In a cabin with your kids, do you...

[huskerdude]

Sorry to inform you of this, but your grandparents are probably doing it too.

 

As a mother of a 17yo DD, I can tell you, boys HAVE to be easier. My sister has 2 boys, one 17 and the other 19. Biggest arguement at their house is over haircuts. Oh how I wish for such trivial problems. Don't get me wrong, me daughter is a GREAT kid, honors program, graduating early from high school, career minded and HORMONAL..............................

 

And now you know how men feel about the women they marry (all of whom were daughters of someone):p

 

 

Perhaps I was a little TOO subtle... I have no problem with the family seeing each other naked, it's the other "activities" my wife and I might "engage" in on a romantic cruise vacation that I was concerned about.

 

I saw this on the first page, you don't mind your family seeing you naked?:confused:

[MonDreamr1]

I rember overhearing a conversation that my mother was having with my grandmother when I was a teen. She was quite complimentary of my father in the martial relations portion of their relationship. I made a gagging noise and got, "well it serves you right big ears". I wash shocked! I was adopted and just told myself that my parents never did *that*.

 

I want a girl. I want one bad. I have four boys. When the ultrasound tech told me poor little JJ (number 4) was a boy I cried. Now? I am so happy I have my little man. I will not, however, be trying again for a girl!

 

Steven (6 year old) recently told me that when he grows up his first child will be a girl, for his Mom! Hope his wife agrees :)

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LOL

 

These two posts remind me soo much of my grandparents. Grandparents had 4 girls and 1 boy. A while ago my aunts, mom, and gran were talking about marital relations, 1st child's birthdates in relation to wedding dates, and some cousin having done something that gran didn't approve of. No subject is off limits with this family. My gran (who is close to 90 years old and in the time she grew up in these things weren't discussed) was trying to claim that she had only had relations with her husband 4 times and that this was only done to produce children. I couldn't resist and asked her who the father of her 5th kid was and which one had a different father? If this had something to do with them finally having a boy after 4 girls. My gran yelled at me (meanwhile everyone else was laughing) that I was too young to know anything about that (I was 20 at the time and Biotech major) :eek:

[MonDreamr1]

I am 35 and tempted to try one more time, but can't stand another penis in my house (peeing on my floor, eating all the food, being loud and leaving messes everywhere)-3 men is enough, I am already outnumbered and alone:eek: My younger son is only 16 months, so I start to consider one more try, then I become afraid and go shopping for myself instead.:D

But having a daughter to shop for and dress up would be so much fun-I am such a "girly-girl" stuck in a house full of sticky boys!!

 

As my FMIL (she had 4 boys) says she sometimes wishes she'd had girls to raise, but they would more expensive to deal with now she just gets great DILs all the fun without the work.

 

Though as to which is easier to raise... that is a toss up both have their bad points. My best friend is one of 7, 5 girls and 2 boys....Her parents say both can be a real pain.

[MargaritaPlease]

I saw this on the first page, you don't mind your family seeing you naked?:confused:

 

Look... I've got two sons. We share locker rooms, tents on camping trips, showers at the YMCA... What's there to be embarrassed about? My wife's a little more modest, but not a whole lot. It's not like we run around the house naked but we don't freak out about it either.

[huskerdude]

Look... I've got two sons. We share locker rooms, tents on camping trips, showers at the YMCA... What's there to be embarrassed about? My wife's a little more modest, but not a whole lot. It's not like we run around the house naked but we don't freak out about it either.

 

Look... I did not mean to sound like a prude but when you say you have no problem with your family seeing you naked it just caught my eye.

If ya know what I mean..:)

[jodi2227]

MRSTROD

 

I had to re-read your post.

 

I am glad you are not my parent and hopeful others don't allow you around their kids.

SICK!!!!!!!!!!

[ElvisandTracey]

Not trying to start an argument (too late), because I have no feelings about the naked issue either way, but-

 

In most countires other than ours, you will see mommies of all shapes, sizes and ages TOPLESS with their kids of all ages right there with them on the beach-it's considered totally normal in most countries other than the US.

 

Just a thought.

[jodi2227]

topless one thing, watching parents have s** is another. Very disturbing. You might as well show them a porn film because it is "normal"

WRONG!!!!

[Leejnd4]

Frankly I don't have a problem with topless -- after all, for many children, for a good portion of their lives that was their major source of sustenance. They are a FOOD SOURCE! :D

 

LeeAnne

[robinm]

I cannot believe this post is still going on!!! Next!:eek:

[Ula]

This thread is pretty funny, and before cruising and a child back in the 60's and that means we shared every room with our parents. I wonder if I should ask them if they ever did it while my sister and I were in the room. I know they do things, my mom gave me a hysterical ***** story. But I like to think they were celibate while we were at home.

[Leejnd4]

I cannot believe this post is still going on!!! Next!:eek:

Hey, we gotta have something exciting to do when we're not cruising! :D

[ncchuck]

My wife and I have enjoyed this thread - it's quite funny to see all the different perspectives and read the grandparent stories. I do think that the posters who have come down on mrstrod have been way too harsh. If you remember her advice was to be ready to handle getting caught with "grace." I have read and reread the posts and I do not believe mrstrod was advocating having sex out in the open with the children taking notes. Parents know their children. Mine sleeps like a log and not even the house alarm will rouse her, so I'm not too concerned about her "catching" us having wild hot monkey sex. However, if my child woke with every needle hitting the carpet I would rethink my plan of action. Having sex in the same room with children present - when sound asleep - is no big deal and certainly not sick. Having sex when there is a great chance of "getting caught" is just not being a responsible parent. And mrstrod's advice of being prepared and knowing what you are going to do if your child sees you having sex is extremely wise, whether you are on a cruise ship or in your own home and forgot to lock your bedroom door!

 

And people who have walked in on their parents and are now scarred for life, well, if a leather swing and tongs were involved that might cause night-terrors, but if it was normal everyday hoochy sex then all that means is that their parents failed to handle the situation with grace and facilitated the notion that sex was dirty - which by the way when done right it is. :D

[Leejnd4]

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And people who have walked in on their parents and are now scarred for life, well, if a leather swing and tongs were involved...

Um...I assume you meant "thongs"...then again, you might have meant tongs, which I normally associate with picking up things such as chicken legs or hot dogs off the grill. On the other hand, hey if you enjoy hot monkey sex with kitchen utensils, more power to ya! I have a garlic press which is looking pretty good right about now...then again, there's that wisk... :D

[Dockman123]

topless one thing, watching parents have s** is another. Very disturbing. You might as well show them a porn film because it is "normal"

WRONG!!!!

I don't think anyone was advocating having sex while the kids are watching. Maybe I have read these posts wrong but I don't think so.

[ncchuck]

:D Hey, kitchen utensils are not just for cookin'

[ncamy]

As his wife...I asked him what the tongs were for too!

[Nliedel]

topless one thing, watching parents have s** is another. Very disturbing. You might as well show them a porn film because it is "normal"

WRONG!!!!

 

wait, wait, no one on this thread advocated allowing your children to watch parents have marital relations on any level.

[shirleygr]

Um...I assume you meant "thongs"...then again, you might have meant tongs, which I normally associate with picking up things such as chicken legs or hot dogs off the grill. On the other hand, hey if you enjoy hot monkey sex with kitchen utensils, more power to ya! I have a garlic press which is looking pretty good right about now...then again, there's that wisk... :D

Gosh, you are just too funny. Thanks for some laughs. :D

 

For all of you who are so uptight about your kids and sex, let me tell you a story. My parents were married for 57 years. I never saw them hug or kiss, much less anything else. I thought for the longest time that my parents did not really love each other since they never expressed their affection to each other and only stayed married for the sake of the children. A few years ago, my mother was diagnosed with lung cancer and died six weeks later. My father rarely left her bedside and cried for days when she passed. It wasn't until then, when I was 42 years old, that I realized how much my parents truly loved each other. Growing up in a home where my parents were so repressed was no more healthy than having parents who are extroverted with their expressions of intimacy. JMO

[ncamy]

Shirley, your story is very touching....reminds me sooooo much of my own parents. Mine also never expressed any physical attraction (at least not in public) but when my father died, it was like my mother was broken. I had never seen such love.

 

My husband on the other hand...he's the one advocating the tongs above...and I have a very openly affectionate relationship. I've never really thought about whether it was because my own parents were so conservative and we were just rebellious or what. Very cool perspective. TFS.

[Leejnd4]

Well, my parents were all over each other all the time -- decorously, of course, as this was back in the 60's! But I have strong memories of constantly catching them smooching in the kitchen. And I also recall the distinct sound of them locking the bedroom door. Even before I had any inkling of what they were doing in there, I remember that it gave me an unidentifiable sense of security and grounded-ness. Of course, once I was old enough to have an idea what WAS going on in there, I would think, EEEEWWW! (But I still had a subconscious sense of joy, I think, just knowing they were so connected...unlike some of my friends' parents.)

 

DH and I have always been openly affectionate. We do try to leave the kitchen utensils in the drawers...at least in front of the kiddies. ;)

 

LeeAnne

[mrstrod]

By the way I've enjoyed this thread...reminds me of some of our tent camping experiences. I won't give away too many details but let's just say that my DD (almost 12) now sleeps in a separate tent, though it is right next to ours.

 

I really think you all were too hard on mrstrod. She wasn't saying she thought it was acceptable to put on a show for the kids. In fact she said just the opposite that she wouldn't want her kids to see the whole "kit and kaboodle." I think her point was if you are in a healthy marriage, then the fact that you have an intimate physical relationship should not be something that is secretive. To imply that she wanted to participate in an orgy and some of the other negative things which were thus construed from her post wasn't really appropriate. JMHO.

 

Thank you - that is exactly what I was saying!

[ibzeyda]

Geez, can't believe you can't wait until you get home.

 

I also saw this on page one and had to comment. Hope it is not belaboring the point! Can't wait till you get home? I can't wait until the ship leaves. My kids are in their late 20's so I can just tell them to get their own cabin. Find time and stay young and in love. Romance is ALWAYS the key!;)

[mrstrod]

MRSTROD

 

I had to re-read your post.

 

I am glad you are not my parent and hopeful others don't allow you around their kids.

SICK!!!!!!!!!!

 

If you actually re-read it then you need to get glasses. And as far as critising my parenting usualy the first to critique are the ones who are screwing up. You know nothing about me or my family, so you really should just sit on you rude oppinions!

[mrstrod]

My wife and I have enjoyed this thread - it's quite funny to see all the different perspectives and read the grandparent stories. I do think that the posters who have come down on mrstrod have been way too harsh. If you remember her advice was to be ready to handle getting caught with "grace." I have read and reread the posts and I do not believe mrstrod was advocating having sex out in the open with the children taking notes. Parents know their children. Mine sleeps like a log and not even the house alarm will rouse her, so I'm not too concerned about her "catching" us having wild hot monkey sex. However, if my child woke with every needle hitting the carpet I would rethink my plan of action. Having sex in the same room with children present - when sound asleep - is no big deal and certainly not sick. Having sex when there is a great chance of "getting caught" is just not being a responsible parent. And mrstrod's advice of being prepared and knowing what you are going to do if your child sees you having sex is extremely wise, whether you are on a cruise ship or in your own home and forgot to lock your bedroom door!

 

And people who have walked in on their parents and are now scarred for life, well, if a leather swing and tongs were involved that might cause night-terrors, but if it was normal everyday hoochy sex then all that means is that their parents failed to handle the situation with grace and facilitated the notion that sex was dirty - which by the way when done right it is. :D

 

I can't understand why people have misunderstood but I thank you for understanding my comments. I myself haven't ever had the issue arrive - but I know that IF it did, I would certainly not act horrified in front my my children and nor would I act embarassed. I hope that it would never happen but if it did, then I am sure that we would act calmly (while getting dressed swiftly) and sit and talk with our child, instead of scaring the crap out of them.