do you and your s.o. part ways on the ship?

[jetskier]

We go our own seperate ways but she keeps finding me. lol

Dave

[Jelli46]

Years ago, on a short cruise my husband and I stayed together 24/7. Now, on longer cruises, we don't. I get up early, he doesn't. I love sitting in the sun, he doesn't. We mostly do our own thing during the day on the ship, meeting for lunch. We may or may not do an afternoon activity together. From dinner on, we stay together. We leave notes and/or set up times to meet to stay connected. We also set up "check in" times with our sons and require them eat dinner with us. We all go into ports together.

[Jolimont]

Just wondering if you and your spouse ever go do different things individually, like he watch a sports game and she lay by the pool? Sometimes I like a little "me only" time but when I suggested this to hubby last time he felt slighted!:confused:

Yes, all the time. He spends time in the gym while I read on deck. Once in a while he goes to the very late night comedy shows while I sleep. Those European cruises are packed with ports and I need my beauty rest. We still spend most of our time together, but it doesn't have to be every minute.

[tree.critter]

We're a little bit different I'll say.... while I LOVE being on the ocean I was only able to talk my DH into joining me for one cruise, just not his thing. We're self employed so can plan whatever vacation time we want/need from work. We do work together also so spend most of our regular life together 24/7. We definitely separate...... at the airport if I'm flying in to cruise or else he drops me off at the dock for embarkation. Kisses me goodbye and says to have a great time!! 35 years together and I love that we can enjoy ourselves with just about anyone, love meeting new people and sharing time with old friends!! I've cruised alone, with my children and with group cruises in addition to the one with my main man:) All were great!!

[maarten288]

I part ways with my girlfriend when she goes to bed. She likes to go to bed early so I usually stay out late and may end up in someone else's room if I'm lucky. ;)

[bonnie&clydecruzers]

For us, we never leave each others side for the whole cruise. I enjoy her company so much that I never get bored with her or feel the need to go off and do my own thing. We both enjoy sleeping in, having a late breakfast and we will stay in the dance club till 4 am...together. I think she would get upset with me if I even suggested the idea of doing something alone.

 

We still get to meet new friends, people watch, hang out by the pool so everyone stays happy cause thats what we both enjoy. If I actually wanted to spend most of my days doing my own thing, I would just book a cruise alone. I guess it just depends if you and your S.O. like to do similar things.

[SASA13]

Definitely. DH is a permanent fixture in the casino on sea days, therefore, I am "on my own", and that is fine with me. I know where to find him, and he knows where to find me. I have no problem with not being glued at the hip, as many of my friends who cruise are.

[Cobra1365]

For the most part, we stick together. After 30+ yrs, we still like each other;).

 

But, she likes Bingo, I like Trivia...she likes to sit in the sun longer than I do, she likes the casino, I like my naps. So, occasionally, we go our separate ways. But not for long.

[reno3]

After breakfast DH and myself go our seperate ways.

We usually catch up with each other during the day at some point.

We (along with our son 17, now) have dinner together in the evening and we are together on the islands for excursions.

DH and myself are together after dinner for the shows etc.

and our son hangs out with his new friends.

[MISSSNOOPYGIRL]

I love your screen name!!! My husband and I used to spend all of our time together on the cruises. Now we set a time to meet each other to eat, play dominos, walk the deck, etc.. He loves to sit and talk to people, and I love to walk around the ship, sit and read a book, etc.. :)

 

I think this would make my cruise more interesting and give us more to chat about. I'm with the majority of you all and am going to tell hubby to take a (temporary) hike! :D

[MszKitty]

We spend time away from each other whether its just the two of us, or if we are traveling with a group. He's a big card player so he likes spending time in the casino. In the evenings, while he is at a table in the casino, I go to the nightclub. (I don't go and dance with strange men, I just like the atmosphere/music/vibe of it and people-watch.) If he's doing well in the casino, he might skip the show, and I go alone.

 

During a sea day, while he is in the casino, I'll go play a trivia game or go to a class of some sort (last cruise I went to a juggling class...that was fun...although it just proved how un-coordinated I am...lol) On sea days, I'm a later riser than he, so he will go to the buffet for breakfast without me....I don't expect (or want) him to wait for me.

I go to Meet & Greets...he doesn't.

A lot of times I wander the shops, wander the lido deck, wander the bars...just "wander". He's not a wanderer...lol

 

 

When we travel with family and/or friends, we've taken separate shore excursions...he went on a dune-buggy type excursion with everyone, while I did tequila-tasting factory tour. Other times, the men golfed while the ladies did something else.

 

 

That is the best part about a cruise. There is no need to be tied to one another 24 hrs. We can each do our own thing, but we can find each other in a matter of minutes because we both pretty much know where we will be.

 

 

Besides, we've been married 35 yrs...and are empty-nesters so we had/have a lot of together time!...lol

[woodsy64]

We always eat together and do the same excursions, but we don't stick together like glue on "at sea" days. Some things we do together and others a part.

[gelo7]

Sometimes.....

[nw2this]

He hangs out at the gym, the basketball court, the sauna, the steam room, and the track on ship days. I go to scheduled ship activities.

 

We stay together in the evening and on port days, but even that involves compromise. I like passive evening entertainment like shows/movies, he prefers more paticipatory evening fun like karaoke. For port days, I prefer adventure activities and he prefers shopping.

[PlanningToCruise]

Just wondering if you and your spouse ever go do different things individually, like he watch a sports game and she lay by the pool? Sometimes I like a little "me only" time but when I suggested this to hubby last time he felt slighted!:confused:

 

since it's vaca we usually spend most of the time together, but yes we do spend some time apart

[swscruiser]

dw will just check the folio on the tv to see where the last drink was purchased and find me there, lol!

 

roflmao

[ItsAllAboutTheSass]

We are rarely apart. We both enjoy laying in the sun, reading, the casino, maybe a show. The only time that we are really apart is after dinner, she will lay in bed and read and I will sit on the balcony and read.

[christie629]

Sometimes - My DH and I spend most of our time together but neither of us feel slighted if the other wants to check something out for a bit. For example: I like to read and my hubby doesn't like to watch me read :) What fun is that. Haa-haa

 

So...he plays Bingo since I'm not a fan. We spend 90% of the time together but if I want to go to the spa or something he doesn't mind at all. We can meet up a bit later:rolleyes:

 

Love the poster who said their DW checks the folio on the TV to see where the last drink was charged so they can find each other. Hysterical :)

[Mybearsbaby]

Gee, I guess we are the exceptions to the norm - we rarely do anything separate on a cruise. Cruising is usually our "reconnect" time-Cruising, for us, is like having a 5 to 7 day "date", and we love spending all that time together just for us. :)

 

 

 

This is how we are. Cruising is our "us time". We have been married for 5 years, but still spend time together like newlyweds. Now he IS a frequenter of the buffet, and I'm not as much, so sometimes he will go without me to get food, but other than that, we do almost everything together.I think it all depends on your relationship...there is nothing wrong with having alone time, or doing everything together...just whatever works for ya'll ;)

[Jenbo57]

do you leave the sticky notes on your door for ALL to see?

 

Nope...usually on the mirror above the phone.

 

Although last month, when we took our (adult) kids & grandson on a cruise, we had three cabins, and we stuck them on each others' doors. We were on the aft end of the ship, however; not much foot traffic. There wasn't much to read that would have been very interesting to anyone else: "Food", "Water slide", "Deck 10", "Baby sleeping", etc. The funniest was when my son wasn't feeling well and put his Snoozin' card on the door knob and a pink sticky note on the door that said, in big black letters, "Yes, really!"

[crzycick]

For the most part we're glued at the hip. When he drank too much in Cozumel he spent over 16 hours in bed and I did go out and do stuff. There is the occasional time we split ways, like he tries to make it to the gym at least every other day, but we pretty much have the same interests. Neither of us gamble or hang out at the pool and he doesn't watch sports and I can't afford spa treatments (I'd so be there if I could!). Sometimes we'll draw each other out of our comfort zones which can be fun. I like going to the shows like the marriage show and he didn't think he'd like it but he had fun. When looking at excursions one might be right up my alley and not his and another might be his thing and not mine, but we always find one that we both enjoy or offers something for each of us. In Cozumel we went to Nochi Cocom where I got a massage on the beach while he snorkeled more. We were both happy but still together.

 

 

But I've also had to get used to being on my own. Thankfully he's only had 1 8 month deployment but I had to do everything myself. He has duty a lot and used to work through the night most nights for years. There was a long period of time that he only slept a few hours every night, under his desk at work. The only way I'd get to see him was by going to his office and reading a magazine while he worked at 2 am. Our last 2 cruises were during those times. Actually our first cruise was financed by his deployment.

 

We rarely get to see family and he can rarely take time off work so in April I went to visit family for a month which turned into 2 months plus I went on a cruise with his mom and sister. For Christmas I went home for a month and he was able to be there for 10 days. Some people are shocked that I'd leave him for so long but I needed to spend time with family and he understood that.

[kcdancerkc]

I love this thread!

 

Our previous 3 cruises we lived apart over 7+ years of dating, so it was great having more than just a weekend to ourselves.

 

Now we have been married and in the same abode for a year - who knows LOL

 

But no matter where - land or sea - new hubby alwwwwways spends first 1 1/2 hours taking pictures of everything

 

It used to bother me, but he wants to get picts of stuff before everyone is packed in there, decor, lounges and stuff

 

This will be our first time to have 4 sea days - so I'm sure we will be doing 80 - 90 % stuff together = but will have time to pursue different things if we wish. However, we both really like most of the same things, but not always at the same time

 

One Mandantory delight is to dance the night away in the disco till wee hours of the morning as much as possible!

 

One poster mentioned going on separate excursions.... I would be fearful / hesitant, unless we had been to that particular place many, many times.

 

To each his own!

[Yvonne]

Yes, we each "do our own thing" sometimes on the cruise. I always take a little pad of sticky notes, and we write notes for each other on the mirror to let each othe know where we're going to be.

 

He enjoys finding a quiet place on the ship to read, or he may want to go to a demonstration or something that I'm not interested in, and vice versa. He isn't interested in souvenir shopping so I generally do that on my own. Occasionally we've even eaten lunch in different venues.

 

We start our mornings together, with breakfast on the balcony, and go to dinner together and the evening show, comedy show, etc. but yes, quite often during the day we will each go our separate ways for awhile.

[Texaslandshark]

We spend tons of time apart! That is one of the best things about being on a cruise, we can do separate things but still meet up with each other. My husband is a very early riser and he can go up on deck and have coffee and watch the sunrise while I serenely sleep! We do shore excursions together and eat dinner together but while on the ship, we may do different things.

I can't express it better..except I'm the guy part.

[campdaan]

"I promise I won't be more than 900 feet away, and I won't get off the ship without you..."

She likes to get a book and a lounger, and I roam around "touching stuff"

 

It works !