Thank you for your thoughtful responses, and I appreciate the input and am not offended by anything said, especially from someone who spent a lot of time in palliative care. This has truly all been a tough road. Also, it's been years since I've been on this board, and I'm not finding where I can reply to a specific response so just responding generally!
So, my adult daughter just moved to NH from Boston where she was going to law school. Met a very nice guy and is planning to stay there until she gets some experience under her belt. She started a job for the state of Massachusetts a month ago... a job that took her a year to find, because she wants to work mostly virtual so she can travel back and forth to see her Dad. So, the earliest she can take a week off is Sept. So, we could push it up to September, even early Sept. She is the one who has been wanting to go on an Alaska cruise for years, while the rest of us, including my husband ho hummed it. Give us palm trees and steel drums any day. That said, I think he's showing interest because it means so much to her. He misses her terribly and when she does come home, which is frequently... she's working a lot (has bartending and waitressing jobs to keep her afloat while she was trying to find attorney jobs... lol. So, while we could go without her, and she being the very kind and generous person she is, would totally encourage that, I think I can say with certainty that neither one of us would want too. Spending time with her is a big part of this for us.
Your responses have given me a lot to think about as I didn't realize the weather in Oct would be so bad. It's also encouraging to hear about the accessible rooms availability. Money does not play a role in the time of year, I was just trying to push it out as far as I could for daughter's work situation.
Would early September be a bit better? I know there is no crystal ball here on weather, but generally?