Bummer for you. We haven't experienced any of that on the RC ships we've cruised on. We don't do the three mega ships (Oasis class ships) so maybe they crank the music up higher on those three ships. Also depends on the venue.
Funny, there has been posts on the Celebrity forum about the loud music being played on Celebrity's E class ships. We didn't think the music being played, wherever we were was loud. We could talk with out yelling.
I guess noise (music) is another subjective subject.