Why dont more single mature men cruise???

[NewJersey222]

From what I remember seeing on the daily cruise activities list and what I have heard here, it seems that the singles get togethers are always in one of the lounges/disco in the evenings. That just screams "meet market" to me and I would interprete it as aimed at a younger crowd than I. I am interested in meeting any solo cruisers (male or female), not just single (male) cruisers. If the cruise line were to have a singles/solo cruisers get together, during the day, similar to the Celebrity Connections or RCCL Meet and Mingle events, that might have a different atmosphere, and would be a much more condusive (at least for me) to meeting and talking with other solo cruises. Let's face it, it's hard to have a conversation in the disco with the music blaring.

 

Straughn,

 

I agree with you which is why I do not "do" the singles "Meat" and Mingle unless I meet singles of either sex at the CC Meet and Mingles. When I cruise, I want to have fun, fun, and more fun.

 

Happy cruising,:D

NewJersey222

Marie

[GreenZolie]

Count me in as a single, willing to cruise alone. I only just took my first cruise last month and I traveled with cousins so I wasn't alone. But, I had SO much fun - indeed, I am now addicted! - that I plan to take my next cruise alone, if I can't find someone to go with me!

 

I came to this singles board to see what the scoop was on singles cruises, so I am kind of disappointed to read that the singles scene is not all that great on cruises. Nevertheless, I am looking forward to my next cruise, alone or not! Fortunately I am happy with my own company, lol.

 

However, I agree with everyone, that it would be much more fun with a bunch of single men and women to party with! When I went with my cousins, it was great fun, but they are all married, and there were times I felt like the 5th wheel, so to speak.

 

I also understood there was such a thing as just singles, cruises? Have any of you ever heard of any such a thing? And if so, are they just age based? On second thought, I guess a cruise of equal number of single men and women in the 40-60 age bracket is too much to hope for, eh? Drat! :p

[cruisininva]

Yes, thee is a such thing as singles cruises. The whole ship isn't single, but there are travel agencies that specialize in hosted singles cruises. They get a group of singles together on one ship with organized activities for the group (that you can choose to participate in or not). I've been on 6 -- the largest group had over 600 singles and the smallest had 68. And the companies also offer "Baby Boomer" or "60+" and other age-specific groups so if that's what you're looking for, you can find it. Google "singles cruises" and you're sure to find the companies that offer them. Happy sailing!

 

Christine

[cruisefan42]

Hi Everyone,

 

The single solo cruise is new to me. I have not yet tried it but I have been considering for a while. I am newly single, and still accepting my situation so a singles cruise is out for me. I am definitely not in the market for hooking up. But a solo cruise sounds great, I would love to meet other solo travellers. Are there ever solo groups organized?

 

Lisa

[bobbisailsolo]

Hi Everyone,

 

The single solo cruise is new to me. I have not yet tried it but I have been considering for a while. I am newly single, and still accepting my situation so a singles cruise is out for me. I am definitely not in the market for hooking up. But a solo cruise sounds great, I would love to meet other solo travellers. Are there ever solo groups organized?

 

Lisa

HI Lisa,

I wish there were, but I have yet to find any. I have taken several cruises and trips alone. And though I enjoy myself, once in a while it would be nice to be part of a group. Maybe we can start one!!!!

[NewJersey222]

HI Lisa,

I wish there were, but I have yet to find any. I have taken several cruises and trips alone. And though I enjoy myself, once in a while it would be nice to be part of a group. Maybe we can start one!!!!

 

 

Bobbi,

 

If you start one, count me in!! Anything that I have looked into, is just not what I am looking for....

 

NewJersey222

Marie

[NewJersey222]

I'm in the research stage of finding out whats out there, costs, activities, etc. I think I want to go on a singles cruise but Im concerned about many things. First of all, I have this fear that I will be trapped on this tiny island with a bunch of people having hysterical fun and there won't be any ladies near my age (say 48 to 63) that I am interested in talking to. And I will watch everyone else having fun and be more alone than I am at home. For me its about meeting single ladies and having fun but.... I guesws it just concerns me that I will pay this "double fee" and be stuck for a week or more. I know everyone will say, "Just go its a blast, quit worrying, etc". Nope, sorry i want some guarantees. I guess thats unreasonable, but you asked the question why "mature men don't go on cruises?" Im watching and waiting til I have a good feeling its right for me.

 

Hello,

 

Keep in mind as in anything in life: it is what you make it...

 

There are many great things about cruising, far too many to mention here, but some are: no cooking, no making beds, being waited on, breakfast, lunch and dinner in your Stateroom (if you prefer) made and served by someone other than yourself, entertainment, see the world, etc.

 

Once you take your first one, you will understand what we all talk about here on Cruise Critic....

 

Decide to go, then just do it!!

 

Regards,

NewJersey222

Marie:)

[PCcruiser_x]

Whats up with older men? Don't they want to see the world? What better way than taking a cruise. I have been on several cruises by myself, and there are plenty of single women.....

 

This is exactly the way I like it!

 

It seems that everyplace else I go has men outnumbering women so my once or twice a year cruises that are loaded with single women are a blessing.

 

Now, quit posting this secret all over the internet because if more men figure this out then my future cruises will be ruined.;)

[snowbird1]

There are single men on a lot of these cruises, I know because I am one of them. They may not be what you are looking for so they go unnoticed or perhaps they are not the aggressive type. I think that while it is true, there are more single women than men, there are single men. One thing to keep in mind, if one single guy sees a group of women together it is much harder for him to approach if he isn't with a group of friends as well or if he feels invited to join them.

[wiredkw]

I believe it is accepted and normal for single women to travel together without anyone thinking twice about it. But most single men I know wouldn't want to share a small cabin with another male. And since the cruise lines want to price the room at a double occupancy rate, that makes it more expensive to travel alone as a male. Just my two cents worth. :confused:

[Lois R]

I believe it is accepted and normal for single women to travel together without anyone thinking twice about it. But most single men I know wouldn't want to share a small cabin with another male. And since the cruise lines want to price the room at a double occupancy rate, that makes it more expensive to travel alone as a male. Just my two cents worth. :confused:

 

Hi,:) I never travel with anyone..male or female and never share

a cabin so I pay the same double rate as you..so, I disagree that

it costs more to travel alone as a male.;)

[cruisininva]

Bobbi,

 

If you start one, count me in!! Anything that I have looked into, is just not what I am looking for....

 

NewJersey222

Marie

 

Sorry, but what would be the difference between a singles cruise and a group of solos cruising together? :confused: They seem like the same thing to me! I think people have the wrong impression of singles cruises -- that it's about meeting someone or hooking up or whatever, but many of us go on singles cruises to have a group of singles (or solos if you prefer) to hang out with! :)

 

Christine

[GlendaleCruiser]

There are single men on a lot of these cruises, I know because I am one of them. They may not be what you are looking for so they go unnoticed or perhaps they are not the aggressive type. I think that while it is true, there are more single women than men, there are single men. One thing to keep in mind, if one single guy sees a group of women together it is much harder for him to approach if he isn't with a group of friends as well or if he feels invited to join them.

 

That is such a shame and I think you should come on over and talk to me and my two friends. We cruise together (2 or 3 of us at a time) to save money. I am thinking of taking a solo/single cruise in the future, especially since they don't want to cruise to Hawaii and I do. I hesitate to approach men because I am afraid they will think I am coming on to them and I am really looking to meet, talk, dance and celebrate a wonderful cruise and that's all. I love to go where there is music but the lounges/discos usually draw a louder, younger crowd. One of the funnest things ever was when a much younger man came over and asked me to dance when we were sitting at the sports bar and there was a band in the hallway of the promenade (formal night). We had a dance in the promenade and other people joined us, even coming out of the casino to do so.

[Dancer Bob]

I've been on at least 20 cruises as a solo (although I now usually travel only with dance groups) and I agree with Snowbird1. I've spent a lot of time sitting in lounges with a lot of good dance music going to waste, with nary a single woman in sight. Maybe you walked in, decided I looked like a loser, and walked out. That's OK- you have the right to choose, for any reason that suits you. But as a dancer I will say if you're one of these women who say "I love to dance" and "I can follow anything", don't show up wearing flip-flops. Wearing dance shoes lets me know you're ready, willing, and able.

[GlendaleCruiser]

I've been on at least 20 cruises as a solo (although I now usually travel only with dance groups) and I agree with Snowbird1. I've spent a lot of time sitting in lounges with a lot of good dance music going to waste, with nary a single woman in sight. Maybe you walked in, decided I looked like a loser, and walked out. That's OK- you have the right to choose, for any reason that suits you. But as a dancer I will say if you're one of these women who say "I love to dance" and "I can follow anything", don't show up wearing flip-flops. Wearing dance shoes lets me know you're ready, willing, and able.

 

Wow. Sorry you feel judged that way. My friends and I usually sit in a lounge and watch people go by who either don't want to engage 2-3 ladies in conversation or they are waiting for their wives. I am always going to the music and expecting to have fun, but am usually disappointed after sitting and listening to the music for a long time. I took line dance lessons even though I know how, just to get the opportunity to dance. I'm not looking for a SO or husband, so if someone asks me to dance, they better mean it.:D

[iceman1776]

That is such a shame and I think you should come on over and talk to me and my two friends. We cruise together (2 or 3 of us at a time) to save money. I am thinking of taking a solo/single cruise in the future, especially since they don't want to cruise to Hawaii and I do. I hesitate to approach men because I am afraid they will think I am coming on to them and I am really looking to meet, talk, dance and celebrate a wonderful cruise and that's all. I love to go where there is music but the lounges/discos usually draw a louder, younger crowd. One of the funnest things ever was when a much younger man came over and asked me to dance when we were sitting at the sports bar and there was a band in the hallway of the promenade (formal night). We had a dance in the promenade and other people joined us, even coming out of the casino to do so.

 

Thanks for sharing this information. I'm 53 and have been single again for the past 8 years. I've gone on a few cruises and sometimes I have a female companion, but not always. I've been like some other males and hesitate to approach when it's a group of women. But after hearing your comment I might just have to take a chance when I sail on the Carnival Splendor in November. I've been taking some dance lessons, so maybe that will be my way to break the ice, by asking someone to dance.

 

Thanks!!

[Shawn loves to cruise]

Sorry, but what would be the difference between a singles cruise and a group of solos cruising together? :confused: They seem like the same thing to me! I think people have the wrong impression of singles cruises -- that it's about meeting someone or hooking up or whatever, but many of us go on singles cruises to have a group of singles (or solos if you prefer) to hang out with! :)

 

Christine

 

I have to agree with Christine here. I have been reading all of these posts and thought I would throw in my two cents..

I have taken 3 hosted singles cruises. The reason I began to look into them is because as a single female, I was looking for a group to travel with. I didn't want to wait around until I could find a travel partner . The singles groups have not provided me with "love connections" but have been a great way to feel as though you are not traveling completely alone. You can engage as much or as little as you want, but there is always someone around to talk to if you feel like it. I have made some great friends this way and will recommend it to anyone. As a matter of fact, my next cruise (not with a group) is with one of my single girlfriends from my first singles cruise. Hope we find some single guys to hang out with!

 

I must add that most of the singles (not with a singles group) I have come in contact with tend to be younger. You can always meet the singles on a ship..it really isn't that big. There is only one disco. Here's hoping that more single men realize that the odds are in their favor.;)

 

Shawn

[Coastaljen]

I think I don't see a lot of solo travelers because I am an "itinerary junkie" and prefer cruises that are l4 nights or longer (due to airfare costs). A lot of the cruises with single groups tend to be seven night cruises or an itinerary I am not interested in doing.... I have never tried Carnival mainly due to the fact I thought it was a "party" ship for younger people. Normally when I search, I search Holland, Celebrity, and Princess. I will have to check out some of their longer itineraries some time.

 

I did attend one meet and greet last summer on the Crown. It was the first and probably last time. There was a young, girl in her early 20s that was there to organize it. A handful of people showed up. She explained that she was in the "same situation." She knew how we felt. yadda yadda. I felt like it was a disease after a few minutes... Each of us were told to go around and say our name, where we were from, and what we hoped to get out of the cruise. It was plain awkward, and I wasn't alone in my view. Honestly I felt like I was in a Bob Newhart therapy session and was ready to climb over the back of the couch to get away. Luckily she said one more time that she really understood us (with empathetic eyes) and then she had to go somewhere.. but I am not rushing back to any meet and greets on cruises. :-)

[GlendaleCruiser]

Thanks for sharing this information. I'm 53 and have been single again for the past 8 years. I've gone on a few cruises and sometimes I have a female companion, but not always. I've been like some other males and hesitate to approach when it's a group of women. But after hearing your comment I might just have to take a chance when I sail on the Carnival Splendor in November. I've been taking some dance lessons, so maybe that will be my way to break the ice, by asking someone to dance.

 

Thanks!!

 

 

I hope you do! I'll be on the Dream Sept 21st and if anyone asks me to dance -- I will.:D

[GlendaleCruiser]

I've been on at least 20 cruises as a solo (although I now usually travel only with dance groups) and I agree with Snowbird1. I've spent a lot of time sitting in lounges with a lot of good dance music going to waste, with nary a single woman in sight. Maybe you walked in, decided I looked like a loser, and walked out.

 

Were YOU looking for Barbie? I'm not her.

 

That's OK- you have the right to choose, for any reason that suits you. But as a dancer I will say if you're one of these women who say "I love to dance" and "I can follow anything", don't show up wearing flip-flops. Wearing dance shoes lets me know you're ready, willing, and able.

 

I don't wear flip flops, but I've been known to take off my shoes to dance if I had to. :)

[Dancer Bob]

I'm not sure what you mean by "Barbie". And dancing with bare feet? Foot injuries take a long time to heal. I'd take the time to go back to my cabin and change, if there actually was someone to dance with.

[GlendaleCruiser]

I'm not sure what you mean by "Barbie". And dancing with bare feet? Foot injuries take a long time to heal. I'd take the time to go back to my cabin and change, if there actually was someone to dance with.

 

You don't know what I mean by Barbie? I've often found that the men who complain about women seeking perfect men seem to be doing just that themselves.

[JJSMaine]

It keeps me from sailing single.

 

I would LOVE to be on a cruise more often, but the added costs of paying up to double preclude that.

 

Perhaps we will see a move to low or NO SS as the industry gets hits harder and harder. ( not that I wish the industry ill!)

 

It seems quite silly to me, to turn away my $$$, if the ships are sailing with empty cabins. I will still spend money on booze and trinkets and wine and excursions and the casino and bingo ( pant pant)... I know they "count on" each cabin holding two guests and the revenue from both of those people, but again.. if cabins are empty, the sacred cow of SS's may need to be breached... ( johnny can dream, can;'t he?)

[Lois R]

It keeps me from sailing single.

 

I would LOVE to be on a cruise more often, but the added costs of paying up to double preclude that.

 

Perhaps we will see a move to low or NO SS as the industry gets hits harder and harder. ( not that I wish the industry ill!)

 

It seems quite silly to me, to turn away my $$$, if the ships are sailing with empty cabins. I will still spend money on booze and trinkets and wine and excursions and the casino and bingo ( pant pant)... I know they "count on" each cabin holding two guests and the revenue from both of those people, but again.. if cabins are empty, the sacred cow of SS's may need to be breached... ( johnny can dream, can;'t he?)

 

Hi:)sure Johnny can dream.:D

 

I look at it in a different genre....I choose to sail solo and as long as

I can afford the price I will always sail on my own.

I look at the total price.....yes, if you divide it down it will end up

being per person dbl occupancy, but I look at what I can financially

afford and if that is within my budget I will continue to sail solo.

I just decided to stop getting upset with that supplement and thankfully

I am able to cruise on my own:) and for me, its worth the price.

 

But I do agree with you about the empty cabin scenerio. But I usually

book quite far ahead so that part doesn't come into my equation.

[snowbird1]

It keeps me from sailing single.

 

I would LOVE to be on a cruise more often, but the added costs of paying up to double preclude that.

 

Perhaps we will see a move to low or NO SS as the industry gets hits harder and harder. ( not that I wish the industry ill!)

 

It seems quite silly to me, to turn away my $$$, if the ships are sailing with empty cabins. I will still spend money on booze and trinkets and wine and excursions and the casino and bingo ( pant pant)... I know they "count on" each cabin holding two guests and the revenue from both of those people, but again.. if cabins are empty, the sacred cow of SS's may need to be breached... ( johnny can dream, can;'t he?)

 

In theory you are correct but the problem is they do what ever it takes to fill most if not all the cabins with 2. About a month or so before sailings they will target certain Cat's they need to move a lot of cabins and reduce the double occ rate for a short time but long enough to move a lot of cabins quickly and then the price goes back up until sailing. This exact thing just happened on my Enchantment cruise. RCCL ran the special for a limited number of days, moved the cabins and the prices started going back up (they likely have a set sold % that they go by). Once you get on the ship the sign is always up, ship full no cabins. The trick is in timing so you can get a good double rate and then even if you have to pay the high single supp the rate isn't quite as bad and you only pay port taxes for 1.

 

Now if you book well in advance and don't mind Carnival they have some 1A cabins for singles that have lower single Supp but cabins are very limited so you need to book in advance.