Bethwte Posted February 3, 2006 #1 Share Posted February 3, 2006 Alright, this might get touchy, and if it does, I apologize. I will be 19 at cruise time, and we will be cruising this spring-break on the connie. My parents are signing the waiver for alcohol, because they know I won't abuse it, but my mother has a question for you all. Say you were our tablemates at dinner. Would you consider it bad form/offensive for me, as a 19 year old, to have a glass of wine with dinner. Would my parent's be open to scrutiny about it? The last thing I want is for our tablemates to think badly of us, so I was just wondering how taboo this is. The cruise line allows it, but do passengers? Thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petert Posted February 3, 2006 #2 Share Posted February 3, 2006 I would not be the least bit concerned about some one of legal age having a glass of wine at dinner. This is a matter between between you and your family, and should not be of concern to your table mates. Many cultures have differing views about teen agers imbibing of beer or wine with meals, and I do not think we are competant to question your decision. Please do not worry about such a non problem, and enjoy your cruise experience. Petert Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tom_uk Posted February 3, 2006 #3 Share Posted February 3, 2006 Absolutely not. Of course, if your mother let you drink too much and you ended up face-down in your dessert then that would be different... It seems to me that part of the task of growing up is learning how to handle pleasures such a alcohol in a sensible and safe way. Of course, I'm British where we probably have a more tolerant attitude to alcohol (including mild alcohol abuse) than perhaps is true in general in the US. So other posters might have a different attitude. But here in the UK the legal limit for buying & drinking alcohol without restriction is 18, and I think young people of 16 (maybe even younger) can legally be given wine 'with a meal'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DaneViking Posted February 3, 2006 #4 Share Posted February 3, 2006 Absolulely not. Enjoy your wine. In my opinion the sensible use of alcohol has more to do with attitude than it has to do with age - at least when you are not a child anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Boo Posted February 3, 2006 #5 Share Posted February 3, 2006 Completely agree with the previous posters... From about the age of 11, my parents would regularly give me VERY watered down wine with a couple of meals a week. From about the age of 16, I was drinking full strength wine with those couple of meals a week. Growing up with alcohol in moderation meant that I never went crazy with it (never felt the need to - since it was never forbidden). I am British - if that makes a difference. Enjoy your wine - it is a civilised pleasure. I can't imagine that anybody would have a problem with your drinking. The problem that people have with other people's drinking is drunken behaviour: just because you are 19 doesn't mean that you will drink until excess (and, conversely, just because someone is 21/30/40/50/60/70 - doesn't mean that person will drink responsibly!) Boo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nanner Posted February 3, 2006 #6 Share Posted February 3, 2006 If you are 19, you are old enough to vote, wed, drive and join the armed forces. If anyone looks down disapprovingly at your glass of wine for dinner, they need to realize that you are actually an adult. A glass of wine at dinner is much more mature than binging at a party. Enjoy, and if anyone gets on your case (or your parents'), tell them civilly to MYOB. When I was a 16 year old exchange student in Argentina, I often had wine or vermouth with soda water at dinner. Different cultures don't think of wine the way we do in the US, and I think that is a good thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dkjretired Posted February 3, 2006 #7 Share Posted February 3, 2006 I traveled with my two children who were between 18 and 21 and never had anyone say anthing at dinner or elsewhere. As long as you are responsbile there will be no problem. You are legally drinking on the cruise ship and don't forget that persons from other countries with lower drinking ages will be traveling with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hmg Posted February 3, 2006 #8 Share Posted February 3, 2006 We're sailing on the same cruise as you with our two sons, 21 & 18. As I've done for previous cruises I'll sign the waiver for them to drink. I find that most of the parents do. I've never noticed, and my older son has never mentioned, anyone making comments. Join our roll call :) http://boards.cruisecritic.com/showthread.php?t=247456 Hope to see you there and onboard! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Longboysfan Posted February 3, 2006 #9 Share Posted February 3, 2006 No worries. They could start it off with a bottle of Champagne for the table and have everyone get a glass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danno Posted February 3, 2006 #10 Share Posted February 3, 2006 If you have proven yourself trustworthy to your parents...enjoy the wine. It is a wonderful part of dining and enhances the taste of food. The fact that you even investigated this, speaks volumes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tbelian Posted February 3, 2006 #11 Share Posted February 3, 2006 Who else at your dinner table is going to KNOW what your age is (unless they ask, which would be, technically, 'rude', IMO)? I say go for it and don't worry. Enjoy your cruise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tserface Posted February 3, 2006 #12 Share Posted February 3, 2006 The last thing I want is for our tablemates to think badly of us, so I was just wondering how taboo this is. The cruise line allows it, but do passengers? Thanks The fact that you are concerned about what others think is a show of maturity and worthy of kudos, but my take is that if it is "legal" then it is OK. My daughter (20) has wanted to have wine at home, but we remind her that it is not legal for us to serve it to her until she is 21. She's a good kid and if it were just up to me I'd give her some (we often try really good wines), but the law is the the law. The bigger principle is teaching kids that it counts for something. That said, I've been known to go a bit over the speed limit on the freeway so I guess I'm as big a hypocrite as anyone else :o... I think a good wine really enhances a dinner (like a good salad, dessert, coffee, etc.) Why miss that experience... while you're at it try the soups too, they are also legal :rolleyes: Tom Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
USSFRef Posted February 3, 2006 #13 Share Posted February 3, 2006 I'd be more concerned if there was a 19 yr old at my table who wasn't drinking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newmexicoNita Posted February 3, 2006 #14 Share Posted February 3, 2006 We just sailed with our 19 year old granddaughter in December; of course she drank. In her case not wine as she doesn't care for it, but we would be totally niave to think that she doesn't drink while away at college. Enjoy yourself, just make sure you do drink responsibly. too many accidents happen to young kids, especially girls from abusing alcohol, even on cruise ships. NMNita Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tuggers Posted February 3, 2006 #15 Share Posted February 3, 2006 Enjoy your wine! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bonbon663 Posted February 3, 2006 #16 Share Posted February 3, 2006 Being from Ontario, we wouldn't blink an eye. The legal drinking age here is 19, so if I saw a 19 year old drinking, I wouldn't think anything of it. Enjoy! (not too much:) ....lol) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dmarch@islc.net Posted February 3, 2006 #17 Share Posted February 3, 2006 Then again I'm from the South (where kids are taught to "acquire" a taste for bourbon) so my opinion should not count. My parents actually threw me a surprise keg party for my 16th. LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dutchess43 Posted February 3, 2006 #18 Share Posted February 3, 2006 Enjoy. Enjoy, Enjoy! You sound like a highly responsible adult. Your parents also sound like responsible adults, & no one knows you better then your parents. Although my children(in their 30"s) will be accompaying us on a future RCCL cruise later this year I expect the same type of mature behavior from them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bethwte Posted February 4, 2006 Author #19 Share Posted February 4, 2006 Thank you for all of the helpful answers, both my parents and I really appreciate it. Also, thank you to the few of who commented on my maturity, I am very flattered. I will go ahead and enjoy my wine, now the only problem is what ones to pick; I'm definitely not skilled in the area of wine. I assume X will have very competent sommeliers for that though :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasm8449 Posted February 4, 2006 #20 Share Posted February 4, 2006 In Ontario, the drinking age is 19. So just ask to sit with the Canucks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spearmint Posted February 4, 2006 #21 Share Posted February 4, 2006 Alright, this might get touchy, and if it does, I apologize. I will be 19 at cruise time, and we will be cruising this spring-break on the connie. My parents are signing the waiver for alcohol, because they know I won't abuse it, but my mother has a question for you all. Say you were our tablemates at dinner. Would you consider it bad form/offensive for me, as a 19 year old, to have a glass of wine with dinner. Would my parent's be open to scrutiny about it? The last thing I want is for our tablemates to think badly of us, so I was just wondering how taboo this is. The cruise line allows it, but do passengers? Thanks \ This is a subject between you and your parents. How else does one learn to be responsible for one's actions? The bottom line is that it is none of anyone else's business (unless,as with anything, it interferes directly with other people.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathy & George Posted February 4, 2006 #22 Share Posted February 4, 2006 Life is to short, have your wine, eat, dance and Live the life you are so fortunate to have! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RickandAnne Posted February 4, 2006 #23 Share Posted February 4, 2006 Would you consider it bad form/offensive for me, as a 19 year old, to have a glass of wine with dinner. Would my parent's be open to scrutiny about it? The last thing I want is for our tablemates to think badly of us, so I was just wondering how taboo this is. The cruise line allows it, but do passengers? Thanks We're on your cruise next March and you are more than welcome to sit at our table!! I really don't think anybody would mind at all. Just so long as you're not planning to go take a drive somewhere afterward!!:D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Druke I Posted February 4, 2006 #24 Share Posted February 4, 2006 As long as your parents are OK with it - so am I. I still remember being unable to buy a drink legally in California after having served three years in the Regular Army - I always thought that stupid. I had enlisted at 17, three days after graduating from high school, as I didn't feel ready for college at that time, and did not want the draft picking me up later at an inconvenient time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tangerinebunny Posted February 4, 2006 #25 Share Posted February 4, 2006 If anyone is rude about it, consider it their problem and not yours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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