Craigrlewis Posted July 24 #201 Share Posted July 24 (edited) So hate to complain as everything has been great but this evening I did. At the start of the week a group in the Commodore Club were spoken to by a waiter for not following the dress code. They created and argued citing how much they has paid for the cruise and they should be able to wear what they liked (which at the time one had shorts multiple sneakers, faded jeans and the like). Waiter was overruled by someone higher and they stayed. Waiter told us despite being a new ship the sign needed by the door stating the dress code hasn't been delivered yet which doesn't help when trying to enforce the code. Tonight same crowd who were again flaunting the dress code and then what irritated me more was during the musicians 45 minute slot using cell phones on speaker mode; child watching a video on speaker mode and the rest of the crowd loudly talking above all that hullabaloo So when i left I asked to speak to the bar manager and was told by the lady behind the bar “they are unavailable we are in charge so you need to speak to me”. At that point the child in the group decided he would play the piano (not that he could play but he proceeded to bang the keys) At no point during the evening (cell phones and piano playing) did any Cunard employe attempt to intervene or the parents of the would be pianist when he was bashing the keys. So I complained to her about the dress code violations, the cell phone use etc and she then turned to the guests in question who were leaving as well and spoke to them in their language ( not english ) & clearly told them what we had complained about as they then attempted to “engage” with us with comments “Why are you complaining…” and “our dress is acceptable “ etc. We then stated again we wished to speak to the manager as now we were also feeling really uncomfortable The lady behind the bar then told us “You all need to respect each others culture” to which we replied bad behaviour and flaunting the dress code isn't culture. I found her comment to be quite frankly insulting and rude. More attempts of engagement were made by the group about us complaining before they then left as we didn't respond to them. Finally a manager arrived and we recited the story to just a “okay we will deal with it”. I told him it should have been dealt with on the first night by supporting his waiter when they correctly flagged up the dress code violation and not overruled them. Use of cell phones on speaker should also have been stopped during a live musical performance. His response “oh okay” I know now countless people will tell me to wind my neck in; live and let live; what right do i have to comment etc. but IMHO there are venues you can attend wearing what you want etc and venues that should have abidance to the Dress code. Cunard either need to clearly state the dress code in a uniform plain english manner across all literature and enforce it OR just not have a dress code anymore. Other than that lovely sea day. Clive Myrie was standing room only in the theatre and showed live on TV and packed Golden Lion. Helen Doe did a great talk on RNLI. My new favourite is choux pastries at 3pm in the Corinthia Lounge. Edited July 24 by Craigrlewis 21 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pear Carr Posted July 24 #202 Share Posted July 24 Totally in agreement and support your actions. People are well aware of the dress code - or should be via booking and on board information and if you don't like it choose another line. Management need to be held to account for this unacceptable attitude and I hope you follow it up. To be honest we have not enjoyed the Commodore Club on this voyage - not sure if it is down to atmosphere or demographic but will give it another go tomorrow night - last gala night! 10 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vsbc Posted July 25 #203 Share Posted July 25 (edited) I’m not the sort of person who dresses up regularly. However I firmly believe that if you set a dress code, it should be clear what is acceptable and what is not and enforced consistently. Or just don’t bother at all with a dress code Perhaps the bar staff and waiters should politely refuse to serve those who do not adhere to the dress code. And then be backed up by their managers. i can see how some staff would be reluctant to do that as not everyone is comfortable or willing to deal with conflicts. Edited July 25 by vsbc 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
exlondoner Posted July 25 #204 Share Posted July 25 (edited) Wearing the wrong clothes is indicative perhaps of a certain arrogance and superiority. But, from the point of view of others, behaving as they did in a live performance is a far worse symptom of the same attitude, as it really affects the enjoyment of others. You don’t have to look at their unpleasant clothes, after all, but you can’t avoid hearing them. Horrible behaviour. Who is the ultimate boss of the bar manager in the hierarchy? Edited July 25 by exlondoner 8 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare Victoria2 Posted July 25 Author #205 Share Posted July 25 Craigrlewis, you should not have to spend the time following this up, but if you do feel you want to, and I would if it were me, my suggestion is to get to speak to Callum Williams. He is the Guest Services Manager and is extremely approachable. In fact, you can’t miss him as he walks around the ship. This is not a case of the over used 'dumbing down', how I hate that phrase, it’s a case of staff training and to be fair, staff being afraid of unruly passengers. There will be those who don’t dress appropriately all the times and that won’t stop but the disruption caused by cell phone on speaker and the child is not acceptable at all and there is NO way the bar staff should have told you to respect other cultures when the ethos of the surroundings and fellow passengers weren’t being respected. If I had experienced that, my main complaint today would have been about the staff. 18 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
exlondoner Posted July 25 #206 Share Posted July 25 10 minutes ago, Victoria2 said: Craigrlewis, you should not have to spend the time following this up, but if you do feel you want to, and I would if it were me, my suggestion is to get to speak to Callum Williams. He is the Guest Services Manager and is extremely approachable. In fact, you can’t miss him as he walks around the ship. This is not a case of the over used 'dumbing down', how I hate that phrase, it’s a case of staff training and to be fair, staff being afraid of unruly passengers. There will be those who don’t dress appropriately all the times and that won’t stop but the disruption caused by cell phone on speaker and the child is not acceptable at all and there is NO way the bar staff should have told you to respect other cultures when the ethos of the surroundings and fellow passengers weren’t being respected. If I had experienced that, my main complaint today would have been about the staff. Yes, the respecting other cultures argument is fatuous. Would they have said the same about a group smoking cannabis? Or insisting women should sit in a segregated area? Ridiculous. 7 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missson1967 Posted July 25 #207 Share Posted July 25 8 hours ago, Craigrlewis said: So hate to complain as everything has been great but this evening I did. At the start of the week a group in the Commodore Club were spoken to by a waiter for not following the dress code. They created and argued citing how much they has paid for the cruise and they should be able to wear what they liked (which at the time one had shorts multiple sneakers, faded jeans and the like). Waiter was overruled by someone higher and they stayed. Waiter told us despite being a new ship the sign needed by the door stating the dress code hasn't been delivered yet which doesn't help when trying to enforce the code. Tonight same crowd who were again flaunting the dress code and then what irritated me more was during the musicians 45 minute slot using cell phones on speaker mode; child watching a video on speaker mode and the rest of the crowd loudly talking above all that hullabaloo So when i left I asked to speak to the bar manager and was told by the lady behind the bar “they are unavailable we are in charge so you need to speak to me”. At that point the child in the group decided he would play the piano (not that he could play but he proceeded to bang the keys) At no point during the evening (cell phones and piano playing) did any Cunard employe attempt to intervene or the parents of the would be pianist when he was bashing the keys. So I complained to her about the dress code violations, the cell phone use etc and she then turned to the guests in question who were leaving as well and spoke to them in their language ( not english ) & clearly told them what we had complained about as they then attempted to “engage” with us with comments “Why are you complaining…” and “our dress is acceptable “ etc. We then stated again we wished to speak to the manager as now we were also feeling really uncomfortable The lady behind the bar then told us “You all need to respect each others culture” to which we replied bad behaviour and flaunting the dress code isn't culture. I found her comment to be quite frankly insulting and rude. More attempts of engagement were made by the group about us complaining before they then left as we didn't respond to them. Finally a manager arrived and we recited the story to just a “okay we will deal with it”. I told him it should have been dealt with on the first night by supporting his waiter when they correctly flagged up the dress code violation and not overruled them. Use of cell phones on speaker should also have been stopped during a live musical performance. His response “oh okay” I know now countless people will tell me to wind my neck in; live and let live; what right do i have to comment etc. but IMHO there are venues you can attend wearing what you want etc and venues that should have abidance to the Dress code. Cunard either need to clearly state the dress code in a uniform plain english manner across all literature and enforce it OR just not have a dress code anymore. We certainly won't be telling you to "wind your neck in" @Craigrlewis; we applaud your efforts, particularly in the face of the unsatisfactory responses from the bar staff. 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Host Hattie Posted July 25 #208 Share Posted July 25 How disappointing @Craigrlewis, I hope you get a better response from someone more senior. Thanks for all the reports everyone. 9 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Craigrlewis Posted July 25 #209 Share Posted July 25 Thanks all for the comments Im moving on now and enjoying the rest of the cruise and as exlonder says ignoring what others are wearing 😀 9 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alc13 Posted July 25 #210 Share Posted July 25 I don't know which is worse - the disruptive behavior of the passengers or the indifference of the staff. Well done for bringing it up, and I hope the bad taste of the experience doesn't linger. I do hope Cunard management hears about all this. Corrective measures are needed. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
exlondoner Posted July 25 #211 Share Posted July 25 1 hour ago, Craigrlewis said: Thanks all for the comments Im moving on now and enjoying the rest of the cruise and as exlonder says ignoring what others are wearing 😀 And perhaps carrying earplugs, just in case. 😀 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare Victoria2 Posted July 25 Author #212 Share Posted July 25 8 minutes ago, alc13 said: I don't know which is worse - the disruptive behavior of the passengers or the indifference of the staff. Well done for bringing it up, and I hope the bad taste of the experience doesn't linger. I do hope Cunard management hears about all this. Corrective measures are needed. Even if I notice an attire I wouldn’t wear or wouldn’t let my husband 'out' in, I have no difficulty ignoring surrounding dress sense. What I wouldn’t ignore, is the attitude given in post 201 re 'respect for others culture' from a member of staff to a passenger. Totally out of order and should be actioned by senior staff. We happened to meet the Captain as he walked the decks and he stopped to talk to us (what an great, personable chap) and our conversation ran along the lines of 'how wonderful the staff on Queen Anne are'. They are and it’s sad to hear of this anomaly. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare WantedOnVoyage Posted July 25 #213 Share Posted July 25 So instead of "dumbing down," (I do love how sensitive some are around here) I'll use "The Hey Guys" Era at Cunard.... and we witnessed the same thing on QV in May with a group of passengers of specific nationality who resolutely refused to follow the dress code and were, in fact, schmoozed by the cruise staff so attired. I did complain at the bureau and they did absolutely nothing. "The respect others cultures" line just enrages me.... I would have reported the individual who said it for starters. Thank you for your efforts... I think Cunard is frankly happy to just take anyone's money at this point and could not care less about their own "dress code." I've said so here and folks thought it was just terrible to point out the obvious. They don't. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
exlondoner Posted July 25 #214 Share Posted July 25 1 minute ago, WantedOnVoyage said: So instead of "dumbing down," (I do love how sensitive some are around here) I'll use "The Hey Guys" Era at Cunard.... and we witnessed the same thing on QV in May with a group of passengers of specific nationality who resolutely refused to follow the dress code and were, in fact, schmoozed by the cruise staff so attired. I did complain at the bureau and they did absolutely nothing. "The respect others cultures" line just enrages me.... I would have reported the individual who said it for starters. Thank you for your efforts... I think Cunard is frankly happy to just take anyone's money at this point and could not care less about their own "dress code." I've said so here and folks thought it was just terrible to point out the obvious. They don't. And yet I think I have read accounts just this week of people being sent away for unsuitable dress, so it is clearly not universal. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare WantedOnVoyage Posted July 25 #215 Share Posted July 25 And no "uniform" policy is worse than none at all. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
exlondoner Posted July 25 #216 Share Posted July 25 3 minutes ago, WantedOnVoyage said: And no "uniform" policy is worse than none at all. I’m not surprised. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
majortom10 Posted July 25 #217 Share Posted July 25 12 hours ago, Craigrlewis said: So hate to complain as everything has been great but this evening I did. At the start of the week a group in the Commodore Club were spoken to by a waiter for not following the dress code. They created and argued citing how much they has paid for the cruise and they should be able to wear what they liked (which at the time one had shorts multiple sneakers, faded jeans and the like). Waiter was overruled by someone higher and they stayed. Waiter told us despite being a new ship the sign needed by the door stating the dress code hasn't been delivered yet which doesn't help when trying to enforce the code. Tonight same crowd who were again flaunting the dress code and then what irritated me more was during the musicians 45 minute slot using cell phones on speaker mode; child watching a video on speaker mode and the rest of the crowd loudly talking above all that hullabaloo So when i left I asked to speak to the bar manager and was told by the lady behind the bar “they are unavailable we are in charge so you need to speak to me”. At that point the child in the group decided he would play the piano (not that he could play but he proceeded to bang the keys) At no point during the evening (cell phones and piano playing) did any Cunard employe attempt to intervene or the parents of the would be pianist when he was bashing the keys. So I complained to her about the dress code violations, the cell phone use etc and she then turned to the guests in question who were leaving as well and spoke to them in their language ( not english ) & clearly told them what we had complained about as they then attempted to “engage” with us with comments “Why are you complaining…” and “our dress is acceptable “ etc. We then stated again we wished to speak to the manager as now we were also feeling really uncomfortable The lady behind the bar then told us “You all need to respect each others culture” to which we replied bad behaviour and flaunting the dress code isn't culture. I found her comment to be quite frankly insulting and rude. More attempts of engagement were made by the group about us complaining before they then left as we didn't respond to them. Finally a manager arrived and we recited the story to just a “okay we will deal with it”. I told him it should have been dealt with on the first night by supporting his waiter when they correctly flagged up the dress code violation and not overruled them. Use of cell phones on speaker should also have been stopped during a live musical performance. His response “oh okay” I know now countless people will tell me to wind my neck in; live and let live; what right do i have to comment etc. but IMHO there are venues you can attend wearing what you want etc and venues that should have abidance to the Dress code. Cunard either need to clearly state the dress code in a uniform plain english manner across all literature and enforce it OR just not have a dress code anymore. Other than that lovely sea day. Clive Myrie was standing room only in the theatre and showed live on TV and packed Golden Lion. Helen Doe did a great talk on RNLI. My new favourite is choux pastries at 3pm in the Corinthia Lounge. Bad manners is not a "culture" and just proves how low Cunard standards have dropped. They started the slippery road problem with there change in dress code and are now going down that slippery road. Appalling that even when dress code is being abused that the Manager overrules bar staff and let the people in question stay. I think it says a lot about Cunard and the way they are heading. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alc13 Posted July 25 #218 Share Posted July 25 I don't see signs of declining standards, although we'll find out more in October. Certainly a year ago everything was up to snuff. I do think, though, that the response of the bar manager as described here fell short. It isn't in Cunard's interests to condone noisy and disruptive behavior on board, regardless of whatever cultural customs were on display. So I hope there is some follow-up with that staff member. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare Victoria2 Posted July 25 Author #219 Share Posted July 25 1 hour ago, WantedOnVoyage said: So instead of "dumbing down," (I do love how sensitive some are around here) I'll use "The Hey Guys" Era at Cunard.... and we witnessed the same thing on QV in May with a group of passengers of specific nationality who resolutely refused to follow the dress code and were, in fact, schmoozed by the cruise staff so attired. I did complain at the bureau and they did absolutely nothing. "The respect others cultures" line just enrages me.... I would have reported the individual who said it for starters. Thank you for your efforts... I think Cunard is frankly happy to just take anyone's money at this point and could not care less about their own "dress code." I've said so here and folks thought it was just terrible to point out the obvious. They don't. Not a case of being sensitive. It’s being cognisant of the fact Cunard is moving with the times to stay relevant. Those who don’t like the moves, should carry on their own style and ignore those who ‘don’t measure up' but for sure, make known their thoughts to higher ups. It might help. It might not. Captain Hudson ( what a charming, great chap) stopped to talk to us on one of his deck ambles and we discussed the fact Cunard is aware and values its heritage whilst looking to the future. We have the same attitude. What I wouldn’t let pass is a member of staff talking to me as was described in #201. The staff on Queen Anne have been superb and this incident lets all the staff down when in fact, the staff are wonderful. So please, treat this as an anomaly and not the norm but, if senior managers aren’t aware of such retorts, then nothing can be done. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare Victoria2 Posted July 25 Author #220 Share Posted July 25 6 minutes ago, alc13 said: I don't see signs of declining standards, although we'll find out more in October. Certainly a year ago everything was up to snuff. I do think, though, that the response of the bar manager as described here fell short. It isn't in Cunard's interests to condone noisy and disruptive behavior on board, regardless of whatever cultural customs were on display. So I hope there is some follow-up with that staff member. Standards haven’t dropped but the guidelines for dress have changed. That’s not dropped, that’s changed! As to 'standards' for QG, I have this lunchtime, congratulated our Head Waiter on the quality, the taste and the choices on the main menu in QG. The staff are amazing too. Will we be transferring our 25 and 26 bookings away from Our Annie? No. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare WantedOnVoyage Posted July 25 #221 Share Posted July 25 Personally, I think anyone seeing the christening of QUEEN ANNE would think they can wear as they darn please... "Hey Guys....!" But that would be just my opinion. And to think, some here were sure she'd get a royal christening. So much for that... But yes... we should complain about the issues as that raised in this thread. At the time. And take it as high up as the system designed to prevent that as you are able. We had to raise a serious medical diet issue last time on QV and I was astonished at the conflicting layers one has to go through. And the time taken in doing so. Finally, one makes the "times" not be dictated to by them. Especially when one is the customer paying for it. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare Victoria2 Posted July 25 Author #222 Share Posted July 25 1 minute ago, WantedOnVoyage said: Personally, I think anyone seeing the christening of QUEEN ANNE would think they can wear as they darn please... "Hey Guys....!" But that would be just my opinion. And to think, some here were sure she'd get a royal christening. So much for that... But yes... we should complain about the issues as that raised in this thread. At the time. And take it as high up as the system designed to prevent that as you are able. We had to raise a serious medical diet issue last time on QV and I was astonished at the conflicting layers one has to go through. And the time taken in doing so. Finally, one makes the "times" not be dictated to by them. Especially when one is the customer paying for it. and as one is paying, it’s incumbent on the payor to be aware of guidelines which have changed…with the times! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alc13 Posted July 25 #223 Share Posted July 25 Just to be clear, I'm not talking about the dress code, either changes in it or failure to observe it. I'm referring to the bar experience. It's reasonable to expect a manager to tactfully and unobtrusively take care of disruptive passengers, and not to challenge someone who complains. 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare WantedOnVoyage Posted July 25 #224 Share Posted July 25 (edited) Point taken and absolutely. Having worked briefly on a ship, albeit a small one (but with a dress code even in the middle of the South Atlantic!)... anything that warrants a complaint should be sufficiently mortfying and concerning since 99.8% would rather suffer in silence and wait till they get home and post the complaint here! Real complaints are rare and a professional cruise staff take it seriously. We had a family aboard complain about not enough for children to do aboard and I was "detailed" to be the kiddie deck sport "czar" for the ensuing three weeks at sea. I wish they had waited instead to complain here! Of course, this was five years before there was a Cruise Critic. Edited July 25 by WantedOnVoyage 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare Victoria2 Posted July 25 Author #225 Share Posted July 25 Getting back to the thread topic. King Crab legs. Steamed and unadulterated. What a lunch!🙂 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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