Appropriate dress for dining venues on Oceania

[DCGuy64]

3 hours ago, rbtan said:

Sport coat is not required, though many bring one. Wearing the same khakis every night is pretty gross unless they are washed.One person's expensive flip flop is another's pool wear. A pair of flip flops with a Louis Vuitton label on them does not make them appropriate.You've read the dress code. It's simple enough. If you can't/wont  comply then please choose another line.

Exactly. Reminds me of the time my sister-in-law's former boyfriend wanted to wear sandals to my wife's law school graduation. He says "but they're Gucci!" My wife's retort was "all that means is that you overpaid for a pair of sandals." Something about putting lipstick on a pig here, LOL!

[LHT28]

8 hours ago, jakes47 said:

 Maybe her luggage went missing. I don't think she deserves to be photographed and placed on social media like this - 

I guess being homeless  she could not afford to pick up something  in port that looked  a bit better

 

I agree  missed luggage  could be an issue  but  a baseball cap on women at dinner is unattractive & rude   IMO

 Sorry but Oceania  needs to start  enforcing some of the rule/recommendations  they put in their printed material

JMO

[Cliff-FLL]

12 hours ago, 1985rz1 said:

However, jeans and sneakers in the MDR or in the specialties would not conform to the dress code, if it's enforced.

Actually, the most recent O policy on dress (dated 25 July 22) states:

"We request that casual jeans, shorts, t-shirts, baseball caps, sandals, or tennis shoes not be worn in the restaurants after 6 PM."

So, as long as the jeans do not appear to be "casual", you can wear them.  Yes, I know there are those who say all jeans are casual or that there's no such thing as dressy jeans.  However, apparently O disagrees with their personal fashion sense, as do many other people and establishments.  Just because it's not one's personal norm, or because it wasn't acceptable in the past, or grandma said that young ladies don't wear certain things in public, doesn't mean that everyone else should comply - especially when it is specifically allowed by a restaurant or cruise line.  For better or worse, fashion changes.  (Remember when girls weren't allowed to wear pants to school or church?!)

[LHT28]

5 minutes ago, Cliff-FLL said:

  (Remember when girls weren't allowed to wear pants to school or church?!)

I am old  so I remember freezing waiting for the bus/streetcar  to get to school

[techteach]

I remember very well, 6th grade, the snow was really deep and it was really cold. In the morning we would listen to the radio to find out if girls were allowed to wear pants to school that day. By 7th grade torn jeans worn at the hip became the norm. I don’t judge what people wear and hope they don’t judge me. Physical limitations definitely impact what we wear and I hope we can all give grace.

[rbtan]

2 hours ago, ORV said:

My waistline swells when I’m on a cruise. 

😆

[shepherd really]

43 minutes ago, Cliff-FLL said:

Actually, the most recent O policy on dress (dated 25 July 22) states:

"We request that casual jeans, shorts, t-shirts, baseball caps, sandals, or tennis shoes not be worn in the restaurants after 6 PM."

So, as long as the jeans do not appear to be "casual", you can wear them.  Yes, I know there are those who say all jeans are casual or that there's no such thing as dressy jeans.  However, apparently O disagrees with their personal fashion sense, as do many other people and establishments.  Just because it's not one's personal norm, or because it wasn't acceptable in the past, or grandma said that young ladies don't wear certain things in public, doesn't mean that everyone else should comply - especially when it is specifically allowed by a restaurant or cruise line.  For better or worse, fashion changes.  (Remember when girls weren't allowed to wear pants to school or church?!)

And since I don't play tennis, by definition none of my footwear are "tennis shoes",

[fizzy]

5 hours ago, rbtan said:

Sport coat is not required, though many bring one. Wearing the same khakis every night is pretty gross unless they are washed.One person's expensive flip flop is another's pool wear. A pair of flip flops with a Louis Vuitton label on them does not make them appropriate.You've read the dress code. It's simple enough. If you can't/wont  comply then please choose another line.

Wow..I think we will take your advice. We had a Bermuda cruise planned that got dropped due to the whole covid/wuhan thing. Fast forward with another booked. Will the fashion police be morphing into a laundry police monitoring group? I think we'll stick with Regent and Silversea..Are bunny ears a fashion statement?

[rbtan]

10 hours ago, jakes47 said:

We like to stick to the rules and hope that O enforces those rules - However I certainly wont be waisting my valuable cruise time looking down my nose and judging others as you never know the circumstances. Maybe her luggage went missing. I don't think she deserves to be photographed and placed on social media like this -  I find this equally distasteful.

Well, perhaps if she dressed reasonably, it wouldn't have happened. I've seen plenty of Pax pics when finely dressed. Why not for the slobs? Perhaps she'll see this & have the courage to give her own opinion.

 As for us, my spouse would have had a good talk with the Maitre D. If he/she is unwilling to reasonably enforce the dress code, then you can bet a complaint will be made to the hotel Maitre D mgr.on board.

[rbtan]

5 minutes ago, fizzy said:

Wow..I think we will take your advice. We had a Bermuda cruise planned that got dropped due to the whole covid/wuhan thing. Fast forward with another booked. Will the fashion police be morphing into a laundry police monitoring group? I think we'll stick with Regent and Silversea..Are bunny ears a fashion statement?

The Ears were at an Easter party last year. As to "laundry" One pair of pants for a 10 day(or more cruise) is still pretty gross.. I doubt the person would wash them regularly. Yes, I've been near some pax who did not clean properly.No matter your opinion it's disgusting.

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[shepherd really]

3 minutes ago, rbtan said:

Well, perhaps if she dressed reasonably, it wouldn't have happened. I've seen plenty of Pax pics when finely dressed. Why not for the slobs? Perhaps she'll see this & have the courage to give her own opinion.

 As for us, my spouse would have had a good talk with the Maitre D. If he/she is unwilling to reasonably enforce the dress code, then you can bet a complaint will be made to the hotel Maitre D mgr.on board.

Yes, please run and report these transgressions to the manager.  

[lj77346]

This topic is like a bad cold that just won't go away.  From the number of comments you would think that dressing sloppy was an endemic problem on Oceania cruises.  Does it occur occasionally - sure, but is it enough of an issue that some become obsessed with it - apparently so.  I've been on 20+ Oceania cruises and never perceived people's choice of clothing as a significant issue.  Maybe it's because I'm oblivious or not very observant, but I'd sure rather enjoy my cruise than worry about how others dress

[1985rz1]

3 hours ago, Cliff-FLL said:

Actually, the most recent O policy on dress (dated 25 July 22) states:

"We request that casual jeans, shorts, t-shirts, baseball caps, sandals, or tennis shoes not be worn in the restaurants after 6 PM."

So, as long as the jeans do not appear to be "casual", you can wear them.  Yes, I know there are those who say all jeans are casual or that there's no such thing as dressy jeans.  However, apparently O disagrees with their personal fashion sense, as do many other people and establishments.  Just because it's not one's personal norm, or because it wasn't acceptable in the past, or grandma said that young ladies don't wear certain things in public, doesn't mean that everyone else should comply - especially when it is specifically allowed by a restaurant or cruise line.  For better or worse, fashion changes.  (Remember when girls weren't allowed to wear pants to school or church?!)

I had assumed that the OP's husband was referring to casual jeans since they were worn with sneakers, which I interpreted as tennis shoes, but of course, neither may not be the case.

[1985rz1]

5 minutes ago, lj77346 said:

This topic is like a bad cold that just won't go away.  

Yes, it's the epitome of a zombie apocalypse.

[Nashna]

On a recent Celebrity cruise, I was stopped and asked to remove my hat at breakfast in the MDR.  Frankly, I was shocked.  It was a port day, and we had an excursion planned.  I dressed in capris and a nice top for the day, placed my golf visor on my head and went to breakfast in the MDR.  The waiter escorting me to the table stopped mid-aisle to inform me that I needed to remove my hat.  Seriously, I didn't know the no-hat rule applied to ladies.  This was not a ball cap.  I was flummoxed!  Let's be honest; my hair looked a lot better in that visor than it did without it.  

[1985rz1]

4 minutes ago, Nashna said:

On a recent Celebrity cruise, I was stopped and asked to remove my hat at breakfast in the MDR.  Frankly, I was shocked.  It was a port day, and we had an excursion planned.  I dressed in capris and a nice top for the day, placed my golf visor on my head and went to breakfast in the MDR.  The waiter escorting me to the table stopped mid-aisle to inform me that I needed to remove my hat.  Seriously, I didn't know the no-hat rule applied to ladies.  This was not a ball cap.  I was flummoxed!  Let's be honest; my hair looked a lot better in that visor than it did without it.  

Maybe a visor is considered a ballcap that went bald 🤔😁

[Nashna]

It could be.  I always follow the rules, and it never occurred to me that I would be the one to need to be reminded.  I asked about wearing any hat and was told none were allowed.  

[Nashna]

BTW...It was a straw visor with a cute bow in the back...no way it could be confused with a baseball cap. 

[LHT28]

44 minutes ago, Nashna said:

It could be.  I always follow the rules, and it never occurred to me that I would be the one to need to be reminded.  I asked about wearing any hat and was told none were allowed.  

nice  to know that at least X enforces their rules 😉

[Husky61]

6 hours ago, LHT28 said:

I guess being homeless  she could not afford to pick up something  in port that looked  a bit better

 

I agree  missed luggage  could be an issue  but  a baseball cap on women at dinner is unattractive & rude   IMO

 Sorry but Oceania  needs to start  enforcing some of the rule/recommendations  they put in their printed material

JMO

Maybe a baseball cap on a female is rude and unattractive to you but certainly not to everyone.

[Nashna]

34 minutes ago, LHT28 said:

nice  to know that at least X enforces their rules 😉

I'm old enough to remember when ladies did wear hats at formal lunches and always in church.  

[pinotlover]

It would be nice if this thread was locked along with any other dress code thread for the next six months. 

[shepherd really]

Just now, Nashna said:

I'm old enough to remember when ladies did wear hats at formal lunches and always in church.  

People may be shocked at the way folks used to dress at Easter Parades. 👒 🎩

 

I judge people by their character, not the tags on their clothes, it's just shallow and crass.

[Nashna]

10 minutes ago, Husky61 said:

Maybe a baseball cap on a female is rude and unattractive to you but certainly not to everyone.

I truly do not care what people wear, just as long as it is clean.  I

[Nashna]

3 minutes ago, pinotlover said:

It would be nice if this thread was locked along with any other dress code thread for the next six months. 

I agree...no more comments from me...