Dress code

[DavyWavey70]

I think my Bertie would enjoy a cruise, he’s a real people watcher. 
 

[AusMum]

On 7/3/2024 at 6:05 AM, Mahogany said:

I don't think anyone is "being angry towards considerate people", Jeff. But most people when considering a new cruise line (to them) visit the website to check itineraries and destinations. On Silversea's website there are FAQ and General Cruise Information and Guidelines. They discuss the dress code there, and you don't even have to set up an account. Doesn't it make sense to read this rather than the myriad of responses you get from Cruise Critic posters?

We didn't know anything about SS when we booked - we just liked the itinerary it was offering for Greenland.  We saw photos of people looking like they were excited about going on an adventure.

 

My experience on here is that people try to dictate what people should/shouldn't wear.  A friend has recently returned from an Endeavour cruise and said "I saw no bling, no ties and no jackets".  So, I guess there is a big difference between expedition cruises and classic cruises.

 

[Port Power]

1 hour ago, AusMum said:

So, I guess there is a big difference between expedition cruises and classic cruises.

 

 

Yes, there is.

[UKCruiseJeff]

2 hours ago, AusMum said:

We didn't know anything about SS when we booked - we just liked the itinerary it was offering for Greenland.  We saw photos of people looking like they were excited about going on an adventure.

 

My experience on here is that people try to dictate what people should/shouldn't wear.  A friend has recently returned from an Endeavour cruise and said "I saw no bling, no ties and no jackets".  So, I guess there is a big difference between expedition cruises and classic cruises.

 

 

I think what happens often in a thread  - but I don’t think it intended maliciously as we all do it.  I know that I do and when I realise I have I’m embarrassed and presume therefore others do it unintentionally as well. 

 

Someone simply writes an innocent well intentioned question. Some have extremely strong feelings about this topic and what triggers a rapid response are keywords like “dress code” and the actual question simply isn’t perhaps fully considered but the question triggers  some people’s general frustrations and feelings and sometimes anger about the topic and other people’s behaviour they have experienced and perhaps without properly reading the question and giving the poster the benefit of any reasonable doubt anger is vented.  Other keywords that does the same is “smoking” or “cigars” or “children”.

 

This poster did what many sadly don’t.  It was clearly a person who had  understood the stated  dress code and before considering a booking simply wanted to establish how it was currently applied so that they didn’t mischoose with the obvious consequences for compromising their own and others enjoyment of their cruises. It didn’t seem to me anything more sinister or bad than that.  It was six words.

 

I simply did what sometimes irritates others and felt the need to offer support to the OP who might have felt otherwise wrongly bruised and isolated.  They haven’t sadly returned.  

 

Bestest all. 

 

🙂

 

Jeff

Edited July 4 by UKCruiseJeff

[dawntrdr]

1 hour ago, UKCruiseJeff said:

It was clearly a person who had  understood the stated  dress code and before considering a booking simply wanted to establish how it was currently applied so that they didn’t mischoose with the obvious consequences for compromising their own and others enjoyment of their cruises. It didn’t seem to me anything more sinister or bad than that.  It was six words.

Curiously, when I read the same six words, I assumed it was a Seabourn fan (I checked the poster's profile) who knew this was a provocative topic and just wanted to poke the dragon to see if we'd bite.  And boy did we - each other.  

 

The fact that OP hasn't been back or even posted a reaction seems to confirm this.  OP, my apologies for presumption if that is off the mark.

[UKCruiseJeff]

18 minutes ago, dawntrdr said:

Curiously, when I read the same six words, I assumed it was a Seabourn fan (I checked the poster's profile) who knew this was a provocative topic and just wanted to poke the dragon to see if we'd bite.  And boy did we - each other.  

 

The fact that OP hasn't been back or even posted a reaction seems to confirm this.  OP, my apologies for presumption if that is off the mark.

 

😞

 

If you simply look you will notice that the OP is an established CC’er  (2019) but with a low (31) post count. Might they simply be considering SS aa a possible alternative to SB?

 

Does “poking the dragon” seem to be very likely as you presumed that they posted for the motives you suggest - or are you now going to suggest that they probably have multiple identities?  Why could he not simply ask the question unmolested? 😄

 

This type of welcome and responses to an irregular poster might well have more likely been the cause of their lack of return mightn’t it.  

 

Give the guy a break. 🙂

 

Jeff

 

 

 

 

 

Edited July 4 by UKCruiseJeff

[Mahogany]

2 hours ago, dawntrdr said:

Curiously, when I read the same six words, I assumed it was a Seabourn fan (I checked the poster's profile) who knew this was a provocative topic and just wanted to poke the dragon to see if we'd bite.  And boy did we - each other.  

 

The fact that OP hasn't been back or even posted a reaction seems to confirm this.  OP, my apologies for presumption if that is off the mark.

I too wondered why the OP hasn't responded to any of the 30 replies. Surely he/she will respond to "poking the dragon".

[Mahogany]

1 minute ago, Mahogany said:

I too wondered why the OP hasn't responded to any of the 30 replies. Surely he/she will respond to "poking the dragon".

Well, not 30 since many referred to the dogs! 🐶

[gcornell]

To add. Also I think SS adds to the confusion by labeling it “Formal Optional” evenings. Sure it’s optional but only if you eat in certain restaurants and besides that stay in your cabin before or after. So calling it optional isn’t very accurate. To each their own but we always enjoy the panorama before dinner. 
 

p.s.  I’m on now and have no issue with the dress code. 

[UKCruiseJeff]

41 minutes ago, Mahogany said:

I too wondered why the OP hasn't responded to any of the 30 replies. Surely he/she will respond to "poking the dragon".

 

A sensible person wouldn’t respond would they.

 

Jeff

[QueSeraSera]

On 7/1/2024 at 6:08 PM, Jgrossman said:

How strict is the dress code

I thought it might be worthwhile to repost the OP statement.

In its entirety.

We are disagreeing about the interpretation of your question, @Jgrossman

Were you asking about the code itself, about changes that may be coming to that written code, about our experiences on board under the present code, or something else?

Although years go by, when I was first considering Silversea for our 1st ever cruise, I received so much help on this board from the people above & others who post elsewhere, and the regrettable few we no longer see, that it pains me to watch them search for the best answer to your post.  Your clarification would be welcomed.

Edited July 4 by QueSeraSera
clarity

[Mark_K]

19 hours ago, gcornell said:

To add. Also I think SS adds to the confusion by labeling it “Formal Optional” evenings. Sure it’s optional but only if you eat in certain restaurants and besides that stay in your cabin before or after. So calling it optional isn’t very accurate. To each their own but we always enjoy the panorama before dinner. 
 

p.s.  I’m on now and have no issue with the dress code. 

interesting. It looks like they took the old casual/informal/formal code, added an elegant in front of casual and combined informal and formal.  Looks a lot like Celebrity’s casual/evening chic code. (Which they don’t enforce.)

[commodoredave]

On our recent cruise on the Shadow (June 18-30), the new dress code seemed to work very well. I didn't notice anyone not wearing at least a jacket on formal optional night, at least not in the main bar and dining room. There were some men who wore tuxedos (about a dozen), and maybe another dozen who wore a suit with tie. I don't know how much longer men will choose to bring tuxedos with them on future cruises when so few wear them, but those doing so did not look out of place. And everyone seemed to be happy with their choices. 

[MisterBubba]

We have the same overall question on the strictness of the dress code.  It's one thing to have the stated policy but, in practice, there's a lot of wiggle room.  For example, we normally sail Regent but are looking at Silversea because of the itinerary, not because we are necessarily unhappy with Regent.  On Regent you'll see a wide range of attire, on our last cruise to Norway in August lots of very casual pieces after 6PM and it feels like the dress code of Silversea is very similar to that of Regent.  For example flip flops (albeit blinged out with jewels but flip flops nonetheless), a sporty pullover with a collar think Ted Lasso style, orthopedic tennis shoes in white, etc.

We don't mind schlepping a sports jacket but it would be helpful to understand if it is essential or something that is stated in the policy but in practice is not followed.

 

Also, we're finding that some of responses by Silversea cruisers have been making us reconsider if we should sail on Silversea, the general vibe seems more entitled and pretentious than Regent cruisers (and there is a LOT of entitlement that creeps up on board a Regent ship).  There are notable exceptions that have given us hope that it's a small subset of cruisers but this particular thread has not been a shining example of the friendliness of Silversea pax. 

[highplanesdrifters]

12 minutes ago, MisterBubba said:

Also, we're finding that some of responses by Silversea cruisers have been making us reconsider if we should sail on Silversea, the general vibe seems more entitled and pretentious than Regent cruisers (and there is a LOT of entitlement that creeps up on board a Regent ship).  There are notable exceptions that have given us hope that it's a small subset of cruisers but this particular thread has not been a shining example of the friendliness of Silversea pax. 

 

We have bumped into  the entitled and pretentious types that regularly show up on this board,  but rarely. It gives us a laugh and story.  We have met plenty of charming people that we can't wait to sail with again.  

Hope that helps.  You'll have a great time if you want to have a great time. 

 

A favorite story:

On a recent trip to the Falklands a birder was ranting at one of the expedition crew - "where's the Cobb, I was promised a Cobb". It is a line we continue to use with guffaws when we're not getting what we want or something is not being delivered swiftly. 

 

[Lois R]

2 hours ago, MisterBubba said:

We have the same overall question on the strictness of the dress code.  It's one thing to have the stated policy but, in practice, there's a lot of wiggle room.  For example, we normally sail Regent but are looking at Silversea because of the itinerary, not because we are necessarily unhappy with Regent.  On Regent you'll see a wide range of attire, on our last cruise to Norway in August lots of very casual pieces after 6PM and it feels like the dress code of Silversea is very similar to that of Regent.  For example flip flops (albeit blinged out with jewels but flip flops nonetheless), a sporty pullover with a collar think Ted Lasso style, orthopedic tennis shoes in white, etc.

We don't mind schlepping a sports jacket but it would be helpful to understand if it is essential or something that is stated in the policy but in practice is not followed.

 

Also, we're finding that some of responses by Silversea cruisers have been making us reconsider if we should sail on Silversea, the general vibe seems more entitled and pretentious than Regent cruisers (and there is a LOT of entitlement that creeps up on board a Regent ship).  There are notable exceptions that have given us hope that it's a small subset of cruisers but this particular thread has not been a shining example of the friendliness of Silversea pax. 

Hi, just a reminder that cruising is just a very small% of real life and just like real life you will find all sorts of people. I have met some wonderful people on my SS cruises......have I met some folks who thought they were better than the rest of us? Yes, but I have come across those types on various cruises (not just SS).

I have met way more nice folks though

And looking forward to my upcoming cruise in November😀

[commodoredave]

3 hours ago, highplanesdrifters said:

 

We have bumped into  the entitled and pretentious types that regularly show up on this board,  but rarely. It gives us a laugh and story.  We have met plenty of charming people that we can't wait to sail with again.  

Hope that helps.  You'll have a great time if you want to have a great time. 

 

A favorite story:

On a recent trip to the Falklands a birder was ranting at one of the expedition crew - "where's the Cobb, I was promised a Cobb". It is a line we continue to use with guffaws when we're not getting what we want or something is not being delivered swiftly. 

 

I’m going to use that line the next time my Martini isn’t dry enough!😁

[highplanesdrifters]

2 hours ago, commodoredave said:

I’m going to use that line the next time my Martini isn’t dry enough!😁

 

It must be delivered in an upper crust voice.  Think about the announcer on 'yacht rock'. 🤣

[commodoredave]

7 minutes ago, highplanesdrifters said:

 

It must be delivered in an upper crust voice.  Think about the announcer on 'yacht rock'. 🤣

My wife is English, so I will rely on her to teach me the right accent, it may be upper, or perhaps lower, but it will be crusty!🫠

[highplanesdrifters]

Just now, commodoredave said:

My wife is English, so I will rely on her to teach me the right accent, it may be upper, or perhaps lower, but it will be crusty!🫠

 

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