Posted July 10th, 2013, 08:25 PM
If Carnival won't let you postpone, I suggest talking to your mother in law... Perhaps she would want you to go... (not sure about your husband going though) My father was in a situation similar to yours... My grandmother was going downhill and my brothers wedding came around... 1/2 way across the US... my grandma wanted him to be there... she actually died the same day as the wedding.. although it was very hard for my dad (family) we were where she wanted us to be.
I agree. My uncle (who was in his eighties) recently passed away after an 18 month illness. He was confined to a hospital bed for the entire 18 months and was waiting to die. When he passed, it was a relief to the family that he was no longer suffering. My uncle's son (my cousin) had a daughter who had a vacation planned at the time of her grandfather's death. My cousin did not want his daughter to miss her trip and her grandfather wouldn't have either. So, she went on the trip, and my cousin arranged for the funeral to take place after she returned from her trip. It was a a decision that benefitted all involved. If a death is expected, in some ways, it may be less traumatic than a death that is sudden. In this case, there was not so much grieving, as there was relief that my uncle was in a better place and was no longer suffering. My cousin's daughter still got to go on her trip with her father's blessing, and a nice service for my uncle took place 7 days after his death when all immediate family attend.
I realize that this would not work for all families, but under the circumstances, delaying the funeral was the right thing to do after taking everything into consideration.