Do guys ever cruise as a single?

[NLP33]

Hang out with your mom during the day but do some time away from her in the casino, bars and disco in the evening. That is where any singles will gravitate after 10pm. Make sure to smile and say Hi! :)

 

Very simple but very important.

[GreySkies]

GreySkies, I suggest visiting the CC roll call for your cruise and stating your status as well as looking to see if other singles have stated they're single.

 

This would have been great if there were more than the following on my roll call:

myself

my mom

one couple with a teenage daughter

another party of 5

 

I'll definitely try to go to the casino and/or bar on the trip, as well as the Singles Meet-Up, if there is one. (I don't do well with loud noise though, so I imagine the disco is out.)

 

Thanks,

[NLP33]

What cruise line are you traveling and age range?

[GreySkies]

I'll be on Princess. My age range is 30 - 40.

[mavis2222]

Not everybody single will be on the "roll call" list. Allot of them dont even use CC website. You be suprized there will be more then you think.

[GreySkies]

Thanks. My goal is to just learn to talk to single guys. Now, for the next stupid question: What are good topics to start a conversation with?

[mfeenker]

Thanks. My goal is to just learn to talk to single guys. Now, for the next stupid question: What are good topics to start a conversation with?

GreySkies, Start with hello as in any conversation then if you are interested in the person introduce yourself and ask what the persons plans are in the different ports and go from there.

[NLP33]

Remember to smile and say Hi. Look available. By that I mean do not sit in a corner or with a group of women. Sit by the bar, pool, casino alone. Sit where there are open seats around you for a guy to join you. Smile and say Hi. Ask for help choosing a drink or how to play a game etc. That is enough of an opening for even a clueless man to respond. More guys will approach a single lady by herself. So avoid hanging out with married women, at least at night. I would just assume you were married as well.

[Mahalia40]

Hi everyone,

 

I would also like to know the answer to the OP question. Looking forward to my first solo/single cruise early in 2011. I still have to make up my mind on which ship/line to go. Looking forward to time alone but also meeting ne people. Just out of a long term relationship and the cruise is my way of coming back to life:D

[mavis2222]

I would totally go for a guy wearing a kilt. I agree with the teenagers and I generally just like a guy who isn't afraid to be himself.

 

I too am quite shy and have trouble meeting people. I'm good if someone starts talking to me but approaching people on my own has always been nerve racking for me. I am going on my first solo cruise in Jan. A little nervous. Worried I won't meet people my own age.

Funny we both have that exact same problem...

[harmonysrq]

Single guys do go on cruises. I met my future wife on a cruiseship 18 years ago and we have been happily married for 16 years. For us "The Love Boat" was the NCL Skyward back in '86. We met in a place called "Carlos and Charlies" in Cancun. We actually went back to Cancun this year with our two kids. It was the last thing I was looking for back then due to just getting over a relationship also but you never know when the right one will come along. I have done about 5 cruises since then and 4 cruises before I met my wife. You have to put away all of your fears, take a deep breath, and step out. Good luck

 

Superdave, I see your post is really old, but I just love your story. I was perusing the "singles" cruise thread for some courage/inspiration and saw your post. I'm a single female cruising xmas week Dec 19 - 26 2010 on HAL Ryndam, maybe I will have such luck to find a single male who loves Cruising....

[Single Cruiser]

I'm a single guy who has been on 6 cruises so far, 7th in Dec and 8th next May..

[VisualFX]

I am a single guy (38yo) going on my first cruise with a male friend. We are both single. I would suspect a lot of guys don't even meet anyone. I do occasionally go to the gym, but am presently 20lbs overweight and not in shape. I suspect the cruise ship will be just like going to a bar or something, where all the singles are looking for Mr. Perfect and Mr. Buff. Who is going to talk to or notice an overweight guy at the pool? :(

[Single Cruiser]

I am a single guy (38yo) going on my first cruise with a male friend. We are both single. I would suspect a lot of guys don't even meet anyone. I do occasionally go to the gym, but am presently 20lbs overweight and not in shape. I suspect the cruise ship will be just like going to a bar or something, where all the singles are looking for Mr. Perfect and Mr. Buff. Who is going to talk to or notice an overweight guy at the pool? :(

 

That story is so true. Unless you have the bod to show on display most women and guys never notice you!

[Mahalia40]

Single Cruiser, VisualFX I hardly think women only look at a man's body. They also want a brain in there somewhere! Talk to us guys! Come over and say hi, be confident.

IT's the same for women. If we're not the ''eye candy'' we don't attract your eye either.

 

My group of female friends and I are all professionnals, educated, reasonnably good-looking, independant, with engaging personnalities. When we go out, we scare the hell out of men (we don't set out to be!). Our male friends (DH to my friends), say we can be intimidating just because we're so driven. In university we could clean out a full dance floor just by telling guys we were studying to be doctors.

[fireofficer5]

Visual and Single, sounds like you allready lost the game whithout getting in to play.

[Mahalia40]

Fireofficer5, that's what I meant but in a blonde sort of way:rolleyes:

[gstarr]

I just got back from a 7 day cruise as a single guy. Only my second cruise ever (last one over 7 years ago). It was fun not having to worry about anyone but myself. I really didn't see any opportunity to connect with a single woman because the ones that I could tell might be single were with friends and groups.

[Passin Thru]

I don't believe any of it. I weighed about 120 lb when I married a hot Texan and I ahd all kinds of dates before that. I learned ballroom dancing from the best instructor in the world and would ask women , "Do you want to go dancing?" If they could dance they were excited to go, and if theys said they couldnt, I would say, "Well I'll teach ya!" Works either way.

 

 

Are Harley riders different than humans?

[harmonysrq]

I just got back from a 7 day cruise as a single guy. Only my second cruise ever (last one over 7 years ago). It was fun not having to worry about anyone but myself. I really didn't see any opportunity to connect with a single woman because the ones that I could tell might be single were with friends and groups.

 

 

Girls like attention. It really doesn't matter if girls are out in a group (my girlfriends and I go out together in hopes of meeting nice guys) So if you see a couple of girls or one all by herself, don't be shy. If it's in a social setting i.e. "bar, club, cruise, beach" etc, a guy has nothing to lose by trying to be friendly....in most cases that is what the girl (girls) are hoping for. We may be pretty, smart, assertive, intimidating, but some of us are still old fashioned and would like the male to make the first move. I hope in December on my cruise one of you will be brave enough to see me and say "hello"!

[Torgo]

I'm both a single guy AND first time cruiser, going on my first on the Enchantment in about 12 days. I'm excited to possibly meet someone on the ship, but it's certainly not a goal. I really do think it's all in your mindset. Go on, have fun, don't be shy, and don't think you HAVE to hook up with someone, and I don't think you can really go wrong there.

 

I'd be interested in doing a singles cruise at some point in the future, but for right now I think just doing some solo cruising works fine for me!

[SwissDave]

I've had 3 cruises as a single, and 2 with friends (they were together - but I was still a 'single').

 

I like the freedom to just do what I want to do, when I want to do it.

 

Joining the roll calls is a good way to meet people if you have arranged a get together on board.

 

There is always someone to talk to on board though. Often the bartenders realise very quickly that you are on your own and seem to make special effort to talk to you.

 

My next 2 cruises book are also as a single - cant wait :)

[zgwortz]

I'm another 40-something single guy who likes cruising solo. I've been on 10 cruises - 8 of them as a single but traveling with a group, and 2 completely solo, and in a way, I liked the completely solo ones better. (I'm tentatively planning another on the Carnival Pride in late January...) On nearly all of my cruises, single men generally equalled or outnumbered the single women on board, but of course, both were severely outnumbered by couples.

 

I've never had any trouble meeting people and making friends to hang out with, but then, I don't just look for people who are single. I've made plenty of friends at CC role calls, or hanging out in the dance club, or on shore excursions, and the like. No need to limit your interactions with other singles, or even necessarily people "in your age range" (IMHO, age is overrated...).

 

Of course, if you're looking to hook up with someone for something more, um, extracurricular, *that* is when you really need to be looking for other singles. ;-) The singles meet and greets are usually completely unstructured and worthless, but sometime they can be more interesting, so don't pass them up. Personally, I think cruise ships aren't the best way to hook up with someone, but it's possible to do so, and I always keep an eye out myself, but never make it a priority.

 

Girls like attention. It really doesn't matter if girls are out in a group (my girlfriends and I go out together in hopes of meeting nice guys) So if you see a couple of girls or one all by herself, don't be shy. If it's in a social setting i.e. "bar, club, cruise, beach" etc, a guy has nothing to lose by trying to be friendly....in most cases that is what the girl (girls) are hoping for. We may be pretty, smart, assertive, intimidating, but some of us are still old fashioned and would like the male to make the first move.

 

That works well in just about any other setting but a cruise. On a cruise, couples outnumber singles by a huge amount compared to any other social venue.

 

Single guys, especially those traveling solo, are fairly easy to spot on a cruise -- we're usually the only ones sitting alone at the bar, or going to the dance floor, or attending a show or other activity. If a guy is hanging out with other guys, he's more than likely part of a couple, or some kind of large Group. (Or he's in the casino -- the rules don't apply there...)

 

Single women on cruises, however, tend to travel in small groups as you pointed out, which makes it almost impossible for any single guy to distinguish them from the women who aren't single. You almost never see a single woman sitting alone, even if they're traveling solo - they'll still tend to find and hang out with the other single women.

 

So it's not really a matter of the guys being shy or not particularly friendly. If we see you with other women on a cruise, and given how much couples outnumber the singles on cruises, the odds are something like 98% that you're taken, so we simply move on. If we tried talking with every group of interesting women we saw, we'd probably give up in frustration *long* before finding you.

 

So if you ladies *really* want to increase your odds of meeting single guys on a cruise, you're much better off splitting up, *especially* if you want the guy to make the first move. Of course, your best odds are to make that first move yourself. Guys like attention too, and as I said, single guys are much easier to spot... :D

[Mahalia40]

Hey Steve,

I'm newly single here so I'd like some pointers:). Please tell me how I can identify single guys on a cruise or anywhere else for that matter? You say they are easier to spot than single women. Potentially useful info for my first solo cruise:D

[ZeusLA]

I'll be going on my second solo cruise in Nov. (Celebrity Summit 11/20). I've been on several cruises with friend and family. I was always single.

 

While cruising wasn't made for single people, it is a great way to relax and the great thinng about going solo is that you ALWAYS do what you want. And all your needs are taken care of.

 

I might find someone to join me as this was a impulse trip ( I had to take some vacation), but if not,I look forward to going solo again.

 

Kevin