Would you care?

[First and Ten]

We good. You telling me you are "direct" explains a lot. You and I are about as opposite, personality wise, as it gets. Yes, I am the "sensitive" type, as you have correctly LABELED me. You seem to be the insensitive type. In all honestly, our kinds do not mix well. I'll refrain from engaging with you in the future. Nothing good would come of it.

 

you capitalized the word "LABELED", like that is a bad thing....yet you LABELED me as insensitive. Based on what? an admitted extrovert? If someone is direct or an extrovert, they have to be insensitive? :confused:

Edited September 26, 2016 by First and Ten

[AHS123]

I'd be relieved. I've been in this situation myself where one of the couples I was sitting with were very religious and talking to the wait staff about accepting Jesus and it was very uncomfortable. I at least could excuse myself as it was at the end of the meal but the waiters could not.

 

Unlike the wait staff you got to have the last supper with them.

[Havingfun2010]

Rude = yes. If you want to move because you want a window seat, or a table for two or any other reasons, please let us know. It's just a polite thing to do. I was at a table, where a large group was split up, and these 2 people were "misplaced" at our table. Found out 4 other member were also misplaced, and their request to sit together at 2 tables was messed up. They were very nice, about it, but did let us know, they were discussing it with the ship, to see if it can get fixed. Yes, I moved to a new table, and completely understood the reason. It was nice knowing the reason.

 

My other issue would be sitting at a large table for 8 and always being the only 2 people at dinner. Would be nice if the cruise line have a method of handling this when it happens, like you can opt out of the MDR so the seats can be better assigned and let them do MTD only.

[FlyingCruiserNJ]

Well, this just happened to us on our last cruise, sort of. Table for 7, all 7 seated first night. It was a couple, mid 50s, another 50-ish couple and her father, and me and my mother, although we all seemed to click. Not all that much in common, but it worked but we found out the 3rd night or so after they did not show up in the mdr twice, that they moved to a two-top near a window. It was the late seating, and the dining room was half empty anyway so easy to accommodate them. Anyway, people may move just because they want a different setting, maybe not that they dislike the people they sit with. I have asked to have my table moved before as well. No offense taken by any of us at our table as we understood why the others moved and we had a great time every night at our table with the extra room for the rest of the cruise. Besides, who wants to sit with people they do not like at dinner during what is supposed to be a fun cruise and dining experience?

[Jdfireman]

Last time switched tables when two rude women sat at the table and played on their phone all night they added nothing to the conversation.

[cynt]

I wouldn't care. Ive had rude and obnoxious tablemates and moved. Ive moved just cause. I've had others move. I don't feel I owe them an explanation or they owe me one. I make sure to let the waitstaff know so they won't be waiting on me each evening. And I hope the tablemates who leave do the same.

 

It drives me crazy when people think I owe them something. I don't owe you anything. All you need to know is I'm not sitting there any longer. Period point blank.

 

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Edited September 26, 2016 by cynt

[Towel Critter]

you capitalized the word "LABELED", like that is a bad thing....yet you LABELED me as insensitive. Based on what? an admitted extrovert? If someone is direct or an extrovert, they have to be insensitive? :confused:

 

No, extroverts are not in general insensitive. Some are, just as some introverts are insensitive. But in my experience, the people who like to think of themselves as "direct" ARE generally insensitive. Being right trumps being considerate for them. Putting their infallible opinions out there trumps being considerate. I've known a few "direct" folks. Maybe it isn't the case 100% of the time, but life experience tells me it's a safe assumption. When someone demonstrates otherwise to me, I'll stop assuming it.

[john91498]

Nope, wouldn't care. I'm on vacation and I try to minimize negative items s much as possible.

[Kevin]

It has been a long time since we were seated with others, I think July of 2006, and I miss it. We always request a large table but since we are traveling with our kids we get a table for four.

 

Way back in the past, the second cruise we ever went on, my wife and I were seated at a table for 10. Four of the people did not speak english. Conversation was awkward and the six of us talked while the four of them talked.

 

The next night when my wife and I sat down there was an entirely different group of 8 people. I guess all the others had complained. We ended up having a great time at dinner with the new group and liked to joke that we had driven away the others.

[First and Ten]

No, extroverts are not in general insensitive. Some are, just as some introverts are insensitive. But in my experience, the people who like to think of themselves as "direct" ARE generally insensitive. Being right trumps being considerate for them. Putting their infallible opinions out there trumps being considerate. I've known a few "direct" folks. Maybe it isn't the case 100% of the time, but life experience tells me it's a safe assumption. When someone demonstrates otherwise to me, I'll stop assuming it.

 

I never claimed I was right and you were wrong....I answered one way on the poll, you probably answered the other....its opinion as opposed to fact

Edited September 26, 2016 by First and Ten

[Sweet Dutch Girl]

I never claimed I was right and you were wrong....I answered one way on the poll, you probably answered the other....its opinion as opposed to fact

 

Would I care, probably not that much....Would I find it rude, absolutely

 

The "Bubble" mentality annoys me when you are on a cruise. If you want your "own little world", don't go on a cruise....Rent a remote cabin someplace so you don't have to see anyone. That is not the scene on a cruise ship....if you don't like strangers, don't cruise, real simple

 

We get it that you have an opinion, but when your opinion is (under cover of an on-line forum) rude to a sub-set of cruisers it does become fodder for others to "judge" you since you are, in fact, judging others.

[First and Ten]

We get it that you have an opinion, but when your opinion is (under cover of an on-line forum) rude to a sub-set of cruisers it does become fodder for others to "judge" you since you are, in fact, judging others.

 

Dutch, you seem to be fishing for an argument due to fact you have been quoting my last few responses....maybe its a slow day at the senior center....so far I have played Elsa and "Let it Go", but what the heck....

 

We are all "under cover", unless Sweet Dutch Girl is your given name. Rude? who was I rude to? I didn't judge anyone.....I said I would find that action rude (per the poll). If you don't, hey, that's cool

Edited September 26, 2016 by First and Ten

[swodog94]

Nope, wouldn't care. Our first cruise we had tablemates whom we met the first night and didn't see again until the last night. They were about 20 years younger than us and not married, good solid blue-collar folks from Philly. We were married 20 years and white collar (US Navy Officer and wife). We got along just fine, but it was obvious that they were not comfortable with the "forced" requirement to be sociable with strangers over dinner for 5 nights in a row.

Then last time on Pride we had a table for four but our mates never made an appearance so we had the table to ourselves the whole week. I enjoy meeting new folks, but I can see how other folks might be very uncomfortable being forced to interact with strangers, especially if there's little to nothing in common.

[Sweet Dutch Girl]

Dutch, you seem to be fishing for an argument due to fact you have been just quoting my responses....maybe its a slow day at the senior center....so far I have played Elsa and "Let it Go", but what the heck....

 

We are all "under cover", unless Sweet Dutch Girl is your given name. Rude? who was I rude to? I didn't judge anyone.....I said I would find that action rude. If you don't, hey, that's cool

 

You assume way too much....and, even though you don't think your words were rude about a ship not being the place for those "who like to be in their own little world" you were. Typed words can often make others feel uncomfortable and that is all I was pointing out. And, thanks for (however unintentionally) disparaging folks who actually live in a senior center...I'm sure they understand the intent of those words just fine. Have a nice day.

[OCruisers]

Third choice option: I'd be relieved and thankful.

 

So would we! :D

[golfb4cruzing]

We always do ATD and wait for table for two. First couple of cruises we sat with whomever but the game of 20 questions got old. SO if it had happened, I be a little upset they got to the Maitre D before I did

[DrAstroZoom]

The only reason I would care and/or think it rude would be if we had really hit it off with the couple who bailed. Otherwise, you said yourself you had nothing in common. If you're not missing their companionship, you're better off anyway.

[First and Ten]

You assume way too much....and, even though you don't think your words were rude about a ship not being the place for those "who like to be in their own little world" you were. Typed words can often make others feel uncomfortable and that is all I was pointing out. And, thanks for (however unintentionally) disparaging folks who actually live in a senior center...I'm sure they understand the intent of those words just fine. Have a nice day.

 

You as well....paint by numbers at 7 pm? :D

Edited September 26, 2016 by First and Ten

[BetMax]

Would I care, probably not that much....Would I find it rude, absolutely

 

The "Bubble" mentality annoys me when you are on a cruise. If you want your "own little world", don't go on a cruise....Rent a remote cabin someplace so you don't have to see anyone. That is not the scene on a cruise ship....if you don't like strangers, don't cruise, real simple

That's kind of rude. We have health issues I wouldn't wish on anyone. We love meeting new people but can't eat much. And we shouldn't have to explain that to you or anyone else we are assigned to eat with. A table for two works better for us.

 

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[katiel53]

If we had nothing in common, I think it would be unfair to both of us to sit together. A cruise is supposed to be enjoyable for all of us. Should they choose to get another table, or should we, I would hope that the empty spots at the table would be filled with someone more companionable.

 

I think it would be more rude to say to the others, we have nothing in common, so we are asking for a new table. I'd be so embarrassed even if it were true.

Edited September 26, 2016 by katiel53

[Drazil65]

Third choice option: I'd be relieved and thankful.

 

THIS absolutely!!!

 

We always ask for a private table for the 3 of us anyway and have been able to get one on each cruise.

 

We don't mind talking and interacting with others and find it interesting to speak with people from all over in most cases. For us dinner time is our talk about our day time and interact with just us as a family.

 

We tend to be selfish about this time period and it is something we look forward to.

[Domino D]

Say you went to the MDR on the first night of the cruise, and you had two strangers as tablemates. You didn't have much in common (different age groups, languages, whatever) and the next night you noticed they had spoken to the Maitre D and got a new, private table. Would you care? Would you take offense to it?

 

EDIT: The title was supposed to read "Would you care"

 

Have done this ourselves, and had done to us. No I didn't care and No I didn't take offense.

 

On one cruise we actually sat with the family that we changed tables on at the comedy club and had a wonderful time. They never asked why we changed, and we never discussed it.

[Haoie]

This happened on my first Carnival cruise [it was a short one but I still remember the missing couple]

 

Here's hoping for some cool tablemates in a few months!

[lizzyplague]

We had a table for 9 on our last cruise and one of the families of 3 bailed out and had their own table the last few nights. The wife didn't seem like she wanted to be there anyway, and the husband and son weren't very chatty.

 

Plus, she was giving death glares to the other group of 3 at our table when they saw her around the ship at various times.

 

My parents would greet her as we walked by her and nothing... so.. no, I don't really care if people like that want a different table. Whatever makes them happy.

[Warm Breezes]

C - Not applicable, as we would be the ones requesting the private table.

 

ditto....in fact we ask for a private table right from the start. ATD for us.

Edited September 26, 2016 by Warm Breezes