What is up with the inappropriate dress?

[mprucha]

OKay now I'm a bit worried and not sure I've packed "appropriatly for our cruise in 3 days. We're doing a small HOLIDAY trip out of Mobile down o Cozumel. I'm expecting it to be warm and beautiful, however I"m the kind of person who loves to just sit on the deck in a lounge chair and enjoy a good book while watching the ocean and hearing the waves, and yeah a little people watching too. Even though I'm expecting great weather, I also thought the deck would be windy and cool especially in he evenings? So I have packed one of my "fleece" type sweasuits to wear. They sell these in the active wear/misses section of the dept. stores, it's sort of a matching pant and jacket thing. While for me it's way to warm to acually sleep in....i have teased at home that i feel like I"m in my jammies all day when i wear it.

 

Okay I"M a 40 year old mom, traveling alone with her 18 year yr old son. I don't want to look sleazy or trashy, just wanted something comfy and warm to wear lounging in a chair relaxing.

 

So is the oufit a keeper...or do I need to repack?

:confused:

 

Relax and don't repack! What you've packed is fine. Enjoy your cruise and do yourself a favor and don't read anymore threads having to do with what you should or shouldn't wear! :)

[kiraryker]

I have pictures of myself in over sized off the shoulder sweatshirts and leg warmers and hair so big that it hit ceilings!!!! And I actually wore that daily - my mom would just roll her eyes And I couldn't believe she wore skirts with poodles on them and scarves in her hair everyday??

 

How the times change - just go with the flow and realize that younger generations need to make their own fashion mark so they can look back and laugh at themselves too!!

[mprucha]

I actually remember dressing like that exactly too and that was the thing to wear! You were suppose to be cool if you could wear those leg warmes and off the shoulder sweaters....lol....Looking back at pictures now I crack up as I see some of the different stuff I wore as a younger person in the name of fashion! :eek:

[Djptcp]

DH and I just sailed on the Glory last week and we were appalled at the lack of attention to the dress code the whole week in the dining room. Passengers totally ignored the "no shorts, no tee-shirts" rule and came to dinner in shorts and flip flops. They seemed to dress up for the two formal nights, but we did not like what we saw the rest of the time. Why bother posting a dress code if the staff isn't going to enforce it?

[Homosassa]

Here you all go - the definitive dress code for different lines :D

 

 

http://boards.cruisecritic.com/showthread.php?t=682770

[Cruise Raider]

I myself on a few occasions have walked up to the Lido to get coffee for my DH and myself in my pj's. I never really thought about it offending anyone as I am always completely covered. I see many people out and about where I live wearing their jammie bottoms. I don't think I could go out for the day wearing them though. To each their own I've always said.

 

I have snuck out for coffee in the morning while wearing my flannel pj bottoms in an attempt not to wake my DS. I am with sillygirl, I didn't think it would offend anyone.

We have also been accustomed to changing into our pj's/loungewear to go to the movie theater / MUTS at night. Again, didn't really think it should offend anyone as we were fully covered. (our pj's look more like sweats and less like pj's -- but nonetheless).

I think the dining rooms, lounges, showrooms and casino demand a bit more structured attire, but in a resort, you see many people walking around with next to nothing on and nobody bats an eye. I don't think anybody should worry about what others are wearing in these more casual areas of the ship, including the buffets, public decks, promanade, etc. --- as long as they aren't dressed indecently.

[terri910]

I personally don't think this has anything to do with people needing to get lives nor do I feel people are "worrying" about what others wear. It's simply an observation.

And in addition to that observation and understanding of the need to observe rules of ettiquette.

"The philosophical basis of civilization is exactly the same as that of manners-that people must agree to restrain their impulses and follow a common language of behavior in order to avoid making communal life abrasive, unpleasant and explosive," Mrs. Martin said. In America, this history has been forgotten; "it's come to be believed that etiquette was invented by Victorian killjoys-I'm a prime suspect here-in order to ruin private pleasures, to quash the freedoms achieved during the Enlightenment, and just for good measure, to humiliate honest working people at every possible opportunity."

 

The breakdown in the teaching and use of etiquette is a primary cause of conflicts ranging from excessive litigation to street violence, Mrs. Martin said. Many people feel that lack of manners is a relatively minor issue, but it can be viewed another way, she said. "What if the decline of etiquette is one of the more serious social problems from which the other serious social problems devolved as epiphenomena?" While not claiming that all crime is "merely lethal rudeness," she noted that shootings and other urban violence often arise from a perceived lack of respect from the victim to the aggressor. "The response to feeling `dissed' is a major cause of crime in this country," she said. The only difference between such violent confrontations now and in the past, she added, is that "now we've eliminated some of the frills," such as slapping the offender in the face with a pair of gloves.

http://web.mit.edu/newsoffice/1995/manners-0201.html

 

Our courts are filled with disputes that could have been avoided (or, at the very least, resolved) with proper understanding and use of etiquette. Come to think of it, some of those involve dress codes!

 

Anyway....for those that think people that believe there is a REASON for different etiquette rules are only "jealous" or "need a life" reading the above link might help dissuade you from your untrue and unfounded assumptions. :)

[dlex]

Man your on a cruise just sit back enjoy and laugh at people. You can complain when your at work. :confused:

[Peto]

..i myself think it does look (&%$$*)(&^&) but will keep my comments to myself..:D

 

 

no you won't ;)

[Sneezykevina]

Here you all go - the definitive dress code for different lines :D

 

 

http://boards.cruisecritic.com/showthread.php?t=682770

 

That was priceless! I know one thing, I'm not wearing black formal shoes, they kill my feet. At best I'm wearing Docksiders, otherwise it's sneakers for me.

[babyher]

I always remember what my dad would say when I was a kid.

 

Like the times when you would say "but dad Jimmy is doing this , or Johnnys Mom lets him do that ."

 

He would always say "Never mind what Jimmy or Johnny or whoever is doing, worry about what you are doing. Thats a full time job in itself. As long as you are doing the right thing, let Johnny or Jimmy jump off a bridge if they want to. Just worry that you are doing right"

 

It still makes a lot of sense after al these years :)

[nasvhillecruise]

babyher,

You're right there. Plus I love people watching & if everyone dressed the same, that would take away some of the fun!:D

[beach410]

Not only is comfy flannel PJ's the in thing, apparently so is wearing your slippers, yes, people wear slippers, the fuzzy ones that keep your feet warm in the house, not sure why you would want to drag the muck from public places onto your slippers, but they do it, to the chinese take out and to social gatherings as well. I like to be comfortable, but my slippers stay in my house!

[sun~]

PJ bottom style has been going on here for a few years in Ottawa. It is very common to see teen girls wear them to school and at the mall. Just a fad, it does seem to be passing thank goodness.

 

I really don't care what people wear on a ship. The only thing I ever saw that was close to offensive was on the Maasdam. A woman wore the shortest mini (yep you saw her underwear) and thigh high boots. She looked like a hooker. She seemed to take great delight in bending way over at the roulette table. Oh well.

[Peto]

As long as you are doing the right thing, let Johnny or Jimmy jump off a bridge if they want to. Just worry that you are doing right"

 

 

I'm with Johnny and Jimmy on this one :D:D:D

[aa79606]

The fashion fad that I'm absolutely over is those velour jogging suits that women wear that are in eye popping bright colors, expecially the hot pink ones. I think Jessica Simpson or JLo made them popular a few years back and now I see women all over town shopping in them. I just think they are ridiculous. Jogging outfit is one thing but the hot pink velour? And they are usually VERY tight. They look like they put their daughter's clothes on. That and Uggs boots have to go. (No mean to offend anyone who likes that stuff, I promise. I admitted I wear PJs out of the house so I'm not fashion icon myself).

 

Uh oh! I just bought myself a pink velour track suit at Dillard's, to wear when boarding when we set sail THIS SUNDAY... :D Plus, I got it in the junior's department, and I'm 33 :rolleyes: ... hey, it was only $12!! And the color is more of a salmon/rose, not hot pink...

 

Typical... I'm always running late, even in fashion! LOL :p No offense taken here!

 

Oh, so if anyone else here is sailing on the Conquest 1/6/2008... I'll be the blonde in the pink jogging suit!

[Safetyal]

I actually remember dressing like that exactly too and that was the thing to wear! You were suppose to be cool if you could wear those leg warmes and off the shoulder sweaters....lol....Looking back at pictures now I crack up as I see some of the different stuff I wore as a younger person in the name of fashion! :eek:

 

 

Please tell me you are woman. :eek: :D

[Cobra1365]

I'll probably take a few shots over this, but I view the practice of going out to public places in PJ's as an extension of ones personal behavior. So, to me, the perception is the person is too lazy to take ten minutes and get dressed. What else are they too lazy to do? It's all about perception! You don't have to put make up on and get all glamorous, but at least get dressed!

[cruisinbuddy]

I used to be the Head Chef of a small hotel, and one morning a lady walks into the dining room wearing one of those Teddy pj outfits, Completely see through. Yes she looked good. Funny, after 5 cruises, I've never seen anyone walk around in there pjs or robe.

[Katz A Prowl]

I'll probably take a few shots over this, but I view the practice of going out to public places in PJ's as an extension of ones personal behavior. So, to me, the perception is the person is too lazy to take ten minutes and get dressed. What else are they too lazy to do? It's all about perception! You don't have to put make up on and get all glamorous, but at least get dressed!

 

Whatever happened to don't judge a book by it's cover?

[terri910]

Whatever happened to don't judge a book by it's cover?

Perhaps it was dragged to wherever manners were hidden by those that don't have enough respect for themselves or society to dress properly for a given situation....?

 

IOW, the book has NEVER said "Aaaack! I'm locked out of my stateroom in my pajamas! How embarrassing!" *LOL*

[uscboy]

I'll probably take a few shots over this, but I view the practice of going out to public places in PJ's as an extension of ones personal behavior. So, to me, the perception is the person is too lazy to take ten minutes and get dressed. What else are they too lazy to do? It's all about perception! You don't have to put make up on and get all glamorous, but at least get dressed!

 

Here's a shocker... most people don't care how you or others perceive them. ;)

 

Especially on a cruise.

 

In fact, I'm sailing this Saturday and I think in honor of this thread I'm

getting breakfast in my flannel comfy pants and a tshirt in the morning

and bringing it back to the room! :D

[terri910]

Here's a shocker... most people don't care how you or others perceive them. ;)

That is neither news nor shocking.

 

It is sad, however.

[BND]

I dunno. My boys (21 and 24) never left the house or went to class in flannel pj's. I think it's just as easy to slip on a pair of jeans or shorts as it is to put on flannel pj bottoms. What I find interesting is the usual few who are proudly sleeping in the buff haven't appeared on this thread to discuss that.:D

 

There are more inappropriate clothing items (or lack therof) than full length pj bottoms, but I think some people's issue has more to do with the sense of propriety they were raised with. There are just some things you "don't do" and that includes wearing your pjs out side of your home or bedroom. There are some things I don't care to see and at least with pj bottoms they are covered up.;)

[bakechef]

That is neither news nor shocking.

 

It is sad, however.

 

Not caring what people think about you is confidence, not sad in my opinion.

 

Pj's are not my style in public, and I hope it doesn't become wide spread, but I am definitely not seeing this a a decline of polite society.

 

I think people are just tired of living by all these rules, do this do that, act this way act that way, or be labeled as trash or something similar. I used to be one of those people, I am no longer, I live life to the fullest, treat people well, and don't worry about the rest.

 

MAC