I need advice from the Gentlemen...or anyone who would like to help me!

[happyteacher1214]

Hi everyone. My BF and I will be sailing on Navigator on December 5th. Its a five night cruise...and I am very excited to go...This will be my 5th cruise and my BF first. On the previous four cruises I have sailed three times with my parents and once with just friends. Therefore this is my official first "honeymoon" cruise....a HUGE difference for me in my opinion.

 

Ok so here is my question...Gentlemen: what is the one or few things that you would like for your woman to do for you (and NO we are NOT going there)....what I am trying to say is should I try my best to accomodate a lot romantic options like breakfast in our balcony, wine at night, walk around the promenade?? walk around the outside walkways?? In other words, what are the most romantic things to do that YOU have enjoyed doing with your sweetie? Do you like it when they force you to go to all of these shows at night or would you rather just sit back and relax at the bar (smoking a cuban cigar LOL)

 

 

My BF is really laid back and relaxed he is not into sports he would probably just enjoy laying by the pool listening to music, however we love to dance salsa and drink mojitos.. (just to give you an overview) and we LOVE to try new foods...

 

Girls if you have suggestions, PLEASE post. Any help, suggestions, ideas would be greatly appreciated....

[tmann4]

crash by the pool, find a couple of deck chairs and get some sun, hit the piano bar with a nice cocktail, grab a couple deck chairs that night and gaze at the stars. Take a late night stroll around the deck, eat at one of the "nicer" restaurants. Go for a couples massage if they have one. There is a lot to do. That is just on the ship. There is a lot to do on the islands.

Good luck and have fun.

[S&Dcruising]

I'm not sure this will help or not, but what DW and I do is after reading the compass we each decide what each of us want to do, then see what fits and what doesn't fit our time frames, and then compromise on what don't fit the time frames. (I'll do this with you if you'll do this with me)

As for just spending time with each other (strolling the deck, watching the ocean go by, ect..)( I wont go there either:)) We like to just let that happen. Sometimes spontaneity is a wonderful thing.

[Trainman-2]

If you are in a cabin with a balcony, nothing beats morning coffee or evening wine looking over the waves.

 

If you are not with a balcony, simply explore the ship together. Review the Compass together each night and pick things that interest both of you.

 

 

Relay, enjoy, be yourself.

[happyteacher1214]

Gentlemen...thank you so much for your input! couples massages....that sounds devine...

 

We do have a balcony room, so if any of you have had experience with breakfast in the balcony...will it be too muggy or hot to eat outside in the balcony in December? Also do you really hear the ocean at night so that we can crack the doors and listen to the ocean all night??? I dont know about you guys but I always have slept sooo good when I have been on a cruise and I have always sailed interior (with my two smaller siblings LOL)

 

Also, does Navigator have the upgraded linens that I hear so much?

 

Thank you again for all of your help!!!!!

[cb at sea]

Unless you have a suite with a dining table, eating on the balcony is NOT romantic...it's a pain in the a**!

Do whatever your honey wants to do...let HIM set the tone! There are so many options, you don't have to "pre-plan" your romance!

[happyteacher1214]

CB you are probably right....where do you put the food??? On your lap? What would be nice however might be to just order coffee and OJ and watch the ship pull into Labadee? or Jamaica mmmm you guys are giving me some really good ideas and suggestions....thank you all!

 

I really dont want to force him to do anything he doesnt want to do...so looking at the compass and agreeing on a few things that we might get to do or try doing sounds better. He has a very stressful job (military helicopter mechanic) so i know he wants to have a very very relaxed time...

 

Thank you all!!!!!

[gatour]

My BF is really laid back and relaxed he is not into sports he would probably just enjoy laying by the pool listening to music, however we love to dance salsa and drink mojitos.. (just to give you an overview) and we LOVE to try new foods...

 

This is the key part of your question. As a guy, while I can tell you what I would like for my wife to do, that is only applicable to me and not your BF.

 

On one day, do the things that he likes to do but you may not like to (if there are some things like that). Along the new foods thought, do research on the ports you are visiting and try to find a restaurant that server local foods that you may have not tried before.

[SliderNc]

My girlfriend and I took our first cruise together last December on the Mariner. It was in the low-mid 80s at each port we were at.

 

For the most part, we just did whatever both wanted to do and without really planning anything. A few of the things we did do:

 

sea days - relaxed at the solarium with some drinks and used the hot tub

labadee - took the overpriced jetski excursion and then just beached it for the day

jamaica - dunns river falls excursion and tubing

 

at night, we had late seating so we'd come back after spending the day in port, hit the hot tubs with a cold one and then head back to the room to relax on the balcony as we sailed away. Before dinner, we'd hit a bar and have a martini, head to dinner and have wine, then hit a show or the casino. We just let it happen as it happened. We did plan to see the Ice show, but that was it.

 

One of our friends (couples) did the Razul treatment at the spa and said it was great.

 

Either way, do what you'd both like to do and just let it happen. That's all i can recommend.

 

Have a good time.

[themaxydog]

Happyteacher1214 your BF sounds a little like me and I am ex military. When my DW and I did our first cruise I organised everything, tours, eating the lot (yes I know typical male:o). At the end of the cruise it took about 2 months before my wife said to me that the cruise was not what she had expected.

The next cruise I organised nothing. We slept late, had coffee on the balcony before being last to breakfast if we even got there at all. More coffee and cake (all men like cake:D) in any one of the lounges, laze around the pool, afternoon drinks at the pool bar and meet people, last into dinner and then picked either a show, disco or a quiet bar depending on the mood. Lazy walk back to the cabin via anywhere and did the same thing the next day. No shore tours, we didn't even get off the ship until the end of the cruise and then we didnt want to.

Our last cruise was exactly the same except we did get off once and all we did was find a good place to eat and drink and talked to the locals all day.

The answer to your question is....... dont stress, dont organise and enjoy;).

[ejr1960]

spa treatment for two

[JeffHatfield]

Take a walk up on the deck after dinner. (But hang on to your skirt/dress, because it gets windy up there).

[dosherpack]

Join the Balcony Club!!!!! I guess I "went there", didn't I?:rolleyes:;)

[chaswelf]

Take a walk up on the deck after dinner. (But hang on to your skirt/dress, because it gets windy up there).

 

Or not....

[Florida Cruisin' Couple]

We sleep late - sometimes til noon, we walk the ship, we decide together what to do and plan nothing in advance.

 

We get off in all the ports and hold hands and walk, sometimes we do excursions. We just enjoy each others companies.

 

I hate the spa - I am not good at being still that long - I want to be doing something! It drives me nuts. We did the couples things with the creams and lotions and we both hated that. It was for an hour. We showered and got out of there in 20 minutes.

 

At night we often went to one of the clubs and sat outside where we can watch the entertainer but not be in a smoky bar. We really enjoyed that!

 

The ports were our favorite part - that and sleeping whenevere we wanted to. Sometimes we ordered the fried chicken wings and cookies from room service and ate them in bed.

 

Just do what the two of you enjoy doing but don't overplan. Decide together.

[HOHSgunny]

As someone already posted, My wife and I enjoy sitting on the Balcony with our morning coffee (tea for me) to get the day started and a glass of wine at night to relax for bed - last year we sailed past Hurricane Paloma and sitting on the balcony with the lightning was awesome (also made for some thunder that night :eek: opps you did not want to go there ;)).

This coming cruise we are going to do the couples massage. I also have the ultimate romance package set up for this cruise ( celebrating our 19th anniversary) which the DW does not know about.

[Dusty46]

I think probably 2 of the more memorable times with my wife as far as touchy feely time went was 1. Climbing the falls, I think it was all the dragging and pushing and pulling and tugging and holding each other it took to make the climb. 2. The jet skis really get the hugging going too.

[PearlRabbit]

Whatever ship you are sailing, go find the helicopter landing pad. it is usually on the front tip of the boat with dramatic windy views. It is romantic and exciting and not usually well populated, so you get a rare chance for quiet alone time (outside of your cabin) on a giant ship teaming with people. You can do the "king of the world" recreation from Titanic or get some great photos. I took my hubby there on one of our cruises at sunset and it was just breathtaking and one of our best memories from that trip.:D

[ORANGEinINDY]

......One of our friends (couples) did the Razul treatment at the spa and said it was great......

Two thumbs up:D:rolleyes:

 

Ok so here is my question...Gentlemen: what is the one or few things that you would like for your woman to do for you (and NO we are NOT going there)........

Just so you know Rasul IS going there:o

 

My BF is really laid back and relaxed he is not into sports he would probably just enjoy laying by the pool listening to music, however we love to dance salsa and drink mojitos.. (just to give you an overview) and we LOVE to try new foods...

....

You answered your own question

 

I'm not sure this will help or not, but what DW and I do is after reading the compass we each decide what each of us want to do, then see what fits and what doesn't fit our time frames, and then compromise on what don't fit the time frames. (I'll do this with you if you'll do this with me)

I always heard to use two highlighters one yellow, one blue..... then go do all the green ones!

[RCIGUY]

My DW and I enjoy a late night visit under the the stars, to one of the whirlpools, accompanied by champagne and chocolate covered strawberries.

[cruiseguy1016]

We do have a balcony room, so if any of you have had experience with breakfast in the balcony...will it be too muggy or hot to eat outside in the balcony in December? Also do you really hear the ocean at night so that we can crack the doors and listen to the ocean all night??? I dont know about you guys but I always have slept sooo good when I have been on a cruise and I have always sailed interior (with my two smaller siblings LOL)

 

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Yes, you can hear the ocean. Two things about leaving the balcony door open though. One, the air conditioning will not work if your door is propped open. There is a micro switch that turns the air off so you are not trying to cool the entire Caribbean. Second, it is not uncommon for birds and/or bats (yes, bats) to fly into your cabin if the door is open. I had read several reports here about bats flying into cabins but I did not believe them. On our cruise last March with some friends, they left their door open one night and guess what, they awoke in the middle of the night to find a bat flying around inside their cabin.

[zywnywld]

Relax and enjoy being together. Take time to talk about what to do for each day and just communicate. If your newly married talking about what you can do each day of the cruise should be good ground work for the future. You may find vacations aren't often while starting out together, so just enjoy the time.

[Garyorient]

As a male, I enjoy letting my wife decide the schedule, the plans and everything.

 

It is her holiday as much as mine, I select where we are going and she sets the plans whilst we are there.

 

Works pretty well after 30 years

[carhirer]

OK - I'll declare myself up front to be a 58 yr old Brit bloke. So what works for me probably won't work for you young honeymooners!

 

But Jeez! Romantic? That's a big ask. I would certainly think very hard before booking spa treatments. But you know your BF better than we do.

 

My romantic memory was seeing my wife all dressed up for the evening. And the pre-dinner stroll along Deck 4 when the sun was setting was nice.

 

Fetching me a beer before lunchtime would have been nice.

[luckyprincess]

How fun!!! My and my bf's first cruise (and first vacay in 6 years!:eek:) was on Radiance two years ago. Now we're going on FOS in Jan. He is super laid back too, but loves sports (we both do). I would say our favorite thing to do would be have breakfast on the balcony. Just take your coffee table and put it outside on the balcony - plenty of room to eat! We would order room service and just wake up and sit out there. Super romantic!

I ordered champagne for us for the sailaway and we had our own party on our balcony instead of up on deck with everyone.;):D Nothing like seeing the ship moving out on the ocean for the first time with your sweetie! Make it special:cool: You can get something from the 'gifts and gear' tab on the website.

Formal nights are special for us, as well, as we like to get really dressed up and get photo's done. Our favorite picture of us ever is one of the formal night ones. Very romantic.

Also, we have a super strong relationship because we are really confident in ourselves as people and as a couple. Don't be afraid of doing things alone. For example, he did the soccer tournament, I did Bingo. He went to the casino and I watched the captains cake decorating (hilarious!). Most of the time we are together and we like doing pretty much all of the same things. We also find ourselves happily comprimising on things to do and other times we do things by ourselves when it's something we each would enjoy. Knowing that we are two separate unique people that combine to make one awesome couple gives me a great feeling of security in us!:D