I too am a recent widow (my husband died in 2020). My first cruise after he died was somewhat difficult, particularly the first few days. That first night at dinner, sitting across from an empty plate was a heartbreaker. I wondered how I was going to get through the whole cruise without crying at dinner every night. But then the server came by and I ordered my normal glass of Prosecco, and I raised my glass to the life that we had together, and the memories. You will get through this too. Here are the things that worked for me:
I signed up for a ship excursion at every port. I knew I would be safe, that I would be with a group, and that something interesting would happen that day. Mostly I kept to myself, but if couples looked like they needed a photo together, I offered to help. I complimented hats, asked where they got their backpacks and how they liked them.
As another commenter suggested, talk to crew members. I often start with learning where they are from. On a recent cruise, I discovered my server was from Montenegro. This is a country that I knew nothing about, so we chatted about it and I read up on it in Wikipedia. I was able to ask intelligent questions, which delighted him.
I like to practice my Italian with anyone who will tolerate it. 🙂
Standing at the rail at anytime, but particularly when there is something interesting going on, is excellent for starting initial conversations.
My goal is not to create friendships, but simple human interaction. A smile, a friendly wave if I recognize someone from an excursion - that’s enough for me.
Being a creature of habit helps. Sit at the same table, go to the same bar. Drink the same drink. Be recognizable, so that others will be able to wave at you, too!
Be sure to have a notebook and writing instrument with you, to save a table or when you go get refills at the buffet. I’ve also had success with asking if I sit at a large table with others, although during this covid-recovery process that hasn’t been as easy.
Since that first cruise as a widow in 2021, I’ve been on 4 other cruises. Each has been wonderful and soothing to my hurting heart. I remember how we watched the flying fish, and I visit the places that my husband loved to visit. It is hard but it is also healing. Like you, I have signed up for a world cruise in 2023 (well, one leg of a world cruise!). I am looking forward to new ports, new memories.
Be kind to yourself!
Amy