Oof, they give you grief for not going? Hah, it's hard enough for me to talk to you nice internet strangers, I certainly don't want to sit with new people and eat dinner. Plus, honestly, it takes so long and I have other stuff I need to be doing. (Ok, that "stuff" might be trying out new cocktails, but that's still a thing to do!)
I think I'll just tell my concierge we're not into it early on. Maybe that will quiet it down. Not sure why they'd need to push it though.