Rare John&LaLa Posted December 11, 2021 #40276 Share Posted December 11, 2021 Found on FB ✨Expected Death ~ When someone dies, the first thing to do is nothing. Don't run out and call the nurse. Don't pick up the phone. Take a deep breath and be present to the magnitude of the moment. There's a grace to being at the bedside of someone you love as they make their transition out of this world. At the moment they take their last breath, there's an incredible sacredness in the space. The veil between the worlds opens. We're so unprepared and untrained in how to deal with death that sometimes a kind of panic response kicks in. "They're dead!" We knew they were going to die, so their being dead is not a surprise. It's not a problem to be solved. It's very sad, but it's not cause to panic. If anything, their death is cause to take a deep breath, to stop, and be really present to what's happening. If you're at home, maybe put on the kettle and make a cup of tea. Sit at the bedside and just be present to the experience in the room. What's happening for you? What might be happening for them? What other presences are here that might be supporting them on their way? Tune into all the beauty and magic. Pausing gives your soul a chance to adjust, because no matter how prepared we are, a death is still a shock. If we kick right into "do" mode, and call 911, or call the hospice, we never get a chance to absorb the enormity of the event. Give yourself five minutes or 10 minutes, or 15 minutes just to be. You'll never get that time back again if you don't take it now. After that, do the smallest thing you can. Call the one person who needs to be called. Engage whatever systems need to be engaged, but engage them at the very most minimal level. Move really, really, really, slowly, because this is a period where it's easy for body and soul to get separated. Our bodies can gallop forwards, but sometimes our souls haven't caught up. If you have an opportunity to be quiet and be present, take it. Accept and acclimatize and adjust to what's happening. Then, as the train starts rolling, and all the things that happen after a death kick in, you'll be better prepared. You won't get a chance to catch your breath later on. You need to do it now. Being present in the moments after death is an incredible gift to yourself, it's a gift to the people you're with, and it's a gift to the person who's just died. They're just a hair's breath away. They're just starting their new journey in the world without a body. If you keep a calm space around their body, and in the room, they're launched in a more beautiful way. It's a service to both sides of the veil. Credit for the beautiful words ~ Sarah Kerr, Ritual Healing Practitioner and Death Doula , Death doula Beautiful art by Columbus Community Deathcare #alwayswithlove #dying #death 10 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare John&LaLa Posted December 11, 2021 #40277 Share Posted December 11, 2021 1 hour ago, Ocean Boy said: Have you ever had the experience if viewing a lightening show at sea? So beautiful sitting on a balcony with a glass of wine. Fairly common on Space Coast. Will miss it. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare John&LaLa Posted December 11, 2021 #40278 Share Posted December 11, 2021 1 hour ago, molly361 said: I still cry over a dog that passed away probably more than 15 years ago. She was the best. In the end she was blind and diabetic maybe that's why it still tugs at my heartstrings just thinking about her Chewie has been gone 10. He was our best dog ever. He's on the left. Princess in on the right 15 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare h20skibum Posted December 11, 2021 #40279 Share Posted December 11, 2021 Last night, we crossed state lines to take in the culinary and cultural offerings of Youngstown, Ohio. We met some friends at an Italian restaurant, and from the crowd that was gathered there, we knew it must be good. Unfortunately, I had to limit myself to some wedding soup and adult beverages, since I had too much to eat at the Christmas luncheon. Then it was off to see “Elf, the musical” at the Youngstown Playhouse. As Santa walked by at the beginning of the show, he turned to me and asked if I was on his naughty list.😂. He said he was pretty sure I was on it last year! For a local group, they put on an entertaining show. The individual playing Buddy the Elf stole the show, and the young boy who played Buddy’s brother had a great performance for someone so young. Santa wasn’t too bad either. 9 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ocean Boy Posted December 11, 2021 #40280 Share Posted December 11, 2021 1 hour ago, grapau27 said: We saw a fantastic lightening show as well as eruptions when sailing past Stromboli. Graham I'm glad the Italians did good for you.😇 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ocean Boy Posted December 11, 2021 #40281 Share Posted December 11, 2021 54 minutes ago, vacationlover_mn said: Tons of snow here in MN! Beautiful pictures but they give me anxiety.😄 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare Ozark_Kid Posted December 11, 2021 #40282 Share Posted December 11, 2021 1 hour ago, Ocean Boy said: Have you ever had the experience if viewing a lightening show at sea? So beautiful sitting on a balcony with a glass of Yes! I love lightning shows at sea. I remember it felt calm with a cool breeze while at a distance watching it light up across the water . Beautiful 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dani negreanu Posted December 11, 2021 Author #40283 Share Posted December 11, 2021 2 hours ago, Ocean Boy said: So I debated whether to post this as people might think me odd... When I lost my dog I had her cremated. She is in the curio in the family room. Someday when I go she is coming with me. A new word I've learned today 👍. 1 hour ago, Ocean Boy said: Have you ever had the experience if viewing a lightening show at sea? So beautiful sitting on a balcony with a glass of wine. When we sailed away from Venice (nowadays a thing of the past), a very heavy storm was brewing, and followed us during a few hours "above" the Med. DH didn't catch any lighting, though.... 58 minutes ago, vacationlover_mn said: Tons of snow here in MN! The snow is so beautiful when it is pristine 😁 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare Ozark_Kid Posted December 11, 2021 #40284 Share Posted December 11, 2021 @John&LaLa Last week on the news they said the most popular female dog name was Bella. Yours was the only one I was familiar with named Bella until today I found out my daughter's neighbor dog is Bella. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jagsfan Posted December 11, 2021 #40285 Share Posted December 11, 2021 1 hour ago, grapau27 said: We saw a fantastic lightening show as well as eruptions when sailing past Stromboli. Graham What an amazing experience! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lenquixote66 Posted December 11, 2021 #40286 Share Posted December 11, 2021 2 hours ago, grapau27 said: Happy birthday tomorrow Lenny for your late dad. Pauline gets her vaccine booster tomorrow. Graham. Thanks ,Graham.I hope that Pauline has no side effects from the booster.I had the shingles shot yesterday and no side effects. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lenquixote66 Posted December 11, 2021 #40287 Share Posted December 11, 2021 3 hours ago, Sunshine3601 said: How did your area do with the storms/tornadoes? I hope all is well. Horrible to see the devastation in Kentucky. The storm is headed east and is to hit our area this evening. We just took down our wreath, christmas santa flag and secured some other Christmas decorations as the wind is starting to pick up here. Very windy here now.There is a wind Advisory for the next few hours. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BonTexasNY Posted December 11, 2021 #40288 Share Posted December 11, 2021 34 minutes ago, Ocean Boy said: I'm glad the Italians did good for you.😇 Hey, OB you must be our resident all things Italian expert. My sister and I have a running battle. She claims the Italian word for kitchen, cucina is pronounced CUSEENA I think it's pronounced CUCHEENA, (CH like chin). Who wins the cigar? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jagsfan Posted December 11, 2021 #40289 Share Posted December 11, 2021 1 hour ago, grapau27 said: We saw a fantastic lightening show as well as eruptions when sailing past Stromboli. Graham I picked up a rental car at the Phoenix Az airport and headed west to visit my aunt. I was treated to a lightning show like I’ve never seen before or since. Where I live in Florida, lightning heads for tall trees or the ground. Or the ocean. It’s long jagged bolts. That night in Arizona, it was crawling all over the sky. The sky was almost solid with it. I don’t remember seeing any headed toward the ground, it was like spaghetti covering the sky! This may be run of the mill lightning for most of you, but it was absolutely amazing to me! 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dani negreanu Posted December 11, 2021 Author #40290 Share Posted December 11, 2021 4 minutes ago, BonTexasNY said: I think it's pronounced CUCHEENA, (CH like chin). Since Romanian is a 3rd cousin to Italian, my bet is .... 😁 @Ocean Boy 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NHProud Posted December 11, 2021 #40291 Share Posted December 11, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, John&LaLa said: Found on FB ✨Expected Death ~ When someone dies, the first thing to do is nothing. Don't run out and call the nurse. Don't pick up the phone. Take a deep breath and be present to the magnitude of the moment. There's a grace to being at the bedside of someone you love as they make their transition out of this world. At the moment they take their last breath, there's an incredible sacredness in the space. The veil between the worlds opens. We're so unprepared and untrained in how to deal with death that sometimes a kind of panic response kicks in. "They're dead!" We knew they were going to die, so their being dead is not a surprise. It's not a problem to be solved. It's very sad, but it's not cause to panic. If anything, their death is cause to take a deep breath, to stop, and be really present to what's happening. If you're at home, maybe put on the kettle and make a cup of tea. Sit at the bedside and just be present to the experience in the room. What's happening for you? What might be happening for them? What other presences are here that might be supporting them on their way? Tune into all the beauty and magic. Pausing gives your soul a chance to adjust, because no matter how prepared we are, a death is still a shock. If we kick right into "do" mode, and call 911, or call the hospice, we never get a chance to absorb the enormity of the event. Give yourself five minutes or 10 minutes, or 15 minutes just to be. You'll never get that time back again if you don't take it now. After that, do the smallest thing you can. Call the one person who needs to be called. Engage whatever systems need to be engaged, but engage them at the very most minimal level. Move really, really, really, slowly, because this is a period where it's easy for body and soul to get separated. Our bodies can gallop forwards, but sometimes our souls haven't caught up. If you have an opportunity to be quiet and be present, take it. Accept and acclimatize and adjust to what's happening. Then, as the train starts rolling, and all the things that happen after a death kick in, you'll be better prepared. You won't get a chance to catch your breath later on. You need to do it now. Being present in the moments after death is an incredible gift to yourself, it's a gift to the people you're with, and it's a gift to the person who's just died. They're just a hair's breath away. They're just starting their new journey in the world without a body. If you keep a calm space around their body, and in the room, they're launched in a more beautiful way. It's a service to both sides of the veil. Credit for the beautiful words ~ Sarah Kerr, Ritual Healing Practitioner and Death Doula , Death doula Beautiful art by Columbus Community Deathcare #alwayswithlove #dying #death I guess the key word here is expected death. Can’t say I agree with everything that is written. Edited December 11, 2021 by NHProud 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dani negreanu Posted December 11, 2021 Author #40292 Share Posted December 11, 2021 4 minutes ago, NHProud said: It comes at an opportune time as I learned of the death of my friend this morning. Hugs, Judy 😢 ..... and you're one lucky gal 🥰 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rare John&LaLa Posted December 11, 2021 #40293 Share Posted December 11, 2021 (edited) 25 minutes ago, NHProud said: I guess the key word here is expected death. Can’t say I agree with everything that is written. It's a hospice thing. My grandmother passed on 12/31/1999 just as it hit midnight. I wasn't there, but my mother said the fireworks started almost simultaneously. No one said a word and just watched the fireworks from her hospital window. Edited December 11, 2021 by John&LaLa 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NHProud Posted December 11, 2021 #40294 Share Posted December 11, 2021 @dani negreanu. Thanks , Dani . You are very sweet. @John&LaLa. I’m very sorry about your grandmother. We can use all the compassion , love and support we can can get when a loved one dies. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ocean Boy Posted December 11, 2021 #40295 Share Posted December 11, 2021 1 hour ago, BonTexasNY said: Hey, OB you must be our resident all things Italian expert. My sister and I have a running battle. She claims the Italian word for kitchen, cucina is pronounced CUSEENA I think it's pronounced CUCHEENA, (CH like chin). Who wins the cigar? You do. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lenquixote66 Posted December 11, 2021 #40296 Share Posted December 11, 2021 1 hour ago, BonTexasNY said: Hey, OB you must be our resident all things Italian expert. My sister and I have a running battle. She claims the Italian word for kitchen, cucina is pronounced CUSEENA I think it's pronounced CUCHEENA, (CH like chin). Who wins the cigar? It is pronounced like CUC INA Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sunshine3601 Posted December 11, 2021 #40297 Share Posted December 11, 2021 3 hours ago, Ocean Boy said: So I debated whether to post this as people might think me odd... When I lost my dog I had her cremated. She is in the curio in the family room. Someday when I go she is coming with me. Not odd at all. I have my Splashes in a nice decorative cedar box on my fireplace mantel and my Jasmine has been in a ceramic urn in my spare bedroom for several years on a shelf near window with several plants All our other pets have been buried in our backyard in an area that I turned into a rose and lavender bed. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ocean Boy Posted December 12, 2021 #40298 Share Posted December 12, 2021 21 minutes ago, lenquixote66 said: It is pronounced like CUC INA NO it is not.🤨 3 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HBE4 Posted December 12, 2021 #40299 Share Posted December 12, 2021 I'm trying to figure out why Capicola is pronounced Gabagool? 🤔 2 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luckynana Posted December 12, 2021 #40300 Share Posted December 12, 2021 4 hours ago, Ozark_Kid said: We had a rough 2 hour ride home. The wind gust seemed stronger than the reported 28 mph gust. Semi trailers kept getting blown into the other lane. We had to pass two semi’s with double trailers. The rain was blinding at times. The cool thing was the lightning light show! Thank God you all got home safely last night. Great pictures of a great gift from your kids! 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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