Jezebel's Master

Yup, the coming out process never ends. People are curious, or not. I am who I am (husband to a show queen).

 

So after 29 years (and at least that many cruises) with my ex, out, proud, unabashedly answering any and all questions openly and honestly, I thought I was done with the coming out process. Then...

 

That relationship ended, and a year later, a better one began. Now five years old, the three of us share a beautiful, loving, family. Yes, three men, together 5 years this month. Loving, committed, together. And the questions we get--from straight and gay people, as we come out all over again...never cease to amaze. I've decided to believe that the questions are not prurient or evil, but asked because people really want to imagine our lives together to determine if it is something they might be interested in pursuing at some point. Who sleeps where? Who shops? Who works? What about the fighting? What do your families say?

 

In my responses, I'm sometimes overzealous, like an evangelical pastor at the church welcome picnic. If I were any other way (embarrassed or evasive) I would be the one to feel bad about me, us, and our love. Folks are nice. They just cant help themselves; but I can help them, by coming out all over again.

 

In my 6th decade, I'm in love all over again, even better and deeper this time. Thanks for reading!

We are crossing, too, Equinox, BCN to FLL October 2016. Your facebook link comes up broken, so please consider posting an event title to search for.

 

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We are traveling with our (straight but fun) GalPals, Mary, Michelle, and Glenna. If anyone was aboard two years ago, they will remember me: I was mistaken for the dude with a "ship wife" and a "shore wife" and endured many dirty looks from the (mostly female) passengers who did not approve and many thumbs up from the (mostly male) passengers who noticed (but failed to notice, as Ellen said, "I'm gay").

Just back this morning from Amsterdam, having joined the last 19 days of this year's Grand Asia (review to follow). Upon Boarding in Sydney, we were informed that we were required to choose between 5:30 (too early) or 8:00 (with the show at 10:00--way too late).

The website indicates (through drop-downs at time of booking) that open seating is offered; a note in the printed brochure states that "select voyages feature traditional fixed dining". Holland America should revise this note to reflect a better understanding of 'feature'--perhaps using the word 'require' or adding the word 'only' to correctly set passenger expectations.

Moreover, how would one know beforehand rather the 8:00 pm seating has an early showtime (6:30 pm on Volendam) or a late showtime (10:00 pm on Amsterdam)?