. He was hooked after we did ultimate snorkeling in Grand Turk and after we tendered at Half Moon Cay!! Even when our ship had propulsion problems and couldn't make Nassau, we looked at it this way - it gave us a third Fun Day at Sea. My days at sea are my favorites. I wish they'd have a five day at sea cruise. We'd book it in a minute!

 

If your SO still won't go, feel free to email me back and we'd be more than happy to have you join our group. Go to cruisemates and check out a sampling of our inspiration pics.....5/3/2007.

 

Theresa

[bacm]

My husband also can not sit still for a moment and he didn't really like cruising in the beginning because of it. But, we have learned to always go on cruises with a group of couples and everyone, even husbands and wifes go their own way during the day. The guys usually make their own agenda during the day and do the golf putting contest, play basketball, do the trivia contest and go to the casino (their favorite activity). They go from one thing to another and they love it. Then the women do the Afternoon Tea, Sit by the pool, maybe the Galley Tour (really mostly relax). While we're in port we almost always do an excursion (the active ones - my husband enjoys them more - even when we do a beach excursion we make sure you can rent a kayak, or snorkeling gear, etc. so he can keep busy). Of course there's plenty of couple's time together, but not being together 24/7 really works for us (although I know it doesn't work for everyone). I hope you find a solution to make both of you happy so you can enjoy cruising.

[NonnieT]

Hi,

 

My hubby is not as crazy about cruising as I am. I love it and could go lots more if possible. I'm going on my 5th and he's only been on 2 of them. One way to get them to go is to say that's what you want for your anniversary. Another thing is to get another couple to go that he enjoys being with. The guys can do things together (like a fishing excursion) and the gals can do what they like. We also did things as a foursome.

 

When it was just the two of us cruising, he said his job was to follow me and carry my bags when we shopped. I plan to get him on another one soon, plans are in the works. 35th anniversary coming up next year.

 

Girl cruises are a lot of fun too. Just hunt down a few girlfriends and do the planning. It actually can be very affordable this way, as we have put 4 of us in a cabin. It makes for a lot of fun as long as everyone is easygoing and gives a little. Good luck, Nonnie

[toledo]

My husband is not happy I've booked another cruise for spring break. Good thing all 3 of our kids voted with me on thiis one! Last year we did a land vacation in St. John, with some of the most beautiful beaches in the world. Our kids were bored! When asked what they wanted to do for the next spring break, they unanimously voted for a cruise. Hubby's complaints are somewhat valid. He's worried about the kids going to and from Camp Carnival and wandering the ship with groups of new friends (ages 12-17) and the risk of Norwalk virus (3 of us got sick at the end of our last cruise).

[mojean]

I would recommend getting a copy of the Caper for your cruise and throw some of the happenings on him, do a know what activities he like e.g. horseback, water sports and do your homework on the port board print some of the stuff and let it sink into his mind. Bring up the privileges like room service, sushi, foo foo drinks, midnight buffets and tour of kitchen area (if a week long cruise). Margaritaville it all depends on where you are going. If he doesn't totally hate it, maybe get another couple to go with you next time. And if he does you'll just have to make it Girls week out !! The thing is look for places to go that will keep his attention. Or try something new if he's a water person there's plenty of new things to try out. If he's spontaneous, try to be in one of the game shows on the ship. We are all here to give the boost, nothing like some good company to go along with.:D

[crusinmama06]

Same here! My hubby would rather stay home so I HAVE cruised without him. I just pick up and take the kids with me and leave him at home...lol. ;)

 

My kids are obsessed with cruising...so he is outnumbered. :D