I need your help cruise critic!! What if there is misbehaving adults!

[I<3Cruises]

I am cruising in July on the Fascination with my two good friends who are in a serious relationship and may be getting engaged in the coming months...and they tend get into arguements when they get a little tipsy (and since were going to be getting tipsy every night :p ... and being that this is my vacation too...would you say something to them before hand to the effect of "if you guys fight on this cruise i dont want to hear about it, i dont want to see it, and if it happens i pretty much am going to look the other way." or should i wait and see if they fight on the cruise and then say something.

 

The last thing i want to do is cause tension before we go on this cruise but i kinda feel like if i don't say something before hand i might flip out on the cruise and then all hell will break loose....

 

PLEASE HELP!! you guys always give great advice!

[*Mach*]

I'm not sure how I would phrase it but I would remind them that should they get difficult and obnoxious the security folks will get interested in them real fast...

;)

[bemarshall]

I don't know if I would say anything. I had a friend (we are no longer close) that would have a totally different personality when she would drink (part of the reason we are no longer close!) She knows she gets out of hand (i.e. obnoxious) when she drinks, but she chooses to drink anyway. I'm sure your friends pretty much know that they are going to fight when they drink ... it's what they do. You saying something beforehand won't stop it. My advice to you is if they start to argue, go the other way as quickly as possible. They are not YOUR responsibility (this took me a long time to realize in the relationship with my friend). The ship is plenty big that there will be lots of places to have fun elsewhere. Definitely don't get in the middle of it and let it ruin your good time! Just my two cents!!

[Wennfred]

If you feel its going there, just get up and leave, that should send a message to them. If it happens during dinner, get up and go to Lido and eat there and if it gets pretty bad, request a table change asap. Youre not there to baby sit but to have a good vacation.

 

 

Fred

[NYCFOD]

If they turn out to be really obnoxious drunks who spoil everyone's night, they'll probably get cut off from alcohol fairly early (they're S & S cards will be noted) or if they're really bad, booted off the ship altogether. If it's just joking sort of sqabbling I doubt anyone will worry about that. Too bad if you're sharing a cabin with them. You never know they might surprise you on this trip and be on their best behavior.

[TakeMeAway1001]

We had friends on our last cruise who got way out of line and I finally said something to them. The main culprit was the husband (DH's friend) his behavior ranged from drunken episodes of leaning around the balcony partition screaming our names to pounding on our door in the wee hours of the AM as they were staggering to their cabin.

 

He made comments about us sitting in the window seat at dinner yet he was never on time. When we were sitting at a bar he kept snapping his fingers at the bartender and yelling "Hey buddy over here", I just felt sick everytime I saw him coming around the corner.

 

At the shows he would yell comments really loud to the participants. If we were on the deck he would no doubt find us no matter how hard we tried to avoid him. I know his wife felt badly but according to him it was his first time away from his kids and he was going to make the best of it.

 

The last straw was when I was dozing on the balcony one afternoon and he leaned over the divider and yelled DH's name really loud, I nearly fell out of the chair. I got up and said you know this is my vacation too and your ruining it for me, he looked at me and said "oh sorry" and I went in and shut the door. That night at dinner he asked me if I had calmed down and I felt like saying screw you pal, your the one who has to calm down. The rest of the cruise was definitely different, at first DH was mad at me but he soon realized his friends behavior was out of line.

 

I didn't really offer you and advice because there was no way to predict his friend would act like an donkey because he had never acted that way in front of me before. I think regardless of whether or not you bring it up if booze is involved chances are they won't remember agreeing to anything. I wish you the best of luck :)

[txladydi]

I think I would speak to them before sailing. But don't expect much. Can you video tape them before you go, when they get into one of these arguments? Then show them how they look, act and sound after they sober up? Might work, might not.

 

Second question, if you know they are this way when tipsy, why are you sailing with them? Personally, I would rather sail with folks who are happy when tipsy.

 

Diane from Texas

[nrdsb4]

I am cruising in July on the Fascination with my two good friends who are in a serious relationship and may be getting engaged in the coming months...and they tend get into arguements when they get a little tipsy (and since were going to be getting tipsy every night :p ... and being that this is my vacation too...would you say something to them before hand to the effect of "if you guys fight on this cruise i dont want to hear about it' date=' i dont want to see it, and if it happens i pretty much am going to look the other way." or should i wait and see if they fight on the cruise and then say something.

 

The last thing i want to do is cause tension before we go on this cruise but i kinda feel like if i don't say something before hand i might flip out on the cruise and then all hell will break loose....

 

PLEASE HELP!! you guys always give great advice!

 

I definitely would not say anything in the midst of an alcohol fueled argument. If they care about each other and say awful feelings to each other when drinking, what's going to stop them from saying something awful to you? I think you could find yourself in a situation in which things are said that could hurt your feelings or even end your friendship.

 

I agree with others, take off if they start at it. Maybe talk about it later once they're sober if something particular upsets you.

[Amlee]

If you are sharing a cabin with them. Just remember in most cases, if one in the cabin is asked to leave, the whole cabin is asked to leave.

 

In all honestly, you never truly know someone until you have cruised with them. Set the ground rules before you even sail. It's easier that way!

[NCTribeFan]

Excellent! A couple that fights, especially when drinking, who are getting engaged. Sounds like a recipe for a successful marriage. :rolleyes: And perhaps another thread about someone going missing at 1am off the ship.

 

I simply wouldn't sail with them. I enjoy a drink or three, but being around bickering drunks is not my idea of a good time.

[TheWog]

I am cruising in July on the Fascination with my two good friends who are in a serious relationship and may be getting engaged in the coming months...and they tend get into arguements when they get a little tipsy (and since were going to be getting tipsy every night :p ... and being that this is my vacation too...would you say something to them before hand to the effect of "if you guys fight on this cruise i dont want to hear about it' date=' i dont want to see it, and if it happens i pretty much am going to look the other way." or should i wait and see if they fight on the cruise and then say something.

 

The last thing i want to do is cause tension before we go on this cruise but i kinda feel like if i don't say something before hand i might flip out on the cruise and then all hell will break loose....

 

PLEASE HELP!! you guys always give great advice![/quote']

 

If it is a proven fact that they always do this and they also acknowledge they do this, then I would definitely say something. Let them know going in, its your vacation too and if they want to act that way, fine, just take it somewhere else and come find us when you are all done. Also, don't want to hear the "he did this" or "she did that". If you are good enough friends they will understand.

[I<3Cruises]

Thanks everyone but i do need to clarify a few things...they tend to only fight with each other and the arguements are the stupidest things...and i dont think it would ever go so far as to them getting thrown off the ship...

 

Oh and my cabin is adjoining to theirs....

 

SO im not worried about them getting mad at me and if they do then that's their problem...

 

I never thought it was this bad until the last couple times i have hung out with them, and with the thought of this possibly getting in the way of my cruise...oh no im not having it...

 

And the thing im most concerned about is not so much the fighting because trust me i will walk away from it....but its more so the venting....im on this cruise to have a great time and not to hear them b%tching to me about each other...

 

So i think im going to just mention something to them before we leave and not make it such a big deal...i would hope my friends know me well enough that im not trying to attack them and that i just wanna have a good time on my cruise...

 

But thanks and keep the comments coming!!!!

[memecakes]

email them this thread.......:D

[katiel53]

Excellent! A couple that fights, especially when drinking, who are getting engaged. Sounds like a recipe for a successful marriage. :rolleyes: And perhaps another thread about someone going missing at 1am off the ship.

 

I simply wouldn't sail with them. I enjoy a drink or three, but being around bickering drunks is not my idea of a good time.

 

I totally agree with you! Why subject yourself this in the first place?

[Tapi]

I never thought it was this bad until the last couple times i have hung out with them' date=' and with the thought of this possibly getting in the way of my cruise...oh no im not having it...

 

And the thing im most concerned about is not so much the fighting because trust me i will walk away from it....but its more so the venting....im on this cruise to have a great time and not to hear them b%tching to me about each other...[/quote']

 

Not to spoil their engagement, but the description of your friends remind me of my best friend and his now ex-wife when they were dating.

 

What we thought was "obnoxious behavior when they were drinking", turned out to be a recipe for disaster once they were married. They lasted 3 years before they got divorced and before my friend realized that his ex had a legitimate problem with alcohol. It wasn't the amount she consumed, but the way that she reacted to it.

 

By the way, you can tell them what YOU will do if they make an a$%# of themselves (leave the dining table, walk away, not talk to them for the rest of the cruise, etc), but you can't tell them what THEY should do. You truly have no control over their actions, only yours...

[Pegs222]

I'm not sure how I would phrase it but I would remind them that should they get difficult and obnoxious the security folks will get interested in them real fast...

 

;)

 

And you may want to say that even if that does not happen there will be pax that may not look the other way. They may say something that they do not want to hear.

 

Your friends are getting engaged, this is a time for celebration not for angry words.

[In2why]

Excellent! A couple that fights, especially when drinking, who are getting engaged. Sounds like a recipe for a successful marriage. :rolleyes: And perhaps another thread about someone going missing at 1am off the ship.

 

I simply wouldn't sail with them. I enjoy a drink or three, but being around bickering drunks is not my idea of a good time.

 

 

You wrote what I was thinking. I hope they do not have children before their relationship implodes.

 

If it were me I wouldn't go on vacation with them. Are you a glutton for punishment? Seriously. My family tree has a few drunken branches and it really isn't any fun being the 'responsible" person in the group. Trust me....this behavior isn't sane.

[dogsrule]

UGH........sounds like a disgusting way to spend a cruise....why bother???

[Kurbanfan]

I totally agree with you! Why subject yourself this in the first place?

 

I agree!

 

If it were me I wouldn't go on vacation with them. Are you a glutton for punishment?

 

I agree!

 

UGH........sounds like a disgusting way to spend a cruise....why bother???

 

I agree!

[Pegs222]

You wrote what I was thinking. I hope they do not have children before their relationship implodes.

 

If it were me I wouldn't go on vacation with them. Are you a glutton for punishment? Seriously. My family tree has a few drunken branches and it really isn't any fun being the 'responsible" person in the group. Trust me....this behavior isn't sane.

 

And if they do, praise be please do not let them bring said children on a cruise ;)

 

BTW, what happened to the thread about toddlers going on a cruise? What made it go "poof"?

[caribbean dreams]

Don't know how bad their fights are but on the Conquest there was a newlywed couple about 3 doors down from us, they would fight & yell everynight.......He was kicked off the ship in Cozumel and she chose to finish her honeymoon alone on the ship.

[Kurbanfan]

BTW, what happened to the thread about toddlers going on a cruise? What made it go "poof"?

 

 

I believe the op was criticised by 2 people;) Now whether they were drunks or abused who knows:p

[Pegs222]

I believe the op was criticised by 2 people;) Now whether they were drunks or abused who knows:p

 

Ah, of course. I was trying to reply to that one and it would not go through. I have always wondered why people come here, ask a question and then get mad and accuse people of things when they do not like the answers they get.

[dan40]

I am cruising in July on the Fascination with my two good friends who are in a serious relationship and may be getting engaged in the coming months...and they tend get into arguements when they get a little tipsy (and since were going to be getting tipsy every night :p ... and being that this is my vacation too...would you say something to them before hand to the effect of "if you guys fight on this cruise i dont want to hear about it' date=' i dont want to see it, and if it happens i pretty much am going to look the other way." or should i wait and see if they fight on the cruise and then say something.

 

The last thing i want to do is cause tension before we go on this cruise but i kinda feel like if i don't say something before hand i might flip out on the cruise and then all hell will break loose....

 

PLEASE HELP!! you guys always give great advice![/quote']

 

Go to the friends store, order new friends. Try to get a matched set this time!

 

Dan

[I<3Cruises]

email them this thread.......:D

 

 

That is not such a bad idea...:p