Help! Traveling with "Those People"

[voyager70]

1 minute ago, Judyrem said:

I did not mean to quote you, sorry, I was agreeing with you😦.  I meant to quote the other poster.🙄

 

No worries

 

[breezy_carol]

Mt husband and I went on a cruise this summer with son and DIL.  I guess that made us the in-laws.  I hope neither of them felt this way.  I don't think they did.  We tried very hard to give them space.

[kiddo76]

8 hours ago, Ren1216 said:

OP -- I enjoyed your vent... wait, does that make me a bad person??  Ice cream wasted -- ha!  Hang onto that sense of humor... it may be the only thing that keeps ya afloat.

 

Enjoy the rest of your week!  Cheers!  🍦

If we couldn't laugh, we'd all gone insane... 

[boatdrinks4me]

LOL!   PISSED!   so good..............thanks for the rant!

[kiddo76]

5 hours ago, lisa6191 said:

 

If you are paying your own way, how is that a Christmas present???

 

We always said that if we ever traveled with my IL's we would end up never speaking to them again LOL. Glad you are able to vent and laugh (most of) it off!

That's a good question and another good story...

 

MIL got the comped cruise in a JS offer last December while DH and I were vacationing in Disney. She texted DH (sorry, emailed) and asked if we wanted to go, too, and they could book us with a Casino discount. We would do the trip in lieu of Christmas gifts.

 

She had to have an answer within the week. We weren't even sure of the details, only the total cost, which we could swing. I told DH I was fine with whatever he wanted to do. So he told her we would probably go, but he needed to check to make sure he could get the time off from work first.

 

She went ahead and booked it and told us we could reimburse her the $500 deposit when we got home. All our previous RCCL cruises that we booked ourselves were refundable deposits. Since we hadn't even been looking at cruises and the only info we had on the cruise was from her short emails, we thought we were also getting booked into a JS. We found out after that our room was a balcony and that the $500 was a NRD.

 

To add salt to the wound, I could have booked it with an online TA and would have received the same percentage discount as her "great Casino discount", plus they would have given us OBC.

Edited December 20, 2019 by kiddo76
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[mayleeman]

I am pretty sure my wife and I are the only people either of us would like to travel with in a captive environment like a cruise. Of course, we are the only easy to get along with people we know! Ahem...and she might not be so sure about me.

[Ren1216]

3 hours ago, kiddo76 said:

That's a good question and another good story...

 

MIL got the comped cruise in a JS offer last December while DH and I were vacationing in Disney. She texted DH (sorry, emailed) and asked if we wanted to go, too, and they could book us with a Casino discount. We would do the trip in lieu of Christmas gifts.

 

She had to have an answer within the week. We weren't even sure of the details, only the total cost, which we could swing. I told DH I was fine with whatever he wanted to do. So he told her we would probably go, but he needed to check to make sure he could get the time off from work first.

 

She went ahead and booked it and told us we could reimburse her the $500 deposit when we got home. All our previous RCCL cruises that we booked ourselves were refundable deposits. Since we hadn't even been looking at cruises and the only info we had on the cruise was from her short emails, we thought we were also getting booked into a JS. We found out after that our room was a balcony and that the $500 was a NRD.

 

To add salt to the wound, I could have booked it with an online TA and would have received the same percentage discount as her "great Casino discount", plus they would have given us OBC.

Oh, goodness!  God bless them and their "gift".  Like others have said.... hopefully you'll still have a good time overall, make some memories.... and also have a little something to laugh about when you look back on it.  "Remember that time your parents gave us a cruise discount for Christmas....".  Meanwhile, have an ice cream for me!

Edited December 20, 2019 by Ren1216

[DarrenM]

15 hours ago, bouhunter said:

Sounds like they loved to be pissed

 

Whats wrong with that?

 

Ah. I think we are talking a different type of pissed.

[SRF]

7 hours ago, kiddo76 said:

and that the $500 was a NRD.

 

You do realize that only $100 per person is non-refundable.

[K32682]

Question to the OP:  Are you recently married and not know before what these people are like?   People typically do not undergo radical personality changes once they get on a cruise ship.  Jerks on board are usually jerks on land.  Were the signs not evident? 

[Lois R]

I sail on my own....and after reading this thread, I am glad I do.

 

To the Original poster, your in-laws sound like unhappy people...….quite sad really.  If the small things upset them

so much? I wonder what something really bad would do...…..

[vacationlover_mn]

Sending you positive thoughts and prayers 🙂

[vacationlover_mn]

1 hour ago, K32682 said:

Question to the OP:  Are you recently married and not know before what these people are like?   People typically do not undergo radical personality changes once they get on a cruise ship.  Jerks on board are usually jerks on land.  Were the signs not evident? 

You know what’s funny?  On land, my in-laws are super annoying.  However, we did a family cruise with them and it was awesome!  However, I think it helped that we did our own thing during the day, and only got together at nights, for dinner and a show.

 

The only annoying this is that they told everyone that they were “taking us on a cruise”.  Uh, I planned the entire thing and we paid 100% our own way?  They also say the same thing about the next cruise we went on with them, which I also planned and we paid our own way for.  Sigh.  Also, it was their 1st and third cruise, we had been on cruises before, so it’s not even like they were the “expert cruisers”.

Edited December 20, 2019 by vacationlover_mn

[nascarcruiser]

12 hours ago, matj2000 said:

You go on vacation with your parents or inlaws.

 

Why would you do that in the first place?

 

Heck my significant other is gripping about have his parents ride with to Christmas dinner.  That should be interesting 

[dogs4fun]

19 hours ago, voyager70 said:

We did a cruise years ago with another couple we thought we knew well.  It was their first cruise and their behavior was embarrassing.  By about the third day we were basically trying to hide from them but they somehow always found us.  We made the most of it but agreed - never again. 

This happened to us as well - Med cruise about 5 years ago. Obviously, we did not know the couple as well as we had thought - the woman was a particular PIA. Yep, never again!

I definitely feel for the OP!

[kiddo76]

2 hours ago, SRF said:

 

You do realize that only $100 per person is non-refundable.

We aren't frequent cruisers and had no immediate intentions of taking a cruise ourselves, so a FCC would have been pretty useless for us. Plus, drama.

[kiddo76]

2 hours ago, K32682 said:

Question to the OP:  Are you recently married and not know before what these people are like?   People typically do not undergo radical personality changes once they get on a cruise ship.  Jerks on board are usually jerks on land.  Were the signs not evident? 

We've been married 17 years, together for 21. They have morphed into "Those People" over time. Even my DH is completely baffled by their behavior. He keeps saying that his parents never would have let him get away with the stuff they are trying.

[K32682]

37 minutes ago, kiddo76 said:

We've been married 17 years, together for 21. They have morphed into "Those People" over time. Even my DH is completely baffled by their behavior. He keeps saying that his parents never would have let him get away with the stuff they are trying.

 

Is it your husband who is putting the pressure on?  I had a similar situation years ago when my wife was pressuring me to go on a "family" cruise.  The prospect of being on a cruise ship for any length of time with my father-in-law was unappealing so not only did I pass I paid for her single supplement.  It was money well spent. 

[iancal]

There is an easy fix to this in the future   Choose not to travel with them again. 

 

Vacation time and vacation dollars can sometimes be challenging to come by. Why on earth torture yourself?  Not wanting to vacation with the in laws from hell does not mean that family is not important to you or that you do not love them.  It just means that you have come to your senses and understand how to best deal with family  for your own sake and theirs.

 

Why be a martyr?

 

 

[VMax1700]

@kiddo76  All we are getting is your side of the story........how about posting your in laws' side of the story???????

 

(only joking!)

😉😭

[VennDiagram]

You have my sincere sympathy @kiddo76 . One of my long time friends has become one of --those people--.  We no longer travel together.  About 10 years ago I had a momentary but sincere urge to kill her, and that's when I stopped sharing a cabin with her 😉 After our last cruise together, in separate cabins, I knew I could no longer travel with who she became the instant she got onto a ship.  

[sanger727]

Wow. I travel with very few people and those post makes me glad for that. I"m always surprised by the people who book cruises with the idea that they will decide who they go with later. I don't have enough people in my life that I would want to bunk in a cramped room with for a week for that to be a difficult decision 😉 .

 

One of the people I travel frequently with is my stepmother. She is lucky enough to have a very large travel budget and travels with many many people in her life. And I've heard some horror stories from her. She finally decided she would never travel with one friend again....after they went on a cruise together and nearly got thrown off the ship. the friend was smoking in a non-smoking area. A ship's officer approached her and told her she couldn't smoke there. And she threw her drink at him. Security was called, not sure how she didn't get tossed off but she didn't.

 

 

[pcur]

19 hours ago, John&LaLa said:

 

Are you aware that the noro virus room service diet is akin to hospital food🤣🤣

 

Your not getting wings and quesadillas 😉

I would tell "Those People" I had it, not the ship's crew.  They would just think I wanted to binge-watch movies!  😁

[parrotfeathers]

12 minutes ago, VennDiagram said:

 One of my long time friends has become one of --those people--.  We no longer travel together.  About 10 years ago I had a momentary but sincere urge to kill her, and that's when I stopped sharing a cabin with her 😉 After our last cruise together, in separate cabins, I knew I could no longer travel with who she became the instant she got onto a ship.  

 

Yes.  Hard for some people to understand what you are saying--but I've been there--found out we really weren't as close as I thought.  They definitely are the same people onshore as someone else pointed out, but the close confines of the ship makes it much clearer.

 

[davekathy]

Phew! Based on the title of the thread I thought the OP was going to post a picture of me.