Rare P&O SUE Posted August 26, 2023 #49301 Share Posted August 26, 2023 53 minutes ago, bobstheboy said: It's lovely for those of you that have had your parents for many years. I lost my father when I was 11 and mother at 19.Never saw me marry, have children, their children or my career. That's life. Im so sorry to hear this, I thought someone would say this. I’ll say no more, I just worry about them constantly. 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beckett Posted August 26, 2023 #49302 Share Posted August 26, 2023 1 hour ago, bobstheboy said: It's lovely for those of you that have had your parents for many years. I lost my father when I was 11 and mother at 19.Never saw me marry, have children, their children or my career. That's life. How sad Bob. Having had these awful lfe events happen at such tender ages must have been unimaginably traumatic. So sorry. Jane xx 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dermotsgirl Posted August 26, 2023 #49303 Share Posted August 26, 2023 8 hours ago, P&O SUE said: Morning all, thought I’d just check in. I’ve had an awful week, my Dad went into hospital last Sunday night and he came out Wednesday. Each day they said he’d be out that day and then it changed. Of course I then have to have my mum here and she has definitely deteriorated since last year. Anyway I won’t bore you with the details but thought I’d pop in, have a good weekend all. Totally understand how you feel, I had a similar thing with my parents. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beckett Posted August 26, 2023 #49304 Share Posted August 26, 2023 48 minutes ago, P&O SUE said: I know what you mean but she falls SO much and cuts her arms as her skin is so paper thin now. When I walked into her bedroom when she was staying the sheets were like a bloodbath as her plaster had come off in the night. She was so upset but I said at least I could wash the sheets and it wasn’t the carpet! Poor mum and poor you Sue. Being a carer is one of the hardest jobs in the world and even more so when you are caring for parents. You're doing a wonderful job Sue but do take care of yourself too. Jane xx 10 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lincslady Posted August 26, 2023 #49305 Share Posted August 26, 2023 49 minutes ago, Beckett said: Poor mum and poor you Sue. Being a carer is one of the hardest jobs in the world and even more so when you are caring for parents. You're doing a wonderful job Sue but do take care of yourself too. Jane xx +1 Sue - we are not in that sort of position (yet) and hope that it will never happen. I am becoming a believer in deciding when you need to go, if you wish to. It is a shame when it spoils what should be happy times together. I have been through this myself, with DH who had dementia, and became very difficult to look after. So at present, I am doing very well, by comparison. You must take care of yourself too, and try to have some time to do enjoyable things on your own, or with friends. Even just talking to friends via phone or email helps - even coming on here, with supportive people! xx 16 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bobstheboy Posted August 26, 2023 #49306 Share Posted August 26, 2023 I have had a very good life and know my parents would have been proud of all my family so I have a lot to be thankful for. Just enjoy life while you can, works for me. 13 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grapau27 Posted August 26, 2023 #49307 Share Posted August 26, 2023 48 minutes ago, lincslady said: +1 Sue - we are not in that sort of position (yet) and hope that it will never happen. I am becoming a believer in deciding when you need to go, if you wish to. It is a shame when it spoils what should be happy times together. I have been through this myself, with DH who had dementia, and became very difficult to look after. So at present, I am doing very well, by comparison. You must take care of yourself too, and try to have some time to do enjoyable things on your own, or with friends. Even just talking to friends via phone or email helps - even coming on here, with supportive people! xx Pauline,her brother and I cared for Pauline's mam for her last 4 years with dementia without carer's and she was happy to be in her own home till the end aged 96 years almost 5 years ago. It is good to chat to friends and our daily thread has been helpful since the start of lockdown. We like to go out to eat and had a lovely meal tonight. 17 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Josy1953 Posted August 26, 2023 #49308 Share Posted August 26, 2023 How many are watching Northern Soul at the Proms ? We are reminiscing again, tonight it is about the soul nights at The Kings Hall in Stoke and Wigan Casino. We wouldn't be able to dance for hours now. Were any of the northerners on here soul fans ? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grapau27 Posted August 26, 2023 #49309 Share Posted August 26, 2023 14 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Josy1953 Posted August 26, 2023 #49310 Share Posted August 26, 2023 41 minutes ago, grapau27 said: So true 😂 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennizor Posted August 26, 2023 #49311 Share Posted August 26, 2023 2 hours ago, Josy1953 said: How many are watching Northern Soul at the Proms ? We are reminiscing again, tonight it is about the soul nights at The Kings Hall in Stoke and Wigan Casino. We wouldn't be able to dance for hours now. Were any of the northerners on here soul fans ? Josy, as a teenager, I went to Wigan Casino several times with school friends. We weren’t particularly soul fans, we just loved the atmosphere. As ‘O’ levels loomed, we stopped going and for some reason we didn’t go again. Lovely memories though. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare P&O SUE Posted August 27, 2023 #49312 Share Posted August 27, 2023 I know I haven’t caught up on all the thread but is Wowzz still missing? 🙁 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purdey16 Posted August 27, 2023 #49313 Share Posted August 27, 2023 3 hours ago, P&O SUE said: I know I haven’t caught up on all the thread but is Wowzz still missing? 🙁 Yes and not even on the princess board, very worrying 🥴 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Josy1953 Posted August 27, 2023 #49314 Share Posted August 27, 2023 Hopefully he is OK but has decided to take a rest from posting. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare P&O SUE Posted August 27, 2023 #49315 Share Posted August 27, 2023 1 hour ago, Purdey16 said: Yes and not even on the princess board, very worrying 🥴 1 hour ago, Josy1953 said: Hopefully he is OK but has decided to take a rest from posting. It’s been a very long time though … Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brian1 Posted August 27, 2023 #49316 Share Posted August 27, 2023 Time for good news,West Ham are top of the Premiership,YAY.😊 4 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalos Posted August 27, 2023 #49317 Share Posted August 27, 2023 16 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pete14 Posted August 27, 2023 #49318 Share Posted August 27, 2023 (edited) After some brilliant displays at yesterday’s Rhyl air show, including the amazing Red Arrows, today is cold wet and windy which doesn’t bode well for day 2. At least there may be fewer empties to take to recycle if it doesn’t brighten up a bit. Edited August 27, 2023 by pete14 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare Presto2 Posted August 27, 2023 #49319 Share Posted August 27, 2023 (edited) 47 minutes ago, pete14 said: After some brilliant displays at yesterday’s Rhyl air show, including the amazing Red Arrows, today is cold wet and windy which doesn’t bode well for day 2. At least there may be fewer empties to take to recycle if it doesn’t brighten up a bit. There's time yet. It'll be t shirt and shorts weather later and factor 50 cream. We are back home and it's grey and miserable here as well. Lots of flood water on the A51 so anyone travelling today needs to take care. Ps remind me what month this is. Saying 14 degrees here Edited August 27, 2023 by Presto2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adawn47 Posted August 27, 2023 #49320 Share Posted August 27, 2023 7 hours ago, P&O SUE said: I know I haven’t caught up on all the thread but is Wowzz still missing? 🙁 The last time he posted was about May I think, at least on CC. It's very worrying. Avril 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adawn47 Posted August 27, 2023 #49321 Share Posted August 27, 2023 3 hours ago, Josy1953 said: Hopefully he is OK but has decided to take a rest from posting. I hope that's all it is, and that his family are all well. Strange how you can feel close to people you've never met. Avril 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lancashire_cruisers Posted August 27, 2023 #49322 Share Posted August 27, 2023 18 hours ago, lincslady said: As probably the oldest person who posts here, I do think we change a bit as we get really old - more determined to keep going and in a way more selfish (particularly if you are on your own), which you do rather have to be so as not to give up! I think my 'children' admire it in some ways, but of course also find it irritating at times. They would probably prefer Mum to be more willing to be told what to do and more docile, therefore easier to help. I have a feeling that you will all behave similarly given long enough! You’ve just described my Mum to a tee. However, in her case she refused any help even when she was dying which made her last days very traumatic for us. In fact had she not collapsed in the street and a neighbour called an ambulance I would never known she was so poorly. Getting a phone call from a paramedic late on a Friday evening was just the start of her refusing to go to hospital for 3 days despite several ambulances and GP visits. All I wanted for her was a comfortable passing which she would only get in hospital as she had a ruptured duodenum, sepsis, and aspirated pneumonia. I’m all for being independent but not to the extent my Mum was in her final days and the impact that left with her family in the aftermath of her passing. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bobstheboy Posted August 27, 2023 #49323 Share Posted August 27, 2023 45 minutes ago, lancashire_cruisers said: You’ve just described my Mum to a tee. However, in her case she refused any help even when she was dying which made her last days very traumatic for us. In fact had she not collapsed in the street and a neighbour called an ambulance I would never known she was so poorly. Getting a phone call from a paramedic late on a Friday evening was just the start of her refusing to go to hospital for 3 days despite several ambulances and GP visits. All I wanted for her was a comfortable passing which she would only get in hospital as she had a ruptured duodenum, sepsis, and aspirated pneumonia. I’m all for being independent but not to the extent my Mum was in her final days and the impact that left with her family in the aftermath of her passing. That's my sister in a nutshell. 98, very independent, partially sighted, hard of hearing and apart from a cleaner for two hours a week, does everything. I live 170 miles away so rely on her son (useless) and neighbours. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lincslady Posted August 27, 2023 #49324 Share Posted August 27, 2023 Obviously I agree with you - I know I am not that stubborn! At least, not at present while my brain is still working fairly well. I think I have said here before, I send my two children a brief email just saying M each morning around 6 when I wake, so they don't need to worry about me that day, and am good about wearing Lifeline in the house all the time. (Though I don't like having to). I used to worry about my own mother some 30 years ago, and did a phone call each morning, so realise it is important just to let them know you have made it through the night! 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Britboys Posted August 27, 2023 #49325 Share Posted August 27, 2023 Hi all, Just back today from 12 nights aboard the lovely Aurora to Norway. Will do a more detailed report but had a really good cruise. Embarkation was a breeze, entertainment great, food fine, Aurora in good fettle and disembarkation a doddle. First washing already in the machine... 19 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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