ROWSE Posted February 3, 2006 #51 Share Posted February 3, 2006 Walkie Talkies are a great idea. We'll take those along also. It is nice to know there is some kind of cerfew for juniors as I know I will hear "but everyone else gets to stay out past midnight, they can stay out all night" thing, but oh well, I can be tough when I have to be. I am not worried about the port days as we have family stuff planned in each. Is there anyone else going April 2-9? Just wondered. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ilove2vacation Posted February 3, 2006 #52 Share Posted February 3, 2006 I brought my teenage daughter on 4 cruises and they make friends in the kid camp,there fine to let roam around.They go on scavenger hunts,swimming w/ the stars w/ the camp.They will have alot of fun.No need to worry. sarah Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
herecomesthesun Posted February 3, 2006 #53 Share Posted February 3, 2006 bplazo - I'm so glad to hear that everything is working out between you and your daughter, and that I could help you with that! No one is perfect. Your daughter isn't, I'm not, you aren't and my mother isn't. But, even though it can sometimes feel confining to the teenager, there's a stability for both parent and child when you set up rules and consequences and follow through with them. Then, the parent doesn't have to worry as much about, "What will I do if Junior does this, or does that? How will our family deal with it?" and the teenager doesn't think as much about, "I wonder if I can get away with this, or with that? I wonder if my mom will just get over it if I do this one thing?" because both parties understand how it will be no matter what. I know it sucks a lot for the teenagers and they might complain (like I definitely have) but in the end, that kind of stability and security will make everything a lot easier because you aren't wasting time and energy arguing - both of you know what the deal is! And that may mean your child calling you on it when you don't keep your end of a bargain, or when you randomly change the rules on a whim. You both carry a responsibility to the other, I think. I've put my mom through a lot, and I think she deserves to enjoy our cruise that she is spending her money on, so even if I disagree with the rules, once they are set, I hope I will abide by them, out of respect for her, just like I hope she will be reasonable about things, out of respect for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dougberry714 Posted March 8, 2006 #54 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Thanks for the info my wife and I are taking our 4 girls on thier first cruise april 16 age 10 to 17 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LizzyDragon Posted March 8, 2006 #55 Share Posted March 8, 2006 My first cruise for me happened when I was a teenager (17, I think). My parents would let me do pretty much whatever I wanted to on the ship and in port I would be with them (with the exception of Disney's private island- I was allowed to go alone or with my sister to places). They didn't set any curfews, but they didn't need to as I was pretty good about coming back at a decent hour. I also ate most of the meals with them and enjoyed going to theater shows, etc. with them. I didn't "check in" with them regularly, but we did talk a lot about what we were going to do each day so they had some idea of what I would be up to. Never had any problems, but my parents and I have a good relationship. They know that I'm not the crazy druggie type or spending all nights with the boys kind of person. My family is going cruising again in May, and since I'm 22 and an adult who hasn't lived at home for 4 years, I'm free to do whatever I'd like to, including in the ports (although since it is a family vacation, I plan to spend a good chunk of the time with family). Really, when it comes to the rules, I think it's important to discuss them with your kids beforehand and to come up with rules you both can live with and respect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merrysunshine320 Posted March 8, 2006 #56 Share Posted March 8, 2006 My first cruise for me happened when I was a teenager (17, I think). My parents would let me do pretty much whatever I wanted to on the ship and in port I would be with them (with the exception of Disney's private island- I was allowed to go alone or with my sister to places). They didn't set any curfews, but they didn't need to as I was pretty good about coming back at a decent hour. I also ate most of the meals with them and enjoyed going to theater shows, etc. with them. I didn't "check in" with them regularly, but we did talk a lot about what we were going to do each day so they had some idea of what I would be up to. Never had any problems, but my parents and I have a good relationship. They know that I'm not the crazy druggie type or spending all nights with the boys kind of person. My family is going cruising again in May, and since I'm 22 and an adult who hasn't lived at home for 4 years, I'm free to do whatever I'd like to, including in the ports (although since it is a family vacation, I plan to spend a good chunk of the time with family). Really, when it comes to the rules, I think it's important to discuss them with your kids beforehand and to come up with rules you both can live with and respect. This was really well said. And those of you who discussed that PARENTS also have a responsibility to keep up their end of the bargain were so right, too. The responsibility to live up to one's word is everyone's, not just the teenager's. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nliedel Posted March 8, 2006 #57 Share Posted March 8, 2006 Meet up on occassion and eat together. They will want some space but I don't think you should loose the dogs, so to speak. Also have a time they need to be in the cabin each night and sit on them if you have to :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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